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I Think I Came Out Last Night...


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Guest Caden_Leon

Starting January 1st, I've been keeping a daily blog to keep track of thoughts that I don't want to/feel like posting on my LiveJournal account (which all of my friends who don't know I'm transgender can read). Thus, my few passing stories and other transition-related entries go on this new blog.

Well..

Last night, the whole blog site that I was using glitched out on me, making all of the characters jumbled. I, for the life of me, couldn't figure out what was wrong and, figuring "hey, it's jumbled, so she can't see what any of the entries are about," I decided to ask my best friend if she'd ever seen something like that happen to a whole site.

Stupid me, though. I didn't realize she would look at the URL and look it up on her phone to see if it was just my computer, or if it really was the site. She scrolled through the whole. thing. :doh1:

The entries were very personal, and a bunch of them involved my school life, so there's no doubt that she knew it was my own private blog.

Though, if she now knows, she hasn't said anything to me about it. But perhaps she's just waiting for me to come out to her on my own?

Mind you, this is the same person I've been wanting to come out to, so I'm not exactly upset that she saw the contents of the journal. I'm just a bit worried...

But in the end, this whole situation will probably make coming out so much easier, right? :lol:

--Caden

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Good attitude Caden! It may just be a perfect opportunity. Then again maybe she didn't read ot but just checked if it was jumbled. There are a few people out there who could resist that temptation. But most would read I'm afraid.

Why not feel her out with a few vague comments that she won't pick up on unless she knows?

Then decide where to go from there

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Guest Caden_Leon

Even though this might have presented a perfect opportunity, I feel it might also be a bad time. The two of us have both been under a lot of stress these past few days..

I don't know..

I'll see how she is later today. Whether I talk with her or not, I'll let you guys know!

--Caden

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Guest Audrey Elizabeth

You will probably know based on her behavior. I love to be able to tell you if you should discuss it with her or not but ultimately you need to consider what you are comfortable with. Whichever way you go I wish you the best.

Audrey

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Guest Elizabeth K

But in the end, this whole situation will probably make coming out so much easier, right?

Either way. If the blog was long, I bet she only read a bit at the front to make sure things were working.

If you decide to tell her you are GD - be extremely positive and happy in the presentation. People take their cue from you on how to react.

Let us know what happens!

Lizzy

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Guest Caden_Leon

So I talked to my friend. More like she talked to me. She's the one who brought it up because she felt bad about reading the blog. :P

It went really well! She's totally accepting and encouraging. I love her so much. <3 I knew she was my best friend for a reason. B)

I feel like this huge weight's been lifted off of my shoulders. I feel amazing. It's incredible.

--Caden

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Caden,

Sometimes mistakes like this do not happen randomly, you decided to check with her about the scrambled blog, you gave her the URL - if you had really thought about it you would have asked the question without showing her anything - but sometimes our minds do a little of the work for us and hold back a few things forcing us out of our comfort zone and into the world.

This seems to be one of those times and aren't you glad?

I am so happy that your friend is so accepting - hang on to her, she is a keeper! :friends:

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Caden_Leon

Thank you, everyone! I'm so glad this all worked out.

I am so happy that your friend is so accepting - hang on to her, she is a keeper! :friends:

She really is! I wouldn't give her up for the world. :friends:

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So I talked to my friend. More like she talked to me. She's the one who brought it up because she felt bad about reading the blog. :P

It went really well! She's totally accepting and encouraging. I love her so much. <3 I knew she was my best friend for a reason. B)

I feel like this huge weight's been lifted off of my shoulders. I feel amazing. It's incredible.

-Caden

Wonderful. Before I got this far, I was going to post that I felt she would have a positive and accepting attitude. Really!

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