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Today was a horrible day for me. Really bad. Aside from the times I spent with my kids dropping them off at their ski lessons, I was wandering around Snowmass and Aspen literally shaking from stress and fear. I had worked myself into such a state of worry that I thought I would throw up over and again. I knew I had to tell my father and step-mother this evening. I had made that commitment to myself and my esposa.

My esposa is a brilliant and awesome woman, just so you know. She spent the day with me making sure I didn't go over the edge. She texted a friend of ours and had her call me to give me a pep talk and cheer me up. She is my steady rock in all of this and I would be lost without her.

So we all got back into the cabin and I literally ran to our room and tried to nap, but I was just shaking and crying with the thought of what I had to do. I finally went out to the living room and sat with the kids and had a glass of wine. I went to get a second one and my step-mother started chatting with me and for some reason, I just said to myself that this was the time to do it. And so I opened the door to the conversation.

And they sat. And they listened. And they asked a few questions. And they accepted me unconditionally. My esposa, step-mother and I all cried together and my dad was so much more awesome that I could ever give him credit for being. I use the word awesome a lot, but he really earned it tonight. He actually said that he knew some people in L.A. and he would call them. For what, I have no clue, but I love the thought. My step-mother and I talked about fashion and vanity and we discussed the difficulties of it all and they both held firm in their love and support. It wasn't about what I wanted or about them just wanting me to be happy. It was really about love and support.

My step-mother said that she could never even begin to understand the pain I have felt, but she knows that it is a struggle and she will stand behind me.

And my dad? He said, "Good night, Natasha." It's a wonder I didn't break down in tears right there and then.

And my lesson? That I keep getting again and again but fail to learn? Well, that came from my adopted mother out in L.A. who, when she heard about tonight over the phone, told me that after I told her, she wrote a note and put it in her bible that read, "The truth shall set you free." My lesson? To be open and honest with those around me and they will be there for me because they love me and support me as they have always loved me and supported me.

I am so incredibly fortunate and amazed and empowered. This is not going to be an easy thing to do, but it will be easier knowing that I have this wonderful family and incredible friends who are all there for me.

xoxo

Natasha

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Guest tiffany_marie

Yay!

Sounds like your parents are awesome, I'm going to try to convince myself to tell my dad and my little sister this week, they are the only ones I've yet to tell in my immediate family.

I have a pretty cool open minded father, so I'm optimistic.. hopefully it works out as well for me!

I will say you are one step ahead of me in one way, of the people I've confided in so far.. have told them the gist of what's going on, but only mentioned my chosen girl name to a couple... figure I have time for that.

I'm very very happy for you!

Took a lot of courage, thrilled that it worked out the way it did.

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Such good news Natasha!

You worried and worried and everything turned out so well.

I am so happy for you there is nothing like the support of your family for helping you in your transition.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Tasha

I started reading your post and I too was getting anxious. Then I read the middle and the end.

YOU DID IT!

That's number one

THEY ACCEPTED YOU

That's number two!

GRAND GRAND GRAND

And you esposa! Hug her hard for all of us.

Lizzy

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Guest Donna Jean

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Natasha......

Honey.....90% of the things that we worry abo.....awww screw it!

You know the drill....

You passed the supreme test!

End of story....

You win....now, go ski....

LOVE

Dee Jay

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Guest NatashaJade

Thank you to you all! I've run the table coming out and I'm exhausted and relieved and have nothing to worry about or obsess over at this time. Whatever will I do?

Aside from my workaday life, it's wonderful to know I no longer have to put on a disguise for my family and friends. It's a relief.

Fun thing: A valentine card from my mother. The card read: To My Son and Daughter-in-law on the outside. But on the inside, she wrote "To Natasha and [the amazingly wonderfully anonymous esposa]. I found this to be both a hoot and a holler.

xoxo

Tasha

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Thank you to you all! I've run the table coming out and I'm exhausted and relieved and have nothing to worry about or obsess over at this time. Whatever will I do?

Aside from my workaday life, it's wonderful to know I no longer have to put on a disguise for my family and friends. It's a relief.

Fun thing: A valentine card from my mother. The card read: To My Son and Daughter-in-law on the outside. But on the inside, she wrote "To Natasha and [the amazingly wonderfully anonymous esposa]. I found this to be both a hoot and a holler.

xoxo

Tasha

Wow can I understand Natasha. It is wonderful to know that those you love are totally accepting. It takes the stress out of transitioning knowing you have the support of those you love. I am really happy for you and glad you have overcome this part of your transition. :)

Jenny

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