Opinions please

[~Nova~]

I told you the story about my brother. He has come around and says he is accepting. He has never met Autumn. I posted a picture of me with my male glasses. Studious? Gross maybe? Anyway, my SIL saw the picture and her first comment was the glasses gotta go. Her and my brother are optometrists.

I have been talking with SIL. She wants me to come over and go through the frames they have. Thousands and thousands of name brand frames. They will ave the lenses made in their lab.

My problem. My bother has never met Autumn. I'm nervous and scared. I'm gonna call him and set a time, but wanted your input before I call.

Questions

Dress? Casual? Shorts?

How do I keep my nerves in check?

Should I give him more time?

Meet outside the home, like dinner first?

Just deal Autumn and HTFU?

[Guest Lacey Lynne]

Autumn:

You asked, so I'm saying:

Go for it!

Do your typical upscale-casual look such as in the pics you've posted here recently. That look pops on you! Yeah, I'm biased. Also, it's the look I prefer too.

Do either Starbucks or lunch? Yeah, I would.

Keep us posted and good luck!

Lacey Lynne

[Guest]

Hi Autumn,

I'm going to make my first appearance at work soon, so can identify with the nerves.

For me, I've decided to dress casually with muted colors-Full makeup will be enough for all to see.

It might be good to have something to do, like picking out frames. It will take the initial edge away, then go out or something afterwards.

Best of luck! Let us know how it went, okay?

Love, Meg

[JJ]

Go with casual and slightly but not overly feminine. Actually go how you feel comfortable dressing as you every day. That will be the real you and you will be more relaxed.

It sounds like they are saying they are ready and that is a great offer. By all means go. Opportunities don't always come again if we ignore them and they may see it as a rejection if you don't go.

I want to see a pic of the new glasses when you get them!

Hugs

Johnny

[Guest Julie T]

A bundle of opinions, free for your consideration? [me grinning]

Dress? Casual? Shorts? Dress appropriately as any woman would for the occasion.

How do I keep my nerves in check? Attitude - dang it girl, you are what you are, not your problem. Let them meet the real you finally.

Should I give him more time? Nope

Meet outside the home, like dinner first? Nope

Just deal Autumn and HTFU? Yuppers

Just be happy and confident although you aren't really. Let them take that cue from you. Autumn, it's time now, right?

Julie

[~Nova~]

It seems it has been taken out of my hands. My roomie and SIL made plans for Sunday.

I'm not sure what I'll wear, but I'll post a pic.

Thanks for all the replies

Lacey, typical upscale-casual? I love you.

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi Autumn

Well... let's see.......

First, your glasses are just fine. If you need to wear glasses then so be it. I have to wear reading glasses when I am posting. I am blind as a bat seeing anything three feet or closer to me. Many times, people see me with glasses.

Secondly, coming out is very serious and should never be done in a public place. Dinner is fine, but don't cloud an evening out with coming out. Never forget what a bombshell coming out can be (believe me, I know, and I have been there).

I simply suggest that you greet your brother as yourself (glasses and all).

Love

Brenda