Venting

[Guest SouthernBelle]

I'm out to my whole family (not sure about the extended family), a number of my friends, and... only God knows who else.

Things have erupted and gone to hell. My dad cut me off monetarily and won't talk to me. He's being a retarded child. He's trying to make me a man. And, now, when I start making intelligent decisions and living successfully, he's going to think it is all because he was right by giving me a dose of tough love. I don't need tough love right now. I need real love and how about a dose of support?

My younger brother and his fiancé who both seemed very cool about things at first have become very distant. My older brother tells me that my younger brother's fiancé is angry with me about something (he didn't tell me what). My older brother also says that he WAS angry with me (won't tell me what about). My mom does not seem angry, but who knows with her.

OK, so my mom is actually seeming to be really cool... I'm just saying that I can't know for sure. My whole family is treating me like an outcast. Even my older brother and mom who both seem to be on my side are having secret conversations with the rest of my family and I have no idea what the heck is going on.

I'm so angry with my family!! I almost don't care anymore that this is all hard on them!!! WHAT ABOUT ME?!?!?!?!

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Guest Donna Jean]

I'm so angry with my family!! I almost don't care anymore that this is all hard on them!!! WHAT ABOUT ME?!?!?!?!

UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!

And don't you forget that, Belle! What about YOU?

This whole thing is not about their life and how comfortable or uncomfortable it all makes them...This is your life and your decisions...

You're an adult and if you wanted to paint yourself green, it matters to no one but YOU!

Hang in there, Sweet girl.....

LOVE & HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I tole ya you'd like Dee Jay! She gives the very best advice!

It's really about you! And the family will - or will not - come around. What matters is they see you become a complete and happy person!

So don't give up on them, but learn to not DEPEND on them! I agree, when we need their loving support and love, like a snake, the shed their skin and become poisonous! Damnnedest thing! I HATE THAT! Your family is sooooooo warped by society's view about us - they can become a real henderance.

So we are alone so much - and it's a killer! THAT is why you have us - the people here at Laura's. We KNOW what you are facing - you can ALWAYS find us here for you. ALWAYS...

Sorry it seems so dark for you, Sometimes a part of the process I am sad to say.

Lizzy

[Guest angie]

Welcome to being out,and the drama of those we love

coming to terms with the change in sex.They are having

to make the switch to female.Let the brother,son,nephew,

grandson,they have always known go.That takes time sweety.

You are going to get rejection,refusal to accept the change,

anger,denial.All the early parts of coming to terms with

the fact of you being a woman/girl.All you can do is Be Patient.

Don't get angry,hurt you will be,you can't help that,and just

keep reaching out.As the HRT works it's magic and the inner woman

becomes very evident on the outside,as you continue to take on more

and more female attributes,they will come around.But that will take time.

Warm hugs of understanding,

Angelique