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Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth

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Well today was my first day of work as the REAL me. Management did the announcement yesterday. Most people at work remembered to call me Gwen, there were one or two who called me by my old name. Many of my co workers came over to talk to me and say hi. the day seemed to go pretty good. And i felt like i was more focused on my work too. It was a GOOD day

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Hi Gwen,

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you - having a good first day will make the rest of them easier.

My first day at work was only 3 months ago, but seems like yesterday. Did you go there like me? Shaking on the inside, doing my darndest not to show it on the outside? It took a couple of days to get over the jitters, but, since then, wheeeeee!

Going to work is usually the last step of going full time. Is this it for you too? I do hope - there's nothing like waking up in the morning, knowing that you never have to put on that mask again.

All the best to you,

Love, Megan

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Glad you had a good day and I must say your picture shows a very professional dressed, kind woman.

Thank you John, that is very nice.

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Congratulations Gwen!

A scary step but one of the most rewarding as people begin to see you for the first time.

I am glad that it went so well, as for those who slip on the name (and pronouns) you know if it is accidental or not and most are accidental so give them time but do let them know that that is no longer your name.

My first day was uneventful, almost a disappointment after all of the dread that lead up to it - I am glad that yours went well too.

Now you can see that reward that we all talk about - being you all of the time.

Love ya,

Sally

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Congratulations Gwen,

I can picture the mix of jubilation and anxiety you feel now.

I'm going to work as Jenny in close to one month, so I'm right behind you.

{{{Hugs }}}

Jenny

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November 3rd was my first day. I was all ready for this magical feeling, but I turnd out just to be another day at work.

Congrats. A hint. Some people will make a big effort to pronoun an name you correctly, some won't. If at all possible, just stay away fom those that can't seem to care.

Best of luck

Autumn

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Well so far the first two weeks have gone ok. People still sometimes slip us with names and or pronouns but they are being nice. One of the ladies i work with come by every day to see what i an wearing (i dress much nicer these days). So all in all id say its going ok

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Congratulations on getting to the point where you are full time at work. Your outfit looks appropriate and good. My workplace uses uniforms so for me full time would be changes with any hormones on the face, and wearing a wig. Hotter weather chest armsband whatever other changes do with muscle loss on upper body.

Nice to hear there is a lady coming by to see what you are wearing. See how you are doing. :-)

The pronoun part just takes them a little bit of time I'm guessing. It's been engrained in them so long for you.

One less fear and hurdle overcome to live your life. :)

Krisina

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You're very fortunate to have such an accomodating employer and open minded colleagues. Also for what its worth, you appear to pass quite well in my opinion.

T

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Congrats, hon! Just be thankful your first day wasn't in front of a bunch of high school students :P

Life can be wonderful if we give it a chance.

xoxo

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Congratulations on coming out at work! I was so very close to doing the same thing at my work and yesterday they announced that they were closing. But now I will also start living full time. I think you look awesome. I imagine in a month or so the proper pronouns will be used. Good luck and I hope all gos well for you. You have a wonderful new year!!!

Hugs Gail

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