So I seriously need to come out to my class

[Guest sammyitscoldoutside]

Okay, so, I have no idea how it works in your school/s, but I share all my lessons with the same 15 people. Who, by the way, are all girls. I'm a bit afraid of girls.

Any way, I just started in this school, about three weeks ago, but I know for sure that this is the place I will go to almost every day for the upcoming three years. I need to make it the best years that I can.

So, my entire class - including teachers - call me by my chosen name. They all remember it very well, since it's not in the list, but I always point it out when I meet a new person. The problem is, only two girls in my class know that I'm transsexual (they're my friends, so I kinda told them after talking to them for a couple of hours, and they are very supportive).

I don't want to go to school every day for three years and have everyone call me "she" and "her".

Long story short: I want to - I need to - come out to my class.

Advice, please? Should I talk to a teacher, like the class' mentor, first, so that he can tell them-?

Should I gather them all in a room during a non-teacher lesson and just come out to them-?

How?

And what should I say?

The problem is, that I don't think any of them understand how much it means that they call me "Sam", and not the name that's in the lists. Therefore, I doubt they will care much about calling me by "he" and "him".

As said, advice?

I'd really, really appreciate it.

- Sammy

[Guest Feurmata]

I would suggest approaching your teacher in private about it first and discussing with them the most appropriate way and time to tell the rest of the class. If it were me, I'd prefer to tell them myself by just standing up at the start of class one morning and briefly explaining your situation to everyone, and open up a quick opportunity to answer any questions they might have.

Since your class is all one gender though, your teacher might choose to go to principal/headmaster, or whatever they're called in Sweden, and perhaps switching you to a class of all boys, which would probably be more comfortable for you than spending the next 3 years being the only boy in an all girls class.

Luckily they are all already familiar with you being Sammy, and should speed up their adjustment to the real you ^.^

Best of luck!

<33 Feur

[JenniferB]

Does your school have counselors or something similar to HR? I would receive advice there before proceeding with anything else.

{{{Hugs}}}

Jenny

[Guest sammyitscoldoutside]

Since your class is all one gender though, your teacher might choose to go to principal/headmaster, or whatever they're called in Sweden, and perhaps switching you to a class of all boys, which would probably be more comfortable for you than spending the next 3 years being the only boy in an all girls class.

Oh, no. That's really just a coincidence, and it's just something that I know people have been dealing with before. No problem there.

I'm actually not sure what to tell my teacher either. Even if it feels like I've already come out thirty-eleven times to a lot of people, I still find it confusing, and I can't help to think that they don't care so I shouldn't bother them.

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[Guest Mia J]

I think that Jenny is right. First talk to a counselor or adviser and see what they suggest. They may want to prepare the class with some information on what is going on with you. I would not advise standing up in class-time and announcing who you are to everyone.

Mia