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Dad Called About Coming Out Letter


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Guest sarah f

Just when you thought the post office was slow moving I received a call from my dad. When I received the call I read that it was my dad and I couldn't answer the phone. I was so scared of the response I was about to get. He never leaves me a message but this time he did. I listened to the voice mail and just started crying.

He said that he got my letter and that he wanted to talk. He said that he understand completely and that this happens all the time. He then said he doesn't want me to think he would be mad about this. He said that he is all for it if that is what I want and just wanted to talk about it.

I called him about 30 minutes later when I calmed down but of course started crying again as soon as he answered. He just kept telling me that he loved me no matter if I am his daughter or son. He also said something that I didn't expect from him. He said no matter what anyone says you must transition for yourself to be happy.

He told me that he has actually read a lot of articles about this and watch shows about this. I totally shocked me and I was a loss for words.

He said that I don't need to worry about anyone else in the family on his side because he will take care of it. He didn't want me to be stressed on coming out to anyone else in the family.

I was told that if anything ever happened that I will always have a place to stay and that no matter what he will help me get through it.

I just can't stop crying right now but at least it is because of good news and not bad.

I forgot to mention that he actually called me Sarah on the phone one time when talking to him. He still called me son a lot and kept saying he will have to work on it. He also asked what I wanted to be called and I told him that I am ok for now if he messes up but if we are ever out together that I wanted to be called his daughter or Sarah. He told me that wasn't a problem as long as I am happy.

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Guest sarah f

I forgot to mention that he was relieved that it was this because he thought with the weight loss and my physical changes he saw that I had cancer or something else.

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Guest KellyKat

I'm so very happy for you Sarah!!!

It's awesome that both your parents are so loving and excepting!!!

You are very dear to both of them!!

You are such a lucky girl!!

All my love, Kat :)

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Guest Maria_B

Let me say one thing to you.

SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

I squee for happiness!

Oh my Sunshine Sarah this is soooooooo sooo beautiful.

SQUEEEEEEE.

-jumps up and down excitedly-

<<<<<<<Hugs>>>>>>>>

I am so morbidly obesely happy for you!

<<<<,Hugs>>>>>>

SQUEEEEEE

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That's about as good as it gets, Sarah. I couldn't be happier for you, hon.

It doesn't solve all your problems, but it does give you a huge base of support, now. That is a HUGE deal. :)

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Wow Sarah! That has to be way beyond expectations. He has the understanding all of us wish we had from our parents. It doesn't get any better than that. I am ecstatic that this happened to you.

Jenny

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Guest sarah f

Thanks everyone for the loving comments. I actually had a good nites sleep last night for a change. It feels good to have the support of your parents.

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Fabulous Sarah ! You really deserve this support from your family. Very happy day, indeed.

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Sarah. I second everything that has been said. I am so very happy for you.

It is good beyond expectation and what you needed most in your life right now.

Love

John

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