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First Day Out As Myself

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I plan on next Friday being my first day out as myself. I have dressed up to go to see my therapist but never to go out shopping and get my nails done. I plan on getting gel nails or acrylic nails. I don't know which one yet.

I am taking the day off so I can go give blood and decided it would be a good day to go out as myself and experience everything as Sarah only.

I plan on wearing my skinny jeans with a pink polo and my newly purchased cardigan. Don't worry Dee Jay I will take pictures. I am also going to do my make-up.

I am excited about doing this the first time and scared at the same time. I can wear girly jeans or sweaters but going out full on make-up and clothes is something new for me.

Since I don't own a wig and don't plan on ever owning one I will have to figure out how to comb my hair that looks more feminine. The curls are girly but the top and sides is what I will have to work with. If anyone has any suggestions just let me know and I will see if I know how to do that.

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That's awesome Sarah !

I will be thinking of ya a week from today as I drive home from Mom's.

I still get a big rush going out as myself as I am only a young girl, and still only to my therapist. Your story give me more courage.

I hope you have special day, enjoy the nail work !

Peace and Love

Cindy -

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Hi Sarah,

Well, if Target had their way, you would be wearing one of their cute hats. I guess the question is how do other women in your area style their hair?

I part my hair down the middle with some combed towards the front. Do you have enough in the back to band in a pony tail? I am probably the worst one to give you hair advice.

You will do just fine!

Huggs,

Opal

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I plan on wearing my skinny jeans with a pink polo and my newly purchased cardigan. Don't worry Dee Jay I will take pictures. I am also going to do my make-up.

LOL....geez...reading my mind!

Oh, and I wanted to ask you...you've mentioned that you are "giving blood" and I was wondering if you mean like the Red Cross or just for blood work?

You'll do great...'cause you are so slim and look so good...and you're making super progress....

BTW...I'm jealous about you getting those nails done..I still haven't donne that...I've been wearing the glue ons...dang!

Ok....now I'm looking forward to the pics....go get 'em!

Donna Jean

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LOL....geez...reading my mind!

Oh, and I wanted to ask you...you've mentioned that you are "giving blood" and I was wondering if you mean like the Red Cross or just for blood work?

You'll do great...'cause you are so slim and look so good...and you're making super progress....

BTW...I'm jealous about you getting those nails done..I still haven't donne that...I've been wearing the glue ons...dang!

Ok....now I'm looking forward to the pics....go get 'em!

Donna Jean

It is for blood work because my E levels were so high last time. They cut me back on my dosages and now re-checking to see if they are back to normal.

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Good Luck Sarah. I hope you really enjoy yourself. I've gone out many times as female, even though I only pass marginally because I'm pre-HRT. There really isn't that much to be scared of for almost everybody will ignore you. That's because they are in their own world.

As far as hair goes, I wore a wig for awhile. It made me feel more confident and felt I passed better. You might think of getting your hair styled at a beauty salon. At the very least you can get some ideas on how you want to look.

Just try to be confident and enjoy being a woman since you already know you are one.

Jenny

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It is for blood work because my E levels were so high last time. They cut me back on my dosages and now re-checking to see if they are back to normal.

Ok, good. I read that and was immediately going to post that if you're taking finesteride, you cannot give blood.

Have a great time on your day out!!!

xoxo

Gin

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Have a wonderful day Sara!

I like the suggestion to have your hair done in a salon. Not only would it probably feel great but they have all those hairstyle books to go through and the stylist can give you tips for ways to style it as you grow it out. Most of the places in malls and such take walk-ins and salons are pretty much friendly if you decide to reveal your situation so they can make suggestions for styles that can be switched from female to male mode.

Whatever you decide-enjoy every moment and share all the details with us afterward.

Hugs

John

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Dear Sarah,

I have been watching your progress in person for a little while now and as of our last meeting I have to say that you should have no trouble passing.

As to your hair, their are a lot of natal females in your area that wear their hair a lot shorter than yours, just wear something in it like those decorated bobby pins that you can get at Walgreen's and be confident - that is all that you will need, girlfriend.

So go out, have a great day, take some pictures fir Dee Jay and the rest of us but most importantly - do not give your number to any of the guys that try to hit on you.

Love

Sally

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Have a wonderful time, Sarah. Nail salon's are a lot of fun, and relaxing too. I came out to my nail "artist" in male mode,

and went back in Carolyn mode, and she nearly had a heart attack when she realized it was me. :lol:

There are so many cute short hair styles, I'm sure you can find a lovely one.

I can't wait for your report, and your pics! Go Sarah!

Carolyn Marie

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But what if they're Amish? Those guys don't have phones :lol: :lol:

xoxo

Gin

Gin, Honey....out here we use homing pidgeons.....

It's just that they're hard to keep in your purse!

Donna Jean (Cooo cooooo)

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Just relax and be yourself,and enjoy your day

of complete girlifying. I would consider the

acrylic nails that way you can have them filled

about every three weeks or so,and it's cheap to

maintain them. I love going to my nail salon,the

owner is so sweet and fast and I love the whole

experience.Doing fingers and toes for Christmas,

that way I will feel super girlie and pretty.

As for your hair,think gel and finger fluff the

curls,once done,leave it alone.Trust that you

look great,and _____Own The Look. Confidence

goes a very long way in how the world see's you.

KNOW you look act and carry yourself as a woman,

and that is what the world will see...a woman,period.

And most of all,Have Fun Sarah.

Angie

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Okay I have figured out how I will have my hair on Friday. Here is a picture.

I think this is the best possible solution considering my hair isn't long enough to do too much with.

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