Gift To Myself...

[Guest ~Dawn~]

I plan on coming out to my parents on my birthday (May 3rd). I'm not sure how to go about it, though. I considered telling them in person but I'm not very good face-to-face, I never have been. I don't want them to cry and hug me or something, because I don't know how to react in those kinds of situations. If I wrote a letter, I'm sure the same thing would ensue in the inevitable talk that would follow. The only thing that scares me about coming out is the fact that I loathe compassion. If I wrote a letter I'm sure I could compose my thoughts better than if I were put on the spot in person...

Chances are I won't even go through with it anyways. I'll just end up wallowing in misery until I eventually snap.

[Guest Donna Jean]

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Honey......

Take your time and think all of this over carefully....

Remember...once you tell, there will be no going back....

Think it through....ok?

Huggs

Donna Jean

[JJ]

Dawn, it sound like a letter will at least give you some space for them to read it before a face to face emotional scene. it's ironic that the thing you dread is what most who come out to their parents are desperate for. But I do understand. Can you also ask in your letter that they discuss this calmly without being emotional at all? Something along that line?

one of the problems you'll face with not wanting compassion from people in life isthat it is an expression of love and people are going to feel rejected and get hurt by it even if they try to understand. It's just the way most people are made. That doesn't make you wrong -it is just something you may need to take into consideration. Sometimes a hug may be worth what it does for the other person-sometimes not.

Only you can decide if you are ready for this step.

Hugs

John

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I read through TRUE SELVES again, a great book explaining transsexuality. The author explains how some people come out to their parents by telling them face to face and then handing them a letter. The parents decide to open it then or wait until later. In either case a letter goes into details you might forget, and they can re-read it over and over.

Just a suggestion.

Lizzy