Name And Gender Change

[Guest BeckyTG]

I visited with an attorney yesterday about a name change and a gender change. She explained the process and it's pretty simple in my state.

I need a Doctor to sign a DMV form for gender change stating that I've undergone medical procedures that are "irreversible" to change my gender. Hormones and breasts will qualify, as no pictures, diagrams or detailed explanations are required--just a Doctor Signature.

So, I asked my Doctor recently if she'd eventually be comfortable signing off for me and she said yes. Gulp. So, how soon would you be comfortable and she said tomorrow. She said she could see this was right for me and I wasn't going back. Oh My....

I asked my wife if she was OK with both of these changes and she said OK. I about fainted....

So, for those who've been through this, here's the questions:

Do I get the DMV Gender Change form filled out with my new name beforehand, so I can go from courthouse (after the name-change hearing in front of a judge) straight to DMV and change name and gender marker both at once, or should I get the gender change done today and then in a few months, when the name is official, go back and get that changed? Or, does it matter?

Oh, no, I'm not excited. No, not at all. Gulp

Love,

Becky

[Guest sarah f]

That is wonderful news Becky. I am envious of you and your wife though. I can't even get mine to discuss anything with me. You are almost there now. I can see that green pasture for you that we are all dreaming about. Good Luck with the name and gender change. I hope it goes smoothly for you.

[Guest Opal]

Oh, no, I'm not excited. No, not at all. Gulp

Then why have we been hearing these squeals of delight coming from your direction here in Colorado ???!!!

Thats WONDERFUL news Becky !! We are excited for you too !

Big Hugs,

Opal

[Guest Donna Jean]

OMG, Becky......wonderful!

_{but, scary...}

Please walk us through what happens...OK?

Some here watch for your posts like watching a serial...each episode is fastinating with a cliff hanger....Oh my!

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Guest laura renee]

When I went through mine they were both done in the same court at the same time since they were being done as one petition and it was easier that way for me with the lawyer I had. Once it was granted I just went to the nearest driver's license place and had it done at the same time and just took a new picture for my drivers license and it turned out great( best driver's license picture ever) and look just like girl, lol. I hope yours goes as smoothly without any problems and the judge is a good one.

Laura Renee

[Carolyn Marie]

Becky, I can't offer you any technical advice, but I can wish you all the best with this next stage on your

journey. I know you'll keep us posted.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Paula ult]

Becky hon,

Congrats on taking this really big step, your wife is a gem for being so understanding and suportive.

Last November i was one of the first in Ohio to take advantage of the new regulations by the BMV allowing the gender to be changed on my drivers license, even though they initially said 7 - 10 days, it was almost 6 weeks before i got the letter back from them so i could get my new drivers license, by then i had my name changed and quite a bit of documentation already done before it came and i could finally get my new drivers license with the F on it.

I would apply and send the form in early enough so you get the documentation from the state back before your name change is finalized, everyone knows how the wheels in state agencies grind ever so slowly

I did not use a lawyer as the name change process here in Cuyahoga County is real easy, fill out the online form, take it to the courthouse, filed it with the clerk, paid my $111 set a date and the court did everything else, just showed up on the appointed day, saw the magistrate for maybe no more than a minute or two, she signed the name change document then took it to a judge who signed it, got 5 originals and it was off to start changing my name.

There i an inner peace when everything matches and has the correct marker on it.

HUGS

Paula

[Guest jamiejcmo]

You are so lucky! I live in missouri and filed for name change 2 months ago and still waiting for a court date. Missouri law states you have to file in the county in which you live. So far it has cost me 1000.00 dollars for the attorney and court cost. I live in a rural county( called Little Dixie) and the judges keep excusing themselves from the case. None of them want to be the one who signes the trans persons name change. My attorney told me there are 5 judges and the last one will get the case. I've been thru 3 as of now. The attorney says they will have to do it, it will just be a matter of time. I ahve also been told that the gender cannot be changed without surgery letter in Missouri. I hate Missouri