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Guest jamiejcmo

I fianally got my name changed. It only took a lawyer and $1100.00 in rural MO. In Missouri you file in the county you live in and must have lived there 90 days prior( I lived here 33 years)and give a reason why you want it changed. Sounds simple enough. The courthouse in my county said they do not have a standard form and you have to get an attorney to draw one up. Ok, I filed all the paperwork,paid the fees and then waited for a court date. 2 months later the attorney said that none of the judges would hear it and kept moving it from one to another intil they finally got a lady judge from the next county to hear it. My attorney and I showed up(me dressed female) and the judge asked me if this change would harm anyone or if I was avoiding debt collectors. I said no to both and she smiled and said you may take a seat and it was done. Didn't take 10 min. Figures you have to get a woman to get something done. LOL! She was nice and my papers even state "name change due to gender reasignment". So much for the good ol boys club, this judge was great and very respectful....more female judges please.

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Congrats, hon! That's wonderful that you got it accomplished, a travesty that you had to jump through so many hoops to get there.

Next election, I know which judges you won;t be voting for. ;)

Carolyn Marie

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Guest BeckyTG

Wow! That's great news. Your victory shows the value and need for persistence. You just have to be patient and stay focused on your goal.

I'm very proud of you. I'd read earlier posts of yours regarding your frustration with the difficulties getting this done in your area. I know this was difficult and I know those in authority wanted this to go away. You showed them you're not going away--you're here to stay.

Congratulations, fine Lady.

Becky

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Guest jamiejcmo

Thanks ladies. It was a bump in the road, but now things can get moving again. I gave my court order to work and now all they need is a letter from my psyc. and then 3 weeks notice then it's full-time finally. I got the appt with my psyc this Friday so hopefully by Labor Day I can get on with my life. YEA! For what its worth, when I went to court last week I went with a long cotton kahki skirt, blue top, and blue flats. I was trying to be conservative but obvious and it must have worked because I was walking around the halls of the courthouse and reading bulletin boards in the hall ways while waiting for court to start and at least 20 people in this very small town passed me and never took a second look. When i got back to work I changed in a friends office and a couple of girls in the office saw me sneek in. They wanted to know where I got the skirt.LOL Thank you to all the support. Jamie

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Guest barton

Congrats!

It only took a lawyer and $1100.00 in rural MO.

$1100?!

Holy ****.

I hope that isn't the case state wide, otherwise I think I better start saving now. Wow.

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Guest sarah f

I am glad that you were persistant and got your name changed. It only took a woman to be understanding enough to help you out. Those men should be removed from their jobs if it came out they wouldn't do it because you were trans. I am sorry but that is just not right.

I can't believe they charge someone $1100 dollars just to change their name. Wow they are really taking it to you.

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Guest Donna Jean

Jamie....

I find it unusal that they don't have a standard "Name change form" ....

Many women change back to their maiden names after a divorce...

Obviously it's a moot point for you now...

I just found it strange....

Gratz on the change.

And be sure to keep us updated....OK?

Huggs

Donnas Jean

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Guest Janis

I find it unusal that they don't have a standard "Name change form" ....

Many women change back to their maiden names after a divorce...

Donna,

If Missouri is anything like Pennsylvania name change due to divorce is a completely different entity. Not trying to hijack the thread but for a divorce name change back to maiden name a woman just needs to show her divorce decree at DMV, SSA, etc. and it is done! From what I am told that change cost nothing, other than the initial divorce costs.

Also Congrats Jamie, on finally getting you name change completed!

Janis

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey, Janis!

Thanks for the info....I had no idea that it worked like that!

That is good info to keep in mind...

Thanks for the input!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest Sam_P

Glad to hear that you finally managed to wrangle the system into working for you! Sounds like the wait was slightly worthwhile if it ended up with you getting such a helpful and friendly judge. Enjoy your legal new name! ^_^

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Guest jamiejcmo

Yes, the cost of the attorney was $500 and the other$600 was court fees and paperwork. Oh and the newspaper fee of $76.00 for posting it in the local paper once a week for 4 weeks as required by Mo law.

The name change thing for women is the same as PA. free when getting married or divorced.( for last name only).

Tell me about it, I work for state government and make less than 30,000 a year after 23 years. The court fees sure do not get back to employees.

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Guest Sam_P

Oh and the newspaper fee of $76.00 for posting it in the local paper once a week for 4 weeks as required by Mo law.

Ouch! The law requires you to essentially out yourself to the whole local area? :blink:

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