Libido Runnin' On Empty!

[Guest Chrysee]

I realize that young people frequent Laura's and some caution must be exercised in terms of language and (I suppose) topics, and this might be considered and 'after hours' subject, but I could used some input.

Since coming out (and I mean exactly since coming out,) I have had no desires at all. Zero. . .zippo.

Now I have other health issues that have hampered things for sometime, and my girlfriend is a fountain of patience, but c'mon!

I can't believe that I'm the only one out there. . .

Am I?

Chrysalis

P.S. If your answer is 'Yes!', then please don't answer.

[Guest Donna Jean]

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I'm not sure that I'm with you 100%, Hon...

I've been on HRT 20 months and my fires are dead...is that what you're talking about? Are you on HRT?

HUGGS

Donna Jean

[Guest Micha]

I think I get it. . .

In May, when I had my revelation, my drive was low too. Stayed that way for awhile. Dunno if it's stress related or if there was a mental trigger in my subconscious that put physiological changes in motion. Drives back, somewhat. Kind of fluctuates, but I figure that's situational.

Another thing that came with it was a regret for never exploring sexuality. I was raised by and grew up with a narrow perspective, so I denied myself experiences that I now probably never will have.

[Guest Chrysee]

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I'm not sure that I'm with you 100%, Hon...

I've been on HRT 20 months and my fires are dead...is that what you're talking about? Are you on HRT?

HUGGS

Donna Jean

I am not yet on H.R.T. Perhaps my shut down, like Micha said, has to do with my coming out pulling some trigger in me. I don't know.

The truth is, too, that I don't even care as much as I think I should. I mostly feel bad for my girlfriend.

Thanks for responding, you two (Dee Jay & Micha)

Chrysalis

[Carolyn Marie]

There are many, many reasons that someone's sex drive may be in low gear. It could be physical (diabetes and other ailments, like you referred to), emotional, or anything in between.

There are lots of therapists who specialize in this area, Chrysee. It's probably the best idea to go see one, rather than just guess at it.

If getting your transmission fixed is a high priority, then stop idling in neutral and get her fixed!

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Chrysee]

There are many, many reasons that someone's sex drive may be in low gear. It could be physical (diabetes and other ailments, like you referred to), emotional, or anything in between.

There are lots of therapists who specialize in this area, Chrysee. It's probably the best idea to go see one, rather than just guess at it.

If getting your transmission fixed is a high priority, then stop idling in neutral and get her fixed!

Carolyn Marie

I'll add that to the list. . .Let's see:

1.) Gender Therapist.

2.) Endocrinologist or any doctor qualified to administer H.R.T. I say this because the doctor that i wish to see--the one that was recommended to me by my doctor--specializes in transition but remains classified as a Primary Care Physician.

4.) Return visit to Dr. Blatt for another spinal epidural.

3.) Have lunch.

In the film 'Popeye', Poopdeck Pappy sings about how it's not easy being him. . .that he's the master of his own 'deskiny' and how he hates 'responibiliky.'

I can so relate.

Thanks, Carolyn, you are a dear friend.

Chrysalis

[Guest sarah f]

I know how you feel Chrysee. I too have had no desire at all since coming to the decision of transitioning. I will say I have always had a very low desire for this anyway. So it was easy for me to give it up.

Know that I have been on hormones for a while it is almost impossible even if I decided to want to. Not me not ever again from his side. After SRS is another question.

[Guest Chrysee]

I know how you feel Chrysee. I too have had no desire at all since coming to the decision of transitioning. I will say I have always had a very low desire for this anyway. So it was easy for me to give it up.

Know that I have been on hormones for a while it is almost impossible even if I decided to want to. Not me not ever again from his side. After SRS is another question.

You always had a low desire? In college I was told that I had the appetite of the Marquis deSade. Now, I'd say more like Mister Rogers.

Go figure!

[Sally]

I always knew that I was a woman and had no sexual desires for anyone as a male - about as much as attending a NASCAR race, so I would have to say that nothing has changed much.

Love ya,

Sally