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What Part Of Your Body Are You Most Dyshoric About?


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Hey guys (and possibly ladies ^.^)

I was curious. What part of your body makes you the most dysphoric at this time in your transition?

A lot of the guys I have spoken to have said it is their chest.

For me it is my hips. I absolutely cannot stand my hips. :/

How about you?

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My wide hips and fat lower body. Some of the fat has moved, but there is still a lot hanging around. Even if I got down to like 8 to 10 percent body fat, the bones would still be wider than they should be. The best I've been able to do is build up my upper body to balance it out. :(

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I'd be hard put to make a choice but I guess in the end I'd say chest. I have to look at it and do things about it so much more often. I've always wanted to go bare chested in the summer.

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Guest harvester52

Definitely my chest. I'm broad-shouldered enough, and have a big enough belly that my hips are of little concern to me. I get dysphoric about my lower area sometimes, especially when I'm around a girl that I think is attractive. ><

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I hate my chest of course. It might be small but it's still too big.

I'm lucky that I don't have hips-- my legs are too injured to have muscles and apparently fat as well...

I also really hate my gigantic baby fat cheeks. I'm not sure if that's gender dysphoria... but I hate that too.

There's a lot I hate and not all gender related. I really like the way I walk with a limp, though. That's cool.

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My wide hips and fat lower body. Some of the fat has moved, but there is still a lot hanging around. Even if I got down to like 8 to 10 percent body fat, the bones would still be wider than they should be. The best I've been able to do is build up my upper body to balance it out. :(

Yeah, my bone structure is wide hips and the smaller shoulders than most girls. No bueno.

Still, I'm most dysphoric about my chest.

I hear a lot of guys focus so much on the chest that they aren't dysphoric about below until after chest surgery.

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Guest Crossroads

(Hey, anybody recognize me?) For me, it was my stomach at first, that female pouch. Even though I was really thin, it was always there. It's gone now, but now it's knowing I have a uterus. Sometimes, just thinking about it gives me stomach cramps.

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Guest BrandonIThink

Chest, without a doubt. I'm rather "blessed" in that area, so it makes it extremely difficult to conceal. I occasionally get hip/bottom dysphoria, but it's not too bad. Other than the chest, probably the next worst one is (This may not actually be a body part, but it's a physical characteristic, so yeah....) my voice, which has only started bothering me within the past two months, but it's getting steadily worse.

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Guest My_Genesis

(Hey, anybody recognize me?) For me, it was my stomach at first, that female pouch. Even though I was really thin, it was always there. It's gone now, but now it's knowing I have a uterus. Sometimes, just thinking about it gives me stomach cramps.

Yes! lol. Welcome back :)

I feel that way too sometimes, about the "pouch." I want all that gone...

but for me, it's a tie between chest and lack of male genitals.

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Guest Batsu Maru Otoko Yo!

My chest is (very large and) definitely at number one, but my hands are a very close number two. They're so small, with short fingers and barely visible hair. No matter how short I keep them, my nails are all thin and smooth too...and my wrists are so skinny/delicate! And my hands are too graceful. Just looking at them annoys me. At least my feet have hair on them...and people hardly ever see them, anyway. But no, my hands have to be constantly visible and so girly. :banghead:

Sorry if I'm not making too much sense, I'm really tired.

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Guest OneSmallStep

Before top surgery it was definitely my chest, I rarely if ever had bottom dysphoria.... After surgery (June 30th) it's been slowly creeping up on me. I think it's also been bugging me more cuz a good real life friend just had her SRS-bottom surgery and knowing how great it is for her to finally feel complete and whole, it just reminds me how crappy our side of the field's lower surgery is. I'm trying to fight the dysphoria and working my way through it. :unsure:

*shrug* someday our surgery hasta improve, right? :banghead:

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Before top surgery it was definitely my chest, I rarely if ever had bottom dysphoria.... After surgery (June 30th) it's been slowly creeping up on me. I think it's also been bugging me more cuz a good real life friend just had her SRS-bottom surgery and knowing how great it is for her to finally feel complete and whole, it just reminds me how crappy our side of the field's lower surgery is. I'm trying to fight the dysphoria and working my way through it. :unsure:

*shrug* someday our surgery hasta improve, right? :banghead:

It will, Sweety! I know it will. I mean with all the focus there is on fixing erectile dysfuntion, there has to be some spinoff knowledge on how to make a realistic penis that works, right? Not to be blunt or anything.

Besides, look at the bright side. Look at the rate of passability amongst trans guys as opposed to us girls. There has to be a balance!

Love you much!!

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Guest Wolfy19

my chest i know i can flatten.. but i have more problems hiding my hips and curves so that affects me the worst i think. gonna have to lose weight with em or somer to get rid!!

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Guest sarah f

Well, I guess NOW I'd have to say my high-peaked hairline. (Sorry sorry, I had too)

But really, I'd say the dysphoria is pretty much gone.

I am so glad you got to fix you major dysphoria area. For me, I will just have to continue to live through your updates and hope mine will come someday.

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, I guess NOW I'd have to say my high-peaked hairline. (Sorry sorry, I had too)

But really, I'd say the dysphoria is pretty much gone.

LOL...well, I gusss so!

That's exactly how I want to take care of MY dysphoria!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest OneSmallStep

It will, Sweety! I know it will. I mean with all the focus there is on fixing erectile dysfuntion, there has to be some spinoff knowledge on how to make a realistic penis that works, right? Not to be blunt or anything.

Besides, look at the bright side. Look at the rate of passability amongst trans guys as opposed to us girls. There has to be a balance!

Love you much!!

true and ya ya ya :P ... Though I think the nonpassing is just in most of ya girls' heads cuz you definitely do and have (as long as I've known ya) passed so :P ...

love ya too look forward to you getting home! B)

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Guest Kai Reddtail

My chest!

Geeze, somedays I feel like it's this big sparkly, glowing, neon, "This is a girl!" sign. They're something like 42DD, and a pain to bind. I think in high school lots of the girls were jealous of them. If there was a way, I would gladly give them away! Sometimes even when I'm not binding, people have thought I was male. But then they see my chest and they're all falling all over themselves trying to apologize for their perceived offense. And me being the the closet, means I can't tell them how I really feel about it. -sigh-

And my uterus comes second only because it's internal so it tends to be less prominent, unless I'm dealing with that monthly curse thing. I'm sure if I got pregnant, that would change REALLY FAST. I have no greater fear than that. Can't wait to get rid of it.

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