How Much Of The New Gender For Rlt?

[Guest Nelly]

Hi,

every time I am thinking about RLT I get the picture of me wearing realy female clothing. But how female you must be for RLT? I mean, the overlap of male and female is realy big. There are some natural womens outside looking more masculin than I am. I can also go out in RL without short skirt and high heels or the perfect makeup. Womans also do not wear this things all time.

So how much is best to pass? I think not to much.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest raydub]

From Laura's Terminology Page

REAL LIFE TEST : (RLT or Life Test) A period of time required of individuals seeking reassignment surgery during which they must live full-time expressing and presenting the gender in and of which they identify as. Many doctors require a Real Life Test of two or more years before advancement to SRS (surgery). This Real Life Test period is necessary to be sure that an individual can capably adapt to the sought after gender role. Also known as RLE or Real Life Experience. Check with your surgeon for RLE time requirements as there are variations between them.

Presumably RLT is just what it says.. a REAL LIFE TEST.. LIVING in your preferred gender FULL TIME. Hope this helps.

Ray

[Guest Nelly]

Presumably RLT is just what it says.. a REAL LIFE TEST.. LIVING in your preferred gender FULL TIME. Hope this helps.

Yes I know what you want to say to me. I try to say it in different way to make it more clear what I mean.

To be treaded like a woman you must pass. If you allways do not pas because you do not look like a woman, than it can never be a realistic real life test. It is more a test of your staying power of handling to be exposed as a man. So how much female is best to pass best to make the real life test not a test of staying power?

I think a style of dressing that keep you out of the center of attention is best. If you are the grey mouse in the corner you will not get so much attention as the paradise bird with a lot of colors. But if you are allways the grey mouse, is it possible that the teraphist says that this make the test to easy for you?

Or another point. I was traveling arround a lot. Sometimes in countries were I could not speak the language. So I spent some weeks there doing shopping without saying anything to the people. Saying nothing make it more easy to pass because they can not be iritated from your voice.

I know that this will be a process over time. At the beginning maybe gey mouse is better. Later on the paradise bird is coming from alone.

I also hope that my self-confidence increase with HRT. No it is very low.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest raydub]

Hey Nelly.

I get what you mean about passing making RLT more difficult. That is something that can be discussed with your therapist. It is possible to receive a letter for HRT in order to complete RLT. The RLT is simply the standard for surgeries.

Raymond

[Guest Evan_J]

I think the RLT is more interacting with the world (job, formalities, legal entities) from the position of being whatever gender you are as opposed to "looking and dressing" though that of course is a part of it no one is going to say "longer skirts" or "shorter skirts". As long as the "total presentation" is female and your interactions are from the position of female you should be fine. I would be more concerned with being sure of the requirements to satisfy your therapist or the persons overseeing your srs requirements.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

From Laura's Terminology Page

Presumably RLT is just what it says.. a REAL LIFE TEST.. LIVING in your preferred gender FULL TIME. Hope this helps.

Ray

Unless you have to wear skirt and heels for work reasons, most women dont wear them all the time. For me it was not a question of how far to go for my RLE/RLT I had to do it, and I was going to do it right. I have mainly casual clothes, a few skirts and some nice white blouses to wear with them. As to makeup, just the basics, concealer, foundation, some powder and lipstick, ocasionally I will wear eyshadow and mascara, but usually only if its dinner at a nice restauant. The day I was told I had to do RLE before my HRT, was the day I had the only panic attack i can remember. OMG, how the heck can I do this? Well the GF and I went shopping the next day and started buying me gender appropriate clothing I put that on for the first time and never looked back.  By now I have taken one load of mens out of my closet and am thinking its time to pull another one out; as far as undies go Ive not worn mens in nearly 6 months.

I started padding my bras with just socks but that didnt really help be get gendered properly so I dug out the old C-Cup breast forms i used when cross dressing boy was that a turnaround, all of a sudden most ppl are gettinng it right.

[Guest AshleyRF]

Isn't the legal name change and drawing a pay check under the new name a big part of it?

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

Isn't the legal name change and drawing a pay check under the new name a big part of it?

Ashley, its part of it but for those of us who dont immediately have the nearly 200 it costs in this state then working as your target gender is a big part of it. I am dressed and act female 24/7 (yes including my nighties). Name change is the next on my list but i have to put the money away for it. I only make 8$/hr so its going to take a bit of time.