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Today while I was in the car, a guy on the radio came on a started talking about about transsexuals and LGBTs and stuff. The real thing he was talking about was how these LGBT people say they aren't being protected by the government or receiving the proper civil rights. And the things he was saying do make a lot of sense actually. First, he said that while LGBTs may be the target of physical persecution (hate crimes, beatings, etc), the government can't really do anything, but send the person to jail. He said that would happen to anyone who did the crime. The government can't stop people from disliking LGBTs, so the government is doing all it can to protect LGBTs. Then he moved on to talk about civil rights. He basically said that an LGBT person has the same exact rights as any straight person. The government can't take any rights away from you, because you're LGBT.

He wrapped it up by saying that LGBTs maybe be disliked and not supported or accepted in society, but it's not the government's problem. LGBTs are getting their rights, and I quote "they just need to shut up and sit down and be happy with the same rights everyone else has. At least the military hasn't gone out and executed them."

I kinda agree with him that LGBTs have the same rights, but maybe there's something I'm missing. I don't know.

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Guest dolly

actually, no. we dont.

there are still quite a few states that do not protects glbt community members from hate based crimes including the state i live in as well as protect our rights to employmet meaning you can be fired for being openly gay or lesbian or transgendered. and to make things worse, the us government,specifically the democratic party just recently a few monhs back put up a bill to protect glbt members from hate crimes and wrongful termintaion as an addon to a bill they knew would get shot down in the senate.

but if you agree with him thats fine.

i dont.

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Guest Leah1026

You're missing the obvious: Marriage equality.

Others: Employment discrimination, housing discrimination, insurance discrimination to name a few.

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Guest Leah1026

And I forgot to explain that even people born transsexual that are straight need marriage equality. There have been a few cases where state governments have declared a legal marriage null and void based on the gender assigned at birth! Cisgendered foflks don't have any such worries.

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Guest Snow Angel
There have been a few cases where state governments have declared a legal marriage null and void based on the gender assigned at birth!

That is the most stupid thing I have ever heard. What the hell is wrong with people?

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You're missing the obvious: Marriage equality.

Others: Employment discrimination, housing discrimination, insurance discrimination to name a few.

I'd like to expand on that if I may. Of the thousands of emails I've received many have been the victims in the topics listed in the Quote above. We aren't talking a handfull of incidents here. The numbers are in the high hundreds of thousands. Let's say you decided to transition and dress the part. After your landlord spots you he tacks an eviction notice to your door. Believe it or not this is legal in most states. If you don't pass 100%, good luck getting another apartment. Another scenario: You have a great job and good income and decided to transition on the job. Unless you have a job with a fortune 500 company there is a 90% chance you will be fired. After years of stellar reviews your boss suddenly says your performance is subpar. Transsexualism is a medical condition with a medical surgical solution. Yet it is the only medical condition not covered by insurance. Then there is violence which is epidemic against our community. We 've had several FTM's raped here just like the movie on Brandon Teena's life. MTF's have been severaly beaten and killed. So are effeminate Gay's. Try peeing if you don't pass in a public restroom. Talk about cruel and unusual punishment even when it's not a crime.

Percentage wise transgenders are the group most discriminated against by far. The FBI does not even keep statistics on crimes against us. It's like the government saying "It's ok! Nail a transgender, it won't count". We have a 70% unemployment rate, a 50% transsexual suicide attempt rate by age 20* and I couldn't even guess the percentage of those on the streets because they don't have computers to report to us that they are homeless, pennieless and hungry. Many are turned away from homeless shelters. Some turn to prostitution because it is the only way out. Try transitioning in a government office and you'll learn first hand of their discrimnatory hiring practices. You will never get a security clearance. Some Transgenders calling Government sanctioned suicide prevention hotlines have been hung up on for stating they were transgender or Gay. They never called emergency services leaving people to bleed to death or worse. IN addition several were refused treatment by EMT's because they were transgender. If we were any other group with numbers like these the public and even the government would be outraged. Notice that they are not. When Veterans of the 2 wars going on now had an increse of a few percentage points in their suicide rate the public and the government demanded action. People were outraged. Note that 55% of our transgender users are veterans here. Where's the outcry for them? While some get treatment in VA facilities many will not until after SRS.

The discrimination against us is not just from the public it is from and by our own Government. If you've changed your name the government insists your gender marker not be changed until you have bottom surgery or SRS. What if you can't afford it or your health doesn't permit it? What if you are FTM and don't want sub-standard surgery? This means that everytime you show your ID or write a check that the salesclerk or airport security can "OUT" you. This has already happened to hundreds of thousands of us. In several instances store employees used the public intercom to OUT us. LGB's do not have these problems. These are not just civil rights violations they are "Human Rights Violations. Most of the public wouldn't treat their dogs or pet rodents this way.

MY email is confidential, though for moments like this I wish it weren't. I get a thousand Transgender Horror stories a day. Now multiply that times 4 years (1,460,000) and you get an idea how often this is occurring to those in our community. All I can do is give you a general idea of what is happening out there. I can't tell their stories because it is privledged information. I am appealing though to those that wrote to tell your stories here where you will get support. Writing is very therapeutic. If you've had violence or discrimination committed against you please post here and let the world know what's been done to you. Now is the time to speak up.

Transgender ten year old committs suicide. http://www.tsroadmap.com/notes/index.php/s...ommits_suicide/ .

Laura

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Guest KellyGirl

Well,very true. I'm not confident in myself...somtimes my feelings are so strong I can't funtion...somtimes it feels like a little knot in my stomch and I brush it off... it times like that where I think "things are so bad...would I be better off not being myself?" would I be better to look for love and a career and a family and all those things while I compltly throw away any oputunity to have a proper sense of self? the Gov is screwed up, plain and simple...I have a great distaste for republicans being that they are now assoicated with the bible thumping agenda, not that I don't approve of religon...but people claiming to be "christ like" sure do act in some pretty hateful ways. as Laura said Democrats arn't helping us either...third party anyone? heh.

We are a gov ran by the people....if they gov dosn't help us. it's partly an extension of the fact the people at large don't care. but I'm not ignorant...I know the Goverment lies.... but...

What Laura said is the truth though. we need to speak up if we expect anyone to listen. it's scary but it must be done... it's our world for the making.

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The Government teaches the public to discriminate against us by their actions. Look at a Gay member of the House of Representatives Barney Frank and HRC ("Human Rights Campaign) who should know better. They encourage open discrimination against Transgender persons. Who has more homeless on the street, us or LGB's? Are LGB's denied medical coverage? Excluding us from LGB protections is not only a shame it is a "Moral Hate Crime". The Bible thumpers for "Jesus" in power seem to overlook that. How many more of us have to die in "Jesus" name because they misheard his message? If He were hear I'd bet he'd be on our side. The Transgender death toll is HUGE. It is not only suicides and violence it is also from medical complications to transgender people that cannot go to doctors because they are not covered or are afraid of rejection. They get hormones on the street or the internet without being monitored by doctors. They are from liquid silicone injections and some from hunger. It is clear that by ignoring our issues and problems that if all our dead were ever actually counted the number would be staggering. What do you call it when millions in one group is caused to die or are killed? Where I'm from some would call that genocide.

These forums are widley read. You are right so far only a handful has spoken up when there are 4 million of us with stories to tell. Posts here have a very long life. It's a record of what is really happening to us even though it's anonymous here. If enough of us talk, someday someone will hear us.

Laura

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Guest Rev. Michal

I've had a murder attempt, homo and transphobic things shouted at me, and even just had people flat-out tell me that I am what I was born as and that nothing will change that, and that I should be happy with it.

I long ago discarded the notion of suicide, I don't want to traumatize the person who finds me dead, or the person whose car I jump in front of, or the people who see me jump off a tall building, or my brains splattered all over the wall.

Suicide is more than a self-destructive act, it destroys the people around you, even the ones who don't know you from Adam (or Eve, as the case may be). It ain't pretty, but suicide is the most ultimately selfish act that I can think of. It's the last, loudest "screw you" that anyone can shout, and that last shout is always muffled because nobody wants to hear that we're suffering, suffering in these roles forced upon us from birth, suffering in our bodies, hating ourselves because of what we've been taught, fearing beatings, rape, murder, homelessness, poverty, fearing our families saying the worst thing possible to say to their children: "I hate you for what you are".

Having to hide our identities, having to pretend for years and years because we don't even feel safe to talk to our families because until we reach the legal majority, we're stuck with them whether things turn out well or poorly, numbing the pain with drink or drugs or sex.

We are the hidden victims in this world, this world that just wants to sweep us under the carpet and pretend we never existed. We are the bodies under the floorboards that don't make the news, we are the suicide notes that are not read, ours are the scars that no one wants to see, ours is the pain that no one will hear or understand until they see us, our faces, talk and listen to us, not until we are more than an abstract. Right now, we're not really real. Not to them, they may see us passing in the street, or at Pride or Maury or wherever, but we're not really real until they know us and see us bleed inside, until they know what we go through.

Until we touch their hearts.

Don't Shoot the Messenger.

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Guest Mr. Fox

Everybody on here has good points. As for hate crime till, I don't think they should be passed. When reading that sentence, it sounds evil, but think about it. The person still gets punished under current law for the crime they have committed. All that is being punished is the thought behind it, and people have the right to think what they want. So basically hate crime bills create the concept of thought crime.

However, that doesn't mean that the government is doing all it can, oh no. Gays (and sometimes straights) still can't marry, you can legally be fired for transitioning, policemen rape transwomen, the EMS stop giving medical care and start laughing when they realize a woman has a penis, the list goes on and on and on.

Adrian

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Guest Zenda

Kia Ora Blackkaten,

Research was carried both in the UK and the US a while ago into the psyche of racially prejudice people…What I found most interesting reading the research[it was an old psychology book I found in a secondhand shop] was when the US government passed the anti discrimination law back in the early 1960’ [related to the civil rights movement] prejudice was a ‘common’ practice with most white Americans-not only in the deep south…

Anyway what happened was people when faced with ‘having’ to allow an African American into their motels, hotels, shops etc, started to question their deep held prejudices about black people, after time this prejudice soften a little turning into ‘tolerance’ after more time had past this tolerance turned into acceptance for many… Sadly there’s always exceptions to the rule-hard core KKK minded people are somewhat ‘mentally challenged’ lacking key ingredients -empathy compassion and acceptance that makes one ‘human/humane…Even passing this law the government knew with the likes of the KKK minded people…One can’t argue with a sick mind- one just had to wait it out and hope for the best!!!

Well what the psychologists found was: If ‘normal’ people[people whose prejudices are borderline-most people fit into this catagory] are faced with a new law that they dislike and for some reason can’t change …their ‘attitude’ changes somewhat [they adapt their way of thinking] and start to ‘conform’ to what is the ‘norm’…We humans like our cousin the rat[very adaptable mammals] are creatures of habit-we like conformity and will if necessary adapt our way of thinking to accommodate our circumstance …adapting to the situation we find ourselves in…It won’t happen over night but it will happen!!!

Just an after-thought…Remember Blackkaten…‘trans-phobia‘ comes in all shapes forms and sizes and is not just felt by cisgender people…many closeted trans-people don’t realize they are suffering from IT too… They constantly seek out ways to mask what they feel inside[including finding agreement with those who candy-coat their hate speech somewhat to make it sound that they are ‘good’ compassionate, understanding people-‘love the sinner but not the sin’ type of people ] all the while the IT trans-person is hoping that one day these feelings will go away-sadly for most this is not the case the feelings just get stronger and stronger…Many trans-people especially growing up in religious and or macho communities are prone to bouts of internalised trans-phobia![Remember what I said about our desire to ‘conform’ to/with the norm!]

The moral of this somewhat drawn out tale…Any laws passed in favour of trans-people will if given time, change the attitude of ‘most’ but sadly not all [Remember you can’t argue with a ‘sick’ mind…I think a quote from Joe Walsh] …Umm, ‘Social engineering’ if done right is not such a bad thing after all….

Metta Jendar

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Guest Leah1026
Everybody on here has good points. As for hate crime bill, I don't think they should be passed. When reading that sentence, it sounds evil, but think about it. The person still gets punished under current law for the crime they have committed. All that is being punished is the thought behind it, and people have the right to think what they want. So basically hate crime bills create the concept of thought crime.

I don't agree. The Shepard Hate Crimes Bill would be a de facto recognition from the government that we exist. That is a great improvement from the where we are now, as described by Laura, where they don't even track statistics for us. I also don't agree becuase it will also send a message to other bigots out there that there is a price to pay for turning hateful thoughts into action. I'm not saying this will fix everything, all I'm saying is this is the next step, to have them formerly acknowledge our existence.

We are making progress, but we still have a long, long ways to go. For example I transitioned on the job 2.5 years ago, something that would have been unthinkable just 10 years ago.

What can you do? I do lots of on-line advocacy work, countering all the BS from the bigots out there. I have also testified in my statehouse against insurance exclusions. Not to mention the hundreds of my co-workers who are getting an education, whether they like it or not, in my place of work.

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I don't agree that the bill should be passed. I don't think they should even have punishment for "hate crimes". The real crime is the crime that was committed. In shepard's case it was robbery and murder. So the punishment should be for robbery and murder. The government shouldn't need to go into whether or not he was gay. I think that's unnecessary. It shouldn't be illegal to have your own thoughts. So it should be perfectly legal to dislike gays. But if you use those thoughts to create an action, you should be punished for that action.

As for discrimination, similarly, if a person doesn't like gays, he has the right to not like gays. Or transsexuals. Or anyone. And if he has a good reason for why a gay/trans/anyone shouldn't work for him, then I think it's fine for him to not allow those people to work for him. There needs to be a reason behind. More than just I don't like you.

I'm not trying to say discrimination is right. I'm just think that the actual crimes should be considered illegal, not the thoughts behind them.

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Guest Leah1026

Blackie,

I don't think you understand the nature of these crimes. They are senseless, brutal killings. Matthew Shepard was dragged behind a pick-up truck into the country and tied to some fence posts and left to die. And why? Because he was gay.

The Gwen Araujo case was particularly heinous. These guys suspected Gwen was anatomically male and sent another girl into the bathroom to find out. She told them what she saw. They proceeded to torture Gwen for several hours before killing her. Then they drove her body a couple hours away and buried her in the Sierra Neveda. It was an open and shut case right? Wrong. The first trial they used the "gay panic defense" (since made illegal) and the jury couldn't reach a verdict. While awaiting retrial one guy ratted on the other two and yet one guy, the probable killer, got off again. The other two were convicted, but NOT for murder! They got manslaughter. Manslaughter for premeditated murder! And the story gets better, the jury said it wasn't a hate crime! Oh my goodness? How was that NOT a hate crime? The law in California has been changed to hopefully prevent any future miscarriages of justice.

My point is many crimes in which we are the victims aren't normal crimes. They tend to be a lot more brutal. I heard of a case in Alabama where the girl was beat to death, her body dismembered and later burned. Does that sound like a normal murder to you? Hate crimes legislation will give us recognition as human beings, because frankly we are NOT being treated as such now. The message the public gets from the government, media and local law enforcement is that we are expendable. The Shepard Hate Crimes bill would allow the family, or other concerned parties, to call in the Feds to investigate a crime that may be getting swept under the rug by local law enforcement. We are being denied our basic civil rights and something must be done. It would be nice if Hate Crimes legiislation wasn't needed, but it clearly is.

And don't even get me started on how we are treated in jail by the system when we get convicted......

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Re: blackkatsen

In a perfect world, I would agree with you; however, that's not our world. I think there are two issues with hate crimes. The first revolving around speech. For example: if you are a black man or woman and awoke to find a burning cross in your front yard, what is the crime at it's core? It's littering, arson, and trespass. Assuming the perpetrator is found and convicted, what's the worst punishment they will get? Probably a couple weeks in jail (at the worst) but does that relate to the anguish your family experienced? No, because the statement of that burning cross is "We hate you. We're watching you, and when you least expect it we're going to kill you." Imagine wondering every day whether your house will be burned down with you and your family in it? You won't feel safe until you sell your house, move, and find another job, which can be an extreme burden for many people. So with that in mind, a hate crime bill adds an additional crime to that list (littering, arson, trespass, and hate crime) effectively promoting it to a higher class of severity resulting in a greater penalty, which is more in line with the actual suffering it caused.

The second issue deals with hate crimes involving beating, torture, or murder, which already have well established codes and punishments scaled to fit the severity of those crimes. Normally established laws should be effective enough with handling those cases but it's not. In every one of those cases involving an LGBT victim, the perpetrator can merely say "He or she made a pass at me and I panicked". The panic defense. Regardless of the circumstances, the persons involved, or the ridiculousness of the claim, the defendant can always make that case and when presented to a jury, it will always be a he said/she said case, so most of the time those offenders walk with either no sentence or an extremely reduced sentence. All because of that panic defense. In this situation, a hate crime bill would patch that loophole and force the courts to add additional sentencing to that offender, no matter what he claimed. Panic or not.

Lastly, there is another matter. We know a hate crimes bill would elevate the severity of a crime based on the fact race, orientation, or gender identity were motives and that some people object to a hate crime bill because it's unfair to consider one murder more important than another murder. My response to that is we have already done so. We have legal code that classifies levels of murder (or killing) and associates with those different punishments. Most states distinguish between murder 1 and murder 2, and I know at least one state recognizes murder 3. And then throw on top of those mitigating circumstances and manslaughter distinctions. All of these are charges of murder or killing, but feature different levels of punishment. A hate crime bill merely adds another level of distinction. No different than current procedures, in my opinion.

For those reasons, I support a hate crimes bill because it patches a broken legal system. Of course, I'm certainly not a lawyer or knowledgeable about law, but that pretty sums up my opinion.

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  • Root Admin

Any crime commited with malice aforethought toward any individual because of their lifestyle, beliefs, sexual identity or whatever, is a crime no matter how you look at it. These crimes are happening because of what they are, not in spite of what they are. So yes, we need laws to protect us from these slime testicles. I'm a firm believer in the death penalty BTW

MaryEllen :angry:

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Guest Rev. Michal

It's the difference between committing a crime because of who/] the victim is, and what the victim is. If someone hates you for who you are, that's just because they don't like you. If they hate you for what you are, it's definitely persecution. Things under the heading of "persecution" include but are not limited to, hate crimes, genocide, prejudice and discrimination.

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I'm a firm believer in the death penalty BTW

MaryEllen :angry:

i've got to agree with you here, MaryEllen, some people just don't respect the value of human life...so they should pay the price...sounds harsh, but they had it coming.

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Guest dolly
I don't agree. The Shepard Hate Crimes Bill would be a de facto recognition from the government that we exist. That is a great improvement from the where we are now, as described by Laura, where they don't even track statistics for us. I also don't agree becuase it will also send a message to other bigots out there that there is a price to pay for turning hateful thoughts into action. I'm not saying this will fix everything, all I'm saying is this is the next step, to have them formerly acknowledge our existence.

We are making progress, but we still have a long, long ways to go. For example I transitioned on the job 2.5 years ago, something that would have been unthinkable just 10 years ago.

What can you do? I do lots of on-line advocacy work, countering all the BS from the bigots out there. I have also testified in my statehouse against insurance exclusions. Not to mention the hundreds of my co-workers who are getting an education, whether they like it or not, in my place of work.

thank you! thats the bill i was talking about! i couldnt remember the name of it but the democratic side of the senate slapped it on as pork to another bill that they knew wasnt gonna pass a few months back. i just couldnt remember the nam. i have terrible short term memory. and the whole reason transgenders should be protected under a hate crimes bill is because yes, it is a crime when someone does something to another person no matter what they are or who they sleep with or who they pray to but there are certain groups of people that the mass society dont feel as bad towards it happening to. we're stigmatised with the orrible horrble stereotypes that they put tansgenders and gays and lesbians into every day. im prety certain to wager tht over 75% of the american public in general still sees us all as "choosing" to be what we are and no mtter how much science or medical facs you throw intheir face theyre not gonna care or listen. theyre on autopilot.

its like that scene in the movie the jackal, te gay and lesbian actors group thingy was big time up in arms about the scene where bruce willis just shoots the gay guy he was mooching off of cus over half the audience applauded with enthusiasm so they had to work in the news footage into the scene

anyways the reason we should be protected under a hate crimes bill isnt so much so that someone who commits a crime against us serves a harsher sentence, its so that society will finally get it into their thick skulls thats its not okay to do it. its not okay to fire us cus we dont fit a mold or kick us out of our houses for the same reason. its not that we want to be treated special, we just dont wanna end up beng on the backpage of a newspaper where nobody cares if a little 18 year old florida mtf was shot to death by her father who just got out of prison and found out.

we dont wanna be dfferent, we wanna be the same and right now, we're not to societies eyes and maybe making society turn around and take a look at whats going on and really showng them whats happening will change that.

i hope that made sense. sorry for rambling

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Guest Mr. Fox
Re: blackkatsen

In a perfect world, I would agree with you; however, that's not our world. I think there are two issues with hate crimes. The first revolving around speech. For example: if you are a black man or woman and awoke to find a burning cross in your front yard, what is the crime at it's core? It's littering, arson, and trespass. Assuming the perpetrator is found and convicted, what's the worst punishment they will get? Probably a couple weeks in jail (at the worst) but does that relate to the anguish your family experienced? No, because the statement of that burning cross is "We hate you. We're watching you, and when you least expect it we're going to kill you." Imagine wondering every day whether your house will be burned down with you and your family in it? You won't feel safe until you sell your house, move, and find another job, which can be an extreme burden for many people. So with that in mind, a hate crime bill adds an additional crime to that list (littering, arson, trespass, and hate crime) effectively promoting it to a higher class of severity resulting in a greater penalty, which is more in line with the actual suffering it caused.

Very good point!

Adrian

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I just think that adding hate crime as an actual crime is redundant. Every crime is caused by some sort of dislike or hatred. If you murder someone because he's gay or for some other random reason, you don't like him and don't respect him at all. So being punished for murder should just be enough. Now if the crime is brutal, such as in shepard's case, the punishment should be first degree murder. That's what it is. the definition of 1 deg murder fits it perfectly. so maybe what we need is a better standard on how to charge criminals.

these hate crime laws are special laws for lgbt people. its just an extra punishment. you beat a gay guy, you get charged for beating and hate crime. you beat someone else, you get charged with just beating. getting charged with beating is good enough in both cases.

if you want more support and acceptance for lgbt communities I don't think increasing the penalties by these laws is the right way to do it. it just makes you look like a target. i think what lgbts need to do is really (I mean REALLY) show they're the same/equal as everyone else. Blacks did it, but lgbts haven't.

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you beat a gay guy, you get charged for beating and hate crime. you beat someone else, you get charged with just beating. getting charged with beating is good enough in both cases.

if you beat the guy up just because he was gay then it's a hate crime, there's no logical reason for having done it except out of hate. however, if you beat a gay guy up for some other random reason (eg. he stole something of yours or said something offensive to you) then it's just a beating, there was a motive that would hold up in a court of law (somewhat)...just my opinion

Drew

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Guest Zenda

Kia Ora Blackkatsen,

I don’t know you personally but you come across as somewhat naïve, possibly influenced by ‘right wing’ thinking, especially when it come to LGBT issues [please correct me if I’m wrong], but I take it the environment/community in which you live is predominantly ‘anti’ LGBT rights…

Hate crimes are being committed each day[people being beaten up or killed just because they don’t conform to what others perceives as the norm] most of these hate crimes are going unpunished or perpetrators of such crimes are pleading guilty to lesser charges …When it comes to the Hate crimes bill, I guess some people[even some trans-people] just can’t see the forest for the trees!…Sadly it seems, some never will…

At this present stage in your life you have the luxury of living in a ‘trans-identity concealed comfort zone’ ie, not having to face main stream society’s gauntlet of ridicule, verbal and or abuse…

They say that ‘practical experience is one of life’s best educational tools’… I’ll tell you what…why not put on a dress, make-up and high heels and go to school or walk down the main street of where you live in broad daylight-most importantly just go about doing what you normally do ie, don’t intentionally provoke anyone …then tell me if you think such a bill is unwarranted !!!

Such a bill being passed or not, is not relevant to my personal situations ie, I comfortably blend into main stream society and have not experience hate crimes or hate speech directed at my person plus I live in Aotearoa[NZ]...But I'm fully aware of the suffering of other trans-people at the hands of ignorant people...You Blackkatsen at this present moment in time are in a similar situations to myself ie, able to walk down the street unmolested [both physically and verbally]...but your situation might change for the worse should you openly be yourself in public...Think about it....

Metta Jendar

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      Oops, I did not mean to post that comment yet! I was going to also say, having read a mountain of commentary on the Review, I think Julia Serano’s response (linked by Vicky above) is the most accurate and thorough. You can also read a non-paywalled version at Substack: https://juliaserano.substack.com/p/the-cass-review-wpath-files-and-the   To me the three key areas in which the review is deficient are:   1. As has already been said here, its views on social transition;   2. Its attempts to give credence to the “ROGD” theory (without ever actually mentioning ROGD because presumably a canny editor knows that would be too transparently transphobic);   3. To me, most crucially, its claims about trans youth and suicide, which are dealt with summarily in about five pages and do not stand up to any deeper scrutiny.    I will be writing about each of these issues in isolation over the next few weeks and appearing on a radio show and podcast to discuss them late in the month. I will post links to these on TP later if anyone is interested.   All that said, I actually think it’s dangerous for us to respond with outright vitriol and condemnation to the review since, like any effective piece of disinformation, it does actually contain some factually based and even helpful recommendations. The Tavistock Gender Identity Service really was underfunded and understaffed and certain staff were not adequately trained. Trans kids really were funnelled away from mental-health support once they started gender-affirming care too. So yes, more investment in youth psychology services would help, as would a less centralised model of care, more training in treatment of trans kids, and more research.   One last thing for now: beware the claim that Cass ignored 98% of studies. That’s not strictly true. She seems to have taken other studies into account but leaned heavily on the 2% that met her standards. Nor does she ever claim that only randomised controlled trials are good enough evidence to justify the use of blockers for kids; just as with ROGD, she strongly suggests this, but is too canny to say it, because she knows such trials would be impossible. For now, I think the best response to this comes from the Trans Safety Network: “[…] we believe there to be systemic biases in the ways that the review prioritises speculative and hearsay evidence to advance its own recommendations while using highly stringent evidence standards to exclude empirical and observational data on actual patients. “ (https://transsafety.network/posts/tsn-statement-on-cass-final-report/)   To me, the scariest aspect of all this is that, if it follows Cass’s recommendations, the NHS will very likely follow Finland’s recent model of trans care, which seems to amount to a prolonged form of conversion therapy. I can’t find the link right now, which is probably lucky for anyone reading this, but I bawled my guts out reading the testimonies of kids who had been mistreated by that system. Truly horrific. To me, at least from my Australian perspective, the Cass Review is the most frightening development in trans rights in recent years. To me, the safe care of trans kids is THE number one issue in politics atm.   Ruth Pierce has a good summary of responses from trans folk and their allies sk far: https://ruthpearce.net/2024/04/16/whats-wrong-with-the-cass-review-a-round-up-of-commentary-and-evidence/    
    • Sally Stone
      Welcome to the wide, wild world of transgender, M.A.  It can definitively be overwhelming, but everyone here is amazing, so no doubt you'll get bunches of wonderful support. I think you'll be happy you found us.   
    • Sally Stone
      @Ladypcnj  This is so true.  I think all of us here have had a post or two that didn't get a response.  Sometimes, it's as simple as adding to your original to post for a clearer explanation, or re-reading what you wrote originally, and rephrasing it.  But don't despair, we aren't ignoring you.   Hugs,   Sally 
    • Willow
      So, we left for lunch in our Taos, talked and went to the dealer and came home with the Cadillac.  
    • Betty K
      I have just finished reading the Cass Review, all 380-odd pages of it, and am totally open to questions including via DM if anyone wants more information on it
    • Abigail Genevieve
      What season are you?  If you don't know, look around on the internet. Or ask a girl friend..  Maybe someone here is even a color consultant?   And there are guides on figure-flattering clothes for all shapes that you should look into.    Abby
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Just know that your kids will probably turn out OK, in spite of the chaos.  One of my partners was widowed in her very early 30s, left with 3 kids.  They're teens now, and one graduated a year ago and is working, but still living at home.  A few bumps in the road, but the three are turning into responsible young adults.  It is amazing how resilient kids can be.  They should be able to handle your changes as well.
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Had my time with my 2 long friends I was in the Army with.We went through the photo books and talked memories.They also found about the guy that bullied and sexually assaulted me.He is in prison,sexually assaulted and raped 2 women off base.Doing a 40 year sentence for this and was dishonorable discharged
    • Cindy Lee
      I've been transitioning now for eight months but have been wearing women's clothing for 2+ years. I am over weight and approaching my 72nd birthday. I have purchase my solid color clothing online and recently graduated to 'V' neck tops. I have been hesitant to get anything more girly due to family issues, though with my hair style I am able to totally pass when dressed in a skirt and blouse.   About two  months ago I finally went and got my nails done (which I truly which I had done long ago) though not red nor pink (again family issues). To date I don't think I am having problems with being trans unlike others seem to have. The biggest problem I am having is with my clothing. Any suggestions my girl friends might have would be greatly appreciated.   Cindy
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Umm.... if a post is ignored, live with it?   My stuff gets ignored sometimes, and its OK.  My life is different, and may seem kind of wacky to others.  Some folks just can't relate, or if I'm needing advice they just don't have it.  Diversity is like that sometimes.  If your post gets missed, don't take it personally.  Also, stuff that is new on weekends seems to get ignored more, since most folks are busy with family or other stuff during that time.  Overall, I think people here are pretty helpful. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      I'd really love a professional stove.  There's actually one I want at Lowes, but its like $6k.  I've got plenty of money, the issue is that I'm not the queen (king?) of my den.  Or even of the kitchen.  My partner (husband's wife #1) owns that territory, and she's very attached to what she's got.  One of our stoves has 6 burners and a large oven, the other has 4 burners and a regular household sized oven.  And of course, there's always the wood-burning equipment.    Today was interesting.  We had the first campaign fundraiser for our sheriff and my sister.  My sister is running to be constable of our township.  Pretty sure she'll win, as her opponent is an old dude who is mostly running on "Don't elect a woman for a man's job"    What's weird is our sheriff is running as a Democrat, but he's conservative.  And his Republican opponent sounds like a leftist.  Welcome to Upside-down-ville   And of course all the kids got the chance to sit in a sheriff's car, and play with the lights.   We had a barbecue lunch and a dessert auction.  I baked three apple pies for it, and I was shocked that they sold for $20 each, since my cooking isn't that great.  My partner made her famous "Chocotorta."  It's like a chocolate layer cake with cream cheese, sweetened condensed milk, and it tastes amazing.  Usually we have it for Christmas and other really special occasions.  Two guys got into a bid war, and it sold for $175!!!    Yep, this is politics in the South.  Barbecue, pies, and police cars.  A great way to spend a Saturday
    • Davie
      Yes. That report is part of a conspiracy to torture and murder trans people. It is a lie. It is evil.
    • Ivy
      TBH, I have no idea where to start with makeup.  
    • Ivy
      It seems plain to me, that this thing is simply a cherry-picked excuse to persecute trans people - especially trans youth in the UK.  And it will also be used here in the states to legislate against trans care here as well.   The right wing has already made up their mind about us, and they are just looking for "evidence" to legislate against us.     Seems like if they were really for "freedom" as they claim, they would leave us alone to live in our personal "delusions".   I mean, I have no problem with cis people.  Some of my best friends are cis people.
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