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An Epiphany Moment - Fulltime Will Happen.


Guest Lacey Lynne

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Guest Lacey Lynne

Anybody remember this thread? :

http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=15279

This was Kaitlyn88 on the brink of going fulltime and being stuck in making the move. That was her then. That is me now.

I'm stuck. Why? Fear!

For fun, I walk the mall nearly every day. The people who work there totally know me by sight in an instant. My point? Once I go fulltime, I will continue my SAME daily routine, because I like it very much. Stay tuned, please.

Today, I'm ditty bopping and doing my 3-4 laps around the entire mall, including the anchor stores, and at Macy's, I see this twentysomething guy at the Clarins makeup counter ... getting done up by two biogal beauty consultants ... also in their 20s.

Ding! Lacey's gaydar pops into alert mode. Hmmmmm. That guy AIN'T trans, so I'll bet he's gay. No biggie. Cool beans. Rock on. However, I'm now fixated on this scene. Granted, I've seen beauty consultants doing up guys occasionally before. Always, it's guys in their teens or twenties. An important point.

Well, by my third lap, that guy is gone, so being the indefatiguable extrovert that I am, upon accosting the two beauty consultants, I just tell them straight-up and flat-out that:

I'm a transgender woman who has been on female hormones for 1 year and 3 months. I'd like a consultation. Are they cool with that? If not, no worries. Live and let live. Godspeed and good luck. Well, what do YOU think they said? Yep!

THEY WERE WAY COOL WITH IT!

They promptly told me they are in no way judgemental, have many gay-guy and transwoman clients and will be glad to have me as a client ... at no charge ... with no obligation to buy anything!

MO' FO', BRO!!!

So here's Ole Lacey Girl in androgyne mode coming out directly, publicly and honeslty within earshot of all manner of employees who see her EVERY day ... all of smiled, nodded and did a thumbs up to me.

[... Uh, oh! What's THAT I hear? HOT DARN! Air guitar break! Stones on the radio! Jammin' with Keef Riffhard! Don't get no better than this! ...] HONKEY TONK WOMEN!!!

Ahhh!!! Well, I'm back! Where was I? Oh, yeah ...

Yes indeedie, gals and guys, you believin' this scene?

At that very moment, peace, tranquility, warmth, happiness and fulfillment embraced me in their loving clasp. Then, I finally realized:

FULLTIME IS GONNA WORK! IT'S ACTUALLY GONNA HAPPEN! I'M MAJORLY OUT, SO NOW IT'S A NO-BRAINER!

Dang, I've got all the clothes already ... the accessories ... the shoes! Warm weather, warm weather ... where for art thou, warm weather?

This erstwhile tormented T-girl is tormented no more. She can really be herself. She REALLY can!

Oh ... my ... GOD!!!

Happiness! What more can I say? We can DO it!

Peace & Thanks!

:lol::lol::lol: Lacey Lynne

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Guest tiffany_marie

Awesome!

Giddy for ya Lacey, can sense your feel of accomplishment and happiness.

Know what? You should be happy and you most definitely accomplished something!

Thanks for the inspiration my friend!

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Guest Maria_B

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Sing us a song, you're the rocky woman, sing us a song tonight! We're all in the mood for Lacey Tale, and you've got a good one alright!

EEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Love, Maria <3

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Guest BeckyTG

Go Girl!

This was also my tipping point-cosmetics done well. I spent a LOT that day at the Estee Lauder counter and found a very supportive and warm group of women that I love to see.

I walked away that day as Becky and left him forever. I was well accepted everywhere I went. I couldn't believe it could be this easy, but it is.

Make them write down each step in detail, in order for you. It's difficult to duplicate right at first.

Oh, I stll wear the same basic things today and I get a lot of compliments. You will, too.

Step over the threshold, Lacey.

Becky

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So happy to read this Lacey, :welldone:

I recall our chat a month ago regarding fear, you kicked it's butt, you will do it. Be the beautiful woman you deserve to be.

Rock on' and peace.

Cindy -

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It is possible to slowly move from one side to the other so to speak as far as presentation with no clear deliniation, no clear "first time out en femme". So your slipping to the other side of the divide and starting to feel it now.

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Well isn't it about time for Miss Lacey Lynne to make herself known to the world?

I am so glad that you have taken this step, progress is made in small but determined steps - not always carefully planned but once taken there is no going back.

There is only one direction for you so you keep going girl - ONWARD!

Love ya,

Sally

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HUG!

I am so happy for you Lacey.

I suspect life hold many more exciting and wonderful surprises as you move from the "This isn' t possible" to the "WOW-this is really happening!" mode.

You have a lot of good times ahead and I can't wait to read about them!

Hugs

John

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Guest Besomyka

I don't even really know any of you, but there's something so familiar in everything that I read here I feel like I really do know you in someway.

I can't tell you how big of a smile I have right now. Good for you! I'm so glad that it went well!

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Guest Emily Ray

I can't believe I am so late to this thread. Lacey I am so happy for you. That you believe what we all have seen in you for a while. Have fun! The best part of your life is about to begin!

Huggs

Emily

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Well sis,

For all the times you have so enthusiastically supported the rest of us, here is :goodjob: for taking that step.

It's about time to see that big smile on your face. Did you take a victory lap today?

Girls flirting back with you, free makeup consults, clothes and shoes lined up for the warm weather, and YOU believing this can happen and is happening.

Very happy for you.

Your bro

John

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Guest jamiejcmo

Heck ya! It's about time girl. I knew you could do it. Enjoy the new wonderful life and never look back. It's all Lacey all the time. Take care girl, Jamie

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Guest Orva26

AWESOME!

To me it seemed a no brainer for you to begin with.

But now with this and the confidence it has brought you, real no brainer!

Awfully nice of them to offer their services for free as well. You're going to have to take them up on that.

But now your daily routine will change 'cause you'll have those galpals consultants to hang out with during your walk.

Good stuff!

-Orva

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Guest Lacey Lynne

AWESOME!

To me it seemed a no brainer for you to begin with.

But now with this and the confidence it has brought you, real no brainer!

Awfully nice of them to offer their services for free as well. You're going to have to take them up on that.

But now your daily routine will change 'cause you'll have those galpals consultants to hang out with during your walk.

Good stuff!

-Orva

@ Orva:

Thank you very much, hon. A no-brainer for me to begin with? You've lost me, girl. Don't know what you mean. However, thanks so much for your very kind words. E-hugs to an awesome fellow science girl. :friends:

@ Everybody:

You are all SOOO kind and nice. Thank you so very much for being here for me, for one another, for the world (This IS an international forum visible to the public).

You've all kindly put up with my blathering, and I'm grateful. Really. You are examples to me. I learn so much from each of you in your own unique way.

Sure, I carry on like an adolescent, but why not? Hormonally, I am (and many of you are too), so let's enjoy it! Aging is bleak enough for every one of us, so why dwell on it? Let's remain young at hear.

Peace & Thanks to You

:friends: Lacey Lynne

Postscript:

If I DON'T go fulltime soon, I'll evaporate. Yeah, it's SOOO gonna actually happen. Can't believe it ... I'M THRILLED!

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Guest Lacey Lynne

.

"She's a Rainbow"

Dee Jay

Donna Jean sees right through me, honestly! :welldone::welldone::welldone:

Her comment is a Generational Insider's Trip, folks. The instant I saw her comment, I knew EXACTLY what she meant ... and immediately broke into the biggest, goofiest, happiest grin ... with a joyful tear in my eye.

THANKS, DEE JAY!

Dang, Girl! This is what she meant:

@ Lizzy K:

Thank YOU so very much too, hon! Our New Orleans Mods all remember these times. Time machine? Anybody got a time machine? I'm way grateful, y'all.

:lol: Lacey Lynne

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