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My New Girlfriend...


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Guest Donna Jean

I work in a small company..7 of us including the boss...

All guys except the girl in the office (and me, of course...)

I have two Face Book pages.....One for Don and one for Donna Jean...

Don and Dee Jay talk back and forth on each others pages...

Well, Tami (the other girl in the office) and her husband looked up Don's Face Book page...

Last night I got this message from her.....

Don na,

Hi, I've been wrestling with this for quite some time. I've known for a while and I feel like I'm lying to you not telling you that I know. I just want you to know I'm ok with you, whoever you choose to be in your life. I value your friendship.

I realized something was going on a little over a year ago. I started noticing you had smudges of make up under your eyes on Monday mornings. Then a few months ago Wayne and I found Don on FB and of course that led to finding you too. I almost sent you a friend request, but I didn't want to possibly cause you any problems. I don't want you to feel awkward around me... IT'S OK!!!! We accept you for who you are, and we hope that you are not offended by this message.

Have a nice weekend and I'll see you Monday.

Love,

Your Friend,

Tami

I cried a lot....

I was thinking of taking her out to lunch and telling her...

I guess that I'll bring her some flowers...

I'm floating on air....

Donna Jean

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Another successful 'outing' for our resident DJ!

Great news, another natal girlfriend for one of our members.

She saved you the price of a lunch and a hard time trying to figure out just how to put it.

Does it seem like coming out is just way too easy for Donna Jean?

Well, life has its little ways of compensations - she lives just five miles from the center of nowhere.

I LOVE YOU,

Sally

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Dee Jay that is very cool. It also shows how more observant women are than men. Although it is scary in that you have to be very careful to make sure you totally pass in male mode.

Love Susan

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Guest BeckyTG

Sweet Girlfriend,

I hope this turns out to be a good thing for you. It's wonderful to have natal girl friends and it seems so natural to spend time with them and share feelings and experiences. I think you should take her to lunch, anyway. :)

I will also take this opportunity for brief public service announcement: Don't put anything up anywhere on the web, especially Facebook, that you wouldn't be willing to run in your local newspaper. Thank you. And now back to our regular programming....

I am so happy for you, Donna Jean. It's about time for some real joy in your life. Open up to life and breathe it in.

Love and encouragement,

Becky

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Guest Chandra

I'm so happy for you Donna Jean

Acceptance in this way from one of your co workers is priceless.

sounds like Tami's got a good head on here shoulders and realizes the person she worked with and liked is

still there. Congratulations this is sure to make your time at work much more enjoyable

Love, Chandra

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Guest Donna Jean

Dee Jay that is very cool. It also shows how more observant women are than men. Although it is scary in that you have to be very careful to make sure you totally pass in male mode.

Love Susan

Susan....

That's the funny part...I don't try very hard at all for "male mode"...

I wear girl jeans..

2 necklaces

4 rings..

2 earrings..

2 bangle bracelets...

A silver ankle bracelet on the outside of my sock (trouser socks..knee high)..

Long hair in a ponytail..

Mascara and some face powder..

Actually, I'm practically begging to be outed...

Donna Jean

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Dee Jay,

Girlfriend you made my day :) and gave me tears of joy, those that have to lead that double life think they are fooling people, but if one is observant and notice things, like not getting all the makeup off like Tami did you are really not fooling anyone, my guess is she is not the only one to notice things, the guys are more observant than you think they are, they just do not say anything, i think you said several were around when a customer ma'am'd you.

Last June i was not officially out to everyone, went with my good friends husband to practice for a charity golf outing, i got ma'am'd several times, he said nothing so i thought he did not hear it, fathers day my friend invited me to lunch with both of them, he told me he did hear them ma'am me but did not say anything, and he is not the brightest person around, when i came out several said they noticed things but did not want to say anything to offend me.

The genie is starting to come out of the bottle and you know what that means.

Paula

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Dee Jay, that is really wonderful news, hon. You and I were just talking about how much it means to have "real" girlfriends that you can hug and talk to face to face, people who know and understand and accept you. And now this. :D

Perhaps she will be your first GG girlfriend, hon. Even if not, she obviously cares about you, respects you and your privacy, and wants to remain friends, in whatever capacity she can. You really can't ask for more than that, can you?

I think this is what you were hoping for hon, whether you admit it to yourself or not. By putting up both FB pages and linking them, it was bound to happen, and you know that. Hey, whatever works, right? By whatever means is necessary to achieve success, that is what is important. It couldn't have worked out any better.

Now, go and make those lunch plans, hon. Have a great time with your new GF! :)

Love

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Donna Jean

I was already at work this morning when she came in ...I'm on salary and she's hourly so she punches a time clock..

I was explaining something one of the guys when she walked past us...

We both had a smile for each other and winked!

She was a little nervous to ask me anything..I sat down with her and told her that it's ok for her to ask me anything...I'm not bashful about it..

The rest of the day it was trips to each other's office for chat...She asked me a lot and I answered everything!

We have girl secrets now...

And each other....

It's wonderful having this kind of a girlfriend....

Donna Jean

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Guest Emily Ray

Oh Donna Jean! What a sweet letter. I can imagine the tears that came. You are special and deserve to have friends like this in your life.

Huggs,

Emily

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That's just wonderful, Dee Jay. I could not be happier for you. :D

Someone who knows you, and accepts you, and cares about you. All within reach of a hug.

GRAND!

Love

Carolyn Marie

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Guest i is Sam :-)

That's great DJ.

sooo since you've been wanting to come out at work for months, and have been told to take it slow, are you gonna use this as an excuse to out yourself and be done with it once and for all? Isn't work it for you? like the only reason you aren't full time?

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Hi Dee Jay !

Sure nice to hear that you have a friend who accepts you for who you are! Its wonderful to have someone who understands and accepts on a multitude of levels.

Hugs!

Opal

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Guest Donna Jean

Thats way more interesting than how I get outed, why cant people stop touching my chest...

Honey....why are people touching your chest?

Donna Jean

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Guest sarah f

Thats way more interesting than how I get outed, why cant people stop touching my chest...

I have to agree with Dee Jay in why are people touching your breasts? That is sexual harrasment regardless of your gender.

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Guest Donna Jean

Small update:

Today she came in and brought me a flower from her gaden...beautiful...

It's in a cup of water on my desk and smells wonderful.....

I could get used to this...

Donna Jean

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Guest SouthernBelle

Small update:

Today she came in and brought me a flower from her gaden...beautiful...

It's in a cup of water on my desk and smells wonderful.....

I could get used to this...

Donna Jean

Kudos!

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Small update:

Today she came in and brought me a flower from her gaden...beautiful...

It's in a cup of water on my desk and smells wonderful.....

I could get used to this...

Donna Jean

So sweet. I bet it made you tear up too!

Sweet Dee Jay-you deserve flowers every day.

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Love Ya

JJ

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