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I keep chickening out!

Guest ShaunaMichelle

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Guest Shauna B

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I spent all of last week planning for yesterday to be the day that I was going to tell my wife that I am trans and that I plan to start HRT. Well, yesterday got here and I chickened out! She was nauseous most of the day and I used that as an excuse to not tell her. This morning would have been perfect. We slept in (kids at in-laws), went to brunch, but I still chickened out. Now, she's taking a nap I have to leave to get the kids soon!

I know I have to tell her and I want to. Also, I have an appointment with my gp tomorrow and will hopefully be starting HRT (I got my letter last week). I made a promise to myself and my gt that I would not start HRT until I told my wife everything. So, I guess I will tell her tonight during the Super Bowl (we only watch it for the commercials, and the kids will be in bed).

OMG, I am so disappointed with myself for not telling her already!

I hope you all have had a great weekend!

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Shauna

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Shauna..........

Remember.......if you start taking HRT before you tell her, she'll most likely consider it a serious breech of faith....

To unilaterally start a life changing thing like HRT without her knowledge is going to be very hard to rectify to a spouse....

Think about that.....ok?

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Dee Jay

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Guest Teri G

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one of the biggest mistakes i made was to experiement with hrt without telling my wife. that was a major breech of trust with her. don't do it. you have much to work out with her before taking this step.

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teri

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Shauna,

It's hard and so scary, but I know you'll get it done. I'll be thinking of you and saying a little prayer it goes well for you tonight.

Johnny

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I can understand where you are coming from Shauna as this could be so life changing. Like others have said don't start to take HRT until you have talked this over with your wife.

My prayers and hopes are also with you in this task.

May it go well and without hurt.

Mia

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My tummy is in knots for you, Shauna!!!

I've got my fingers crossed...

Remember, you have just begun a long and complex journey, you will not be able to get it all done in a single day. You are just beginning what will hopefully turn into genuine dialogue, but it may not start off so smoothly. You are bringing big changes, be strong...

Love and more Love, Svenna

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