What Is It You Like Or Desire Most About Being a Woman?

[Guest Svenna]

On a very primal level, I long to be loved as a woman, deeply, firmly and with conviction...

Tonight, my spouse kissed me for the first time since I came out to her as trans late last summer. It was heaven!

For me, it is all about the LOVE...

Love I say!

Svenna

[Guest Cloudygirl27]

A piece of mind.

[Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth]

For me i think of of the biggest things is that I that girl i see in the mirror SO much better than that ugly guy that used to be there (I wonder if her just got transfered to another mirror...). and I like the fact that I can now be social. I used to be so uncomfortable in social situations, but now I can follow my girly instincts and have a good time.

now as far as everything else ...

Spandex in clothes is great

having to iron not so much

having a purse with all you stuff and not having to worry about leaving stuff in pockets is a win

but not having a pocket for those times you really need one, not good

Shoes Shoes Shoes!!!

now if they would just come in my size...

not being expected to keep up with sports.. so great

you know there really isn't any down side to that one...

[Guest Fey]

The clothes are more fun, the designs, the colors, the textures, etc but I think what I yearn for the most about being a girl is to be treated like one. I want to be a daughter, a sister, an auntie, a mother. I want to be able to be in a group of girls and be one of them because I identify alot more with them than I do with guys. I usually feel akward in a group of guys somehow, like uncomfortable, when they start talking 'guy talk'. But put me in a group of girls and I instantly click, except for the fact that they see me as another guy =/

I wanna have a relationship with people as a girl but when I'm alone, I want to be able to look in the mirror and see a confident, beautiful, strong woman that I know is in there.

Wishing all the best,

Fey

[Guest heatherf]

I can stop asking "Would a guy do this?" before every action I do. I can stop paying attention to things that don't interest me so I can make small talk. I can stop pretending I'm lost in the women's sections of stores. (I must have an awful sense of direction). I can start talking to who I want about what I want. (At my kid's basketball games, one of the mom's is a great dresser. while dads talk sports, I'd love to talk to her about her outfits, but...)

[Cyndee]

My question is more about, what are the qualities of being female, of being a woman, that you most desire (if you're not there yet) or most love (if you've already transitioned or are almost there)? What makes being a woman unique, valuable, and important to you, as an individual?

Good Morning Carolyn

Motherhood, I love children and caring for them. I think carrying a child and giving birth would be the ultimate womanly experience. I have gotten as close as I can in this life with my family, perhaps somewhere beyond this existence my dream will come true. I always loved interacting with the other Mom's when I was in Mom # 2 mode doing things with our kids as they grew. Raising and caring for children is especially gratifying to me. I have always loved listening to and participating in women's conversations, there is a special bond between them and warmth I never really could experience in the male world (so cold at times).

Love

Cindy -

[Guest Szenzie]

I'm discovering what it feels like to love and respect myself... to know I'm not broken. It's amazing feeling it for the first time. In a more lighthearted sense, I really love my clothes too! My style is really coming together exactly as I always envisioned ----- so much fun!

[Guest Silverdawn77]

honestly its breasts and long hair... i always wanted breasts and long hair. i just started growing my hair long and i have a really good padded bra(a lil poor right now for proper breast forms so i make due) for when i go out i got really curly hair so i like to straigten it

[Guest Kelly-087]

What do I desire most? To look in the mirror and not feel alienated from my appearance, and to no longer see a frown but a smile on my face.

[Guest Jaimie]

Well, so i can act and feel like myself =)

[Guest chngnwnd]

I wholeheartedly agree with Heatherf - but add that it is nice to not have to answer the follow up question as well: "Ok, since a guy would do this, how does a guy do this?"

Also, I have grown rather fond of the fact that I can wear whatever I want and have it considered tasteful/fashionable instead of just plain "wierd" when I am out in the world.

hugs

Bobbi

[Guest cynthash]

I wholeheartedly agree with Heatherf - but add that it is nice to not have to answer the follow up question as well: "Ok, since a guy would do this, how does a guy do this?"

Also, I have grown rather fond of the fact that I can wear whatever I want and have it considered tasteful/fashionable instead of just plain "wierd" when I am out in the world.

hugs

Bobbi

^That.

[Guest NatashaJade]

Being honest and living authentically. Everything else is just gravy.

Oh, and boots. I love me some boots.

xoxo

[Guest Stormrider2112]

I'll finally be able to say I bought one of my favorite guitars off eBay because it was purple with an awesome ivy neck inlay rather than "it was a parts guitar that I happened to like the way it plays!"

It's my primary "whammy bar" guitar (my main MAIN guitar is an awesome '79 reissue natural finish BC Rich Bich)...

Also, I'll finally be able to show interest in clothes (already have my "first day out" outfit picked out!) and be able to style my hair without question

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

I love being able to have a conversation with almost any woman anywhere and feel like I fit right in, even if its talk about periods and hot flashes.I love belonging to the "woman's club." And yes, I love shopping.

For me it's a love-hate relationship. I love being able to talk to most of my friends about almost anything and I love that they reveal intimate details about their lives to me. It's part of being in the club. lol. What I don't like is if someone doesn't talk to me, but I learned earlier in my transition that some women just really don't like other women so they won't befriend them, talk to them, or even look at them. They prefer the company of guys because, in their mind, guys aren't catty or back-stabby like women are. Although I'm not catty or back-stabby I guess since I'm perceived as female I'm automatically lumped into that category.

I love the attention I get when I put in the effort to look amazing, both from other women and men.

..then again I seethe when I see guys trip over their feet just to have a chance to talk to "that cute blonde over there".

I love being able to talk to my friends and guys nearby have no clue what the heck we're talking about or just chalk it up to girl talk and they just roll their eyes. Or if a couple guys are sitting around talking and there's maybe two or three girls nearby listening we can talk amongst ourselves or look over at the other girl and without saying a word have a conversation about whoever is yammering on about some trucker tale.

[Guest mistygirl7]

Humm.... for me, part of it have o do with clothes, to wear anything you want regardless how it looks compar to males they care about the apparents of male means to them that it has too look and seem masculine enough for them to waer it so they don't preseen as gay.

Than there's that womenly bonding you have with other women. To be able to shear any thoughts and feeling. Just don't over do it cause it like another thing it get aynoring after a while. Shear and talking about relationship and sexual info, which is funny. There is not much different in ways other females

communicate like men do just a little different even tho its still girl talk.

As far as relationnship goes as I an single. I was dating and I love to express my intreset in the guy, let him be a man that he is. I love to show passionate affection towards him and sexually. Love how they want to provide and protect you. Love to be swept off my feet.

I like how guys can be a gentalmen and hold the door for you, and let you in first, and want to help you with certain things.

I certian ly hate doing alot of thing when a was a boy and still get treated the same way by my family thinking I still muscle which I don't anymore. I'm weak now. Like help move Heavy funitures and doing manly work outside. I hated it, even wearing a suit I just wanted to rip it off and wear a dress or not go at all to any formal event.

As Iv been out and full time I'm still not included in any female event with the women in my family.

[Guest EvenClose]

I finally feel like when I talk to someone...they are on the same level. Knowing you are conversing in a way that is congruent with who you are after suppressing that for almost 30 years is just a mega sigh of relief.

[Guest Deena]

This thread is fun but also depressing for those of us that aren't where we want to be. Huhhhhh. (exhaling). But I think the answers are great!

I just want to be able to talk to women and not have them feel like they can't be honest with me or let their guard down because I'm a "man".

I hope I'm not the last person to reply to this. I'm getting a psychosis because I seem to kill threads all the time. I really don't mean to!!

Deena

[Guest Ashley_Dianne]

for me it is the freedom to not feeling like I have to live up to standards that don't fit me. the clothes are nice as well.

[Guest Melanie Dawn]

Simple answer? It's the shoes.

Lizzie

Seriously, People talk to me now and I talk to them. As a woman I am not seen as a threat.

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Well said! hehe Actually the fact that i haven't worn pants in well over a year. No i don't go bottomless, i wear skirts and dresses everyday.

[Guest Stormrider2112]

This thread is fun but also depressing for those of us that aren't where we want to be. Huhhhhh. (exhaling). But I think the answers are great!

I just want to be able to talk to women and not have them feel like they can't be honest with me or let their guard down because I'm a "man".

I hope I'm not the last person to reply to this. I'm getting a psychosis because I seem to kill threads all the time. I really don't mean to!!

Deena

Yeah, it'll be nice to not have to try to be a part of the "ol' boys club" or try to be hypermasculine and whatnot. It'll be such a relief to not be expected to laugh at fart jokes or Larry the Cable Guy...

Oh yeah, I can wear me some purple, too! (I had to say I liked the Utah Jazz in high school to wear purple ...I freakin' hate basketball! But I love football and baseball...GO BENGALS AND CUBBIES!)

[Reagen]

Honestly I agree with Natasha. just being honest with who I am, and boots are nice.

Oh and red nail polish!!!

[Guest MissSiul]

Being able to express emotions without shame

Dress the way you want to dress

Being able to look at guys without getting creepy "what the intercourse" feedback look

those are the one that came to my mind,very creative topic^^

[Guest Maitane]

I like the fact that you have so much to choose from in dress from casual to dress up dress down cloths but Ifeel if you are trully a a woman you want everyone around you to notice you be it looks, appearance your. I want everyone to see me notice me for me maybe Ill be a woman of mystery.

[Guest Ashley_Dianne]

shoes, shoes, shoes and also shoes. the nail treatments are nice as well