I Think I Need Some Advice.

[Guest EvenClose]

I gotta come out to my mother. Haven't talk to her in 6 yrs. Lately we have talked on the phone a little bit.

Now she is coming up to where I live and were gonna rent a hotel room. Pool, breakfast all that jazz.

Ok first, I can't go swimming. I mean I could, but Ide need a bathing suit and I can't break the news to her like that. lol So Its gonna come up and I gotta tell her. Since we haven't communicated she has went hard core religious on me and I really don't think she is gonna accept this. She has never met my g/f nor "me".

She has never met her grandkid, and since I got another one on the way she is probably gonna be a little overwhelmed. Then I gotta go and slap the trans bomb on her.

I realize I could probably get out of doing it, but....Here is where it gets real messy.

My mother is gonna be moving about 6 hrs away from where Im getting ready to move. So she won't get another chance to see me for quite some time. By then I won't be able to pass off as a guy no matter what.

So this is the one chance I got at it. Im nervous as it gets cause I really don't wanna screw it up. I don't really know when and how to approach this. Its different when the person your talking to knows you a little bit. But in the last 14 yrs my mother has been in my life very very very little.

So if anyone may have any friendly or not so friendly advice Ide appreciate it. Cause Im not evenclose to being prepared for this. I got 4 days. Help.

Miranda

[Carolyn Marie]

It a tough situation, Miranda, but given the circumstances, I agree that you have to do it during this get together, or at least you should. As hard as it is, doing it in person seems better than sending a letter, an e-mail, or a Facebook post.

There is no one right way to tell her. My suggestion, and its only that, is to do it chronologically, which may help you keep your thoughts organized. Start with your first memories of wanting to be a girl, work your way through cross dressing (if you did), and bring her up to date. Explain why you know you are trans, and explain what being trans is all about. Be sure and tell her that it isn't a phase, you can't be "cured" and that you know exactly how hard this process will be. Probably not a good idea to tell her about Laura's, since the reaction sometimes is, "Oh, those terrible Internet people are brainwashing you."

Others will have equally good ideas. I wish you all the luck in the world. As we frequently say here, hope for the best, and be prepared for the worst.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[~Nova~]

I might not be the best one to give advise, but I will tell you anyway. Their is no easy way, their are no magic words and their certainly is no way to predict the outcome.

I have told people onthe phone, in person, in letters, in Email, by text and it didn't matter, those that accept, accept. Those that don't. Don't

So my advise. Just take a deep breath, and spit it out. Your delivery won't influence the outcome at all.

Good luck

Autumn

[Guest ~Brenda~]

In times like these, just let things flow.

When the time is right.... you will know.

I wouldn't be surprised that your g/f outs you first to your mother.

Brenda