Sibling Responses

[Guest Brianna]

I recently came out to my mom, and she is extremely supportive, yet she and I decided not to tell anyone in my family until necessary. Well, I left some information on my laptop which my brother happened to use. He then asked me about it, and I told him to talk to my mom about it, since I'm bad at talking basically. He only demanded one answer: Did I want a change? (by that he of course meant sex change, a term i don't particularly care for, but that's what he was asking). I told him yes, and he immediately went outside and just sat there and thought. He wasn't angry, but he's been treating me differently. We have been really close for the past few years and I think he feels like he's losing a brother, so he's kind of just...blahh. I guess he's trying to treat me like a girl, which is ultimately what I want, but I just didn't think it would happen so soon. He's adjusting I guess, it must be hard.

Does anyone want to share experiences with their siblings from when they came out?

Love,

Alyssa.

[Guest Evan_J]

Wow, this must really be a heck of a time for you both. Just wanted to say it sounds like, although an emotional time, you both sound like you love one another tremendously. It'll work out it sounds like, you just need to keep goin easy on each other which you seem to be doing pretty good. Good luck to you both. Peace.

[Guest Madison_Always]

it sounds hard but at least it sounds like he's trying i have absolutely no idea how my siblings would react i assume they would adjust especially my sister who is young but my brother is 14 and he might react adversly but i dont know. i know that probably didnt help much sry :s

[Guest raydub]

Hey!

I posted before about coming out to my eldest sister. You can read it here.

I will post about coming out to my other sister soon. Yeah.. i was the only boy.. and that got all screwed up..

You brother's response sounds pretty amazing. I think he'll be fine. Everyone has to process this stuff in their own way. Just try to be glad he's trying to treat you appropriately. My sister still treats me like her little sister...but i dont exactly know how our relationship would (should?) change... meh *shrug*

Raymond

[Guest Drew]

your brother's reaction sounds pretty good . i've got quite a few siblings so i got mixed responses. my oldest brother, who i'm closest to and is my only fully biological sibling, was surprisingly cool, he said he'd always known and he'd been treatong me like a guy for as long as i can remember (much to my mother's chagrin). the rest of my siblings reactions ranged from complete disgust (under my mother's influence i assume, as they're still fairly young ex. 4, 6 and 10) to partial acceptance, to complete cluelessness that anything had changed.

[Guest Isobelle Fox]

I spent this weekend with my sister. I am considering moving into the area she lives in and she has offered me a place to stay for a bit, so I went to fill out some job apps and just spend a couple of days with her. The last time we got to visit, we talked about the trans issue for the first time. She was absolutely supportive and understanding.

This weekend she told me that she thought it was wonderful that she had a "little sister."

Everyone has dealt with this pretty well, though so far all anyone has had to "deal" with was me telling them how I felt. I have generally had nothing but acceptance.

But hers is just above and beyond. I'll never forget what she said.