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Kia Ora all,[i’m back to my old tricks again :D ]

:rolleyes: I was thinking of doing this poll form but then thought better of it...

This is an old topic ,but it’s always interesting to hear what newer members[and established ones-part of Laura's furniture] think about such things…

:rolleyes: So here goes….

When you come[or came] out of the closet[fully transitioned] will/did you hop back into another closet?

Some members are destined to become fulltime activists[it’s in their nature to be so], whilst others will opt for part time[no doors on their new closet]…No doubt some members will hop out of one closet and into another slamming the door shut behind them… :o

In plain English[well plain English according to Zenda that is-which is a mixture of Cockney-Aussie-Kiwi English] ;) ...

When you complete your transition [and are fortunate enough to blend into society as your affirmed gender] will you still participate openly in transgender rights issues? Or go semi or deep stealth?

Will you be a closet hopper :unsure: ? Where do you fit into the scheme of things?

Metta Zenda:)

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Guest Blindheart

Hmm, i've never participated openly in any transgender issues. I'm not that big on being noticed or participating to begin with tho. If someone asks or i happen to be involved in the discussion by chance i will certainly say what i think, but i don't go out of my way to stick it in anyone's face either. Heck i don't even vote... so i don't think i will be any different.

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Guest Robin Winter

I'm not actually sure yet. I would never back down from a rights issue, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'll be vocal about my own situation. Hard to say at this point. I guess it depends on my level of comfort when I reach that point.

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Guest Elizabeth K

I don't agree with the phrase 'in the closet. I never have - so I may not be able to give a straight forward answer here.

I don't think 'stealth' is necessarily 'in the closet' either. It just means living as you should have been able to do from the beginning. That's not a retreat, it's a right and a choice.

I don't think being an activist is being 'out of the closet.' Again it is a choice. Not everyone is suited nor prone to activism.

BUT

I get the point.

Is it right to come to depend on the support of others, then abandon everyone when you journey is to the point you no longer need support?

Is it right to avoid the responsibility to educate a very ignorant world, about what we are, when only we have a real knowledge of what it means to be gender dysphoric?

I think each person needs to evaluate what they personally can do to ease the suffering of everyone with our condition.

.........

Personally, I am trying to help lost souls on Laura's (which in return helps me) and to make my life experiencea available for people to compare to their own situations. So my volunteer service on Laura's is my current payback to honor those who have helped me. I also work with the LGBQT people here in New Orleans. I have given a talk to a business class on diversty - and enjoyed educating those people. I am not really political at all right nowand may never be unless it is something those who are active want me to do.

So I really hope that is what the CREATOR meant when it said I was made transsexual for a purpose - I just donno.

...............

Jendar - personal choice, and yes - I agree, it's needed, our continued effort to help...

Just me thinking out loud. I just don't like the phrasing, because it labels us.

Lizzy

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Kia Ora Shilo,

:rolleyes: It's true that one can never quite tell what they will feel like once fully transitioned... My 'neo cisgender status' doorless closet's so comfortable, warm and snug, that at times I have to force myself to venture outside :unsure: ...

Metta Zenda :)

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Kia Ora Lizzy,

You make some interesting points,however :rolleyes: ...

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"Is it right to come to depend on the support of others, then abandon everyone when you journey is to the point you no longer need support?

Some have transitioned without the help of a support group-so...

Is it right to avoid the responsibility to educate a very ignorant world, about what we are, when only we have a real knowledge of what it means to be gender dysphoric?

Some are not in a position to do so [their safety and wellbeing could be jeopardised if they did]

I think each person needs to evaluate what they personally can do to ease the suffering of everyone with our condition!

And for some 'nothing' is all they can do!

End of quote...

As I said before Lizzy, some people are destine to become 'trans' activists[or advocates]...

Metta Zenda :)

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Guest Cynthia Of Creation

I only participate in stealth when i feel unsafe

Like im not going to say im trans if it might jeperdize my safety!

but if i feel safe i am more than willing to participate! even now i would, but i know how my mom would react to that so i cant.

it reminds of soldiers' girl

after i am a women i am still a trans women,

though i am transexual women I AM A WOMEN NONE THE LESS!

I just had to earn it!

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