Coming Out To My Friends.

[Guest Masculinity]

I just can't find any way...how? How can I tell my friends that I am FTM trangendered/transsexual? My first appointment to my psychologist to give me therapy is in November 1...and I think it's time to get out of the closet and tell them the cold,hard truth that should have been revealed AGES ago.

About that,when I visited my counselor last week,I came out to my counselor,so she promised she wouldn't tell my parents about it,only when I am ready,so she told me to go to a psychologist for therapy...I'm excited,so my transition is officially starting.

Somebody help me coming out?

[Paula ult]

I know how we want to come out and tell the world, but i would wait a bit till after you have been in therapy a bit and get an official diagnosis of GID, that way you can say a medical professional agrees this is what you have.

Paula

[Carolyn Marie]

I agree pretty much with Paula on this. I know that once you've come to terms with being trans, there is a great desire to

gain support and tell your friends and family. But your therapist can help in this, not only to provide the "official" diagnosis of GID, but also to help you plan on the best way to come out, and to whom to tell first.

If you feel like you just can't wait another day, then choose one or maybe two friends who you think will be supportive, and who you think will keep their yaps shut until you are ready to tell others. The worst thing that can happen, especially in this age of Facebook and Twitter, is to lose control over the spread of personal information.

There are many approaches to coming out that are discussed in this Forum's posts. Please look at a few for good examples.

You can post again or PM me if you want more help.

Good luck.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Masculinity]

Oh well...I think I will wait till I go to my gender therapist on November 1 ...shouldn't take long.

[JJ]

Your gender therapist may also help you decide who you want to tell and have suggestions about approaches. There are also lots of coming out posts including letters which can be adapted. A good thing about a letter is you can be sure and say what you want to say how you want to say it. If you hand it to someone and wait for a response you can still see the reaction and answer questions.

What works best depends on a lot of factors such as your personality and the relationships involved.

Waiting for you appointment sounds like a good idea an I'm glad you made that decision.

JohnJ