How Exactly Do You Come Out To A Family Who Wouldn't Understand?

[Guest Samurai_Kid]

I want to see a GT but.. I don't exactly want to come out.

I barely had the guts to tell them I wanted to be vegetarian, and until I momentarily stopped (I'll wait until I move out) they kept on trying to get me to stop.

I come from one of those tight knit Hispanic families. My close family isn't religious, but they're not exactly too keen on LGBT matters..At all. I only know of one or two relatives in my family that aren't Heterosexual, and I've never met them.

I live with my grandparents for reasons; I have the chance to go live with my mom but I'd rather stay, and my grandparents don't want her living with us for obvious reasons (she's an adult).

They're....Well.. Typical parents. Loud, ignorant, bossy, etc.

My mom would probably understand though. She's more open-minded, she's one of those "Be yourself and express yourself" sort of parents. Not "hippy" like but close enough. But I don't want to tell her either, especially since we don't live close and she'd tell my grandparents..

I don't want to tell my extended family either.

If I had a very close friend maybe I could tell them, but I'm not a friendship person. Every school year I make new friends, and I never interact with those friends outside of school.

I just feel like one day going to there house when I'm transitioning as an adult, and they just notice. No words stated.

[JJ]

When and how to tell is your decision. And when to start our transition is equally your decision.

Some people feel they can't wait. Others make careful plans and take things in slow steps. That's all up to you.

The only caveat is that if it becomes too stressful not being out and starts causing depression then it is time to re-evaluate your plans. We all have times of depression of course, because life is harder and more stressful for us as long as we are living a life we are not mentally suited for, but you'll know when that reaches a point that you have to make changes.

Always go at the speed you are comfortable with.

Hugs

John

[Carolyn Marie]

The only pressure you should feel is from inside yourself. You shouldn't let anyone else drive that decision to come out.

It must be when you are ready.

You will know when the time is right, hon. Take your time, do it right, do it the way you want to.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Opal]

Hi Samuari,

If you could see a GT without coming out to your relatives, would you do that? Some GTs may not advertise as such, so you might be able to maintain some stealth.

So far the only relative I have come out to is my brother at the suggestion of my Therapist. He is having problems with this information, and perhaps it was a bit premature to have done so. Just my opinion.

Hugs,

Opal

[Drea]

If you are feeling depressed, you can ask to see a therapist for that reason without saying why you feel depressed. After all talking to a therapist is to help you identify why you may be depressed.

This may not be a gender therapist, but it is a professional you can start to talk to. That therapist can then advise or otherwise assist you with the comming out to your parent, perhaps referral to a gender therapist. You could possibly tell one or both your parents during a session while your therapist is there to keep thing ordered.

That probably has much better chance for success than just trying it on your own.

[Guest Samurai_Kid]

I feel just fine. People often mistake me for depressed, but I'm just the sort of person that doesn't show his emotions much and doesn't like exactly doing much.

I would like to see a GT without coming out, but that seems hard at my age.