I CAME OUT TO MY MOMMY!

[Guest rayne1995]

I finally worked up the nerve to tell my mommy that I need to be a girl. It took FOREVER to do it though,about 5 months. I've only been in contact with her since September, and most of that time was spent with me being in denial about my gender and trying to "fix" the "problem" by acting as masculine as I could stomach. Anyway she took it much better than I could have ever dreamed. I could tell she's been living in a cave for the past 35 years though because she asked "you sure your not just gay", after I explained to the best of my ability what gender dysphoria is, she said "you need to live somewhere that you feel comfortable and if you ever get kicked out of your house just know that you will never be homeless." I am so happy! now at my drug/syc evaluation I can come out and start to become the little girl that I should have been born as. And I want have to worry about what my homophobic father and step"mother" do to me. The only problem is I'm on probation for 2 more months and I probably won't get to move out of state. Anyway I just wanted to let you guys and girls know that I'm one step closer to becoming the little girl that I should have always been!

[Guest Krisina]

Thanks for sharing that with us. It's good to hear your Mom wants to be supportive. Two more months and your probation is over. Hopefully that will go by quite fast for you. One step closer to becoming the girl you always were on the inside.

Krisina

[KathrynJulia]

Rayne:

I went to my doctor Thursday with legs shaking scared that I would lose him both as a physician and a friend. I told both his wife who is an RN in his office and to Dr G. It went spectacularly. They showed me such kindness that I still can’t believe how things went. I'm 57 years old and have carried this awful secret around all my life. I let a child psychologist ridicule me into hiding out of fear of anyone knowing when I was just a 6 year old kid. We can't change the homophobic and anti-transgendered people. We just walk away and chip away somewhere else until we build a place where we can safely live and be happy as who we really are. We are not sick people. Rayne, I’m proud of you for your courage as I know how hard it is to tell the people who are closes to us about ourselves. We risk possible denial, hostility and anger and for many people you just don't know what their reaction will be. I’m here to give you support and friendship. I to live in Missouri in Columbia and l’m willing to listen anytime you need a friendly ear to talk to. I’ve raised two kids and my youngest son has battled drug issues for ten years and has been in and out of the court system. My son is fortunate to have two loving parents to fight for him. A lot of young people have made the same mistakes you have made and will survive them. Drug abuse is a medical issue and should be handled by physicians trained to help. Instead we run mere kids through the courts and mess up their lives. Your mom is your advocate and is on your side. So you are not alone Rayne because of your mother’s love. You are going become her daughter someday. Think about that.

Hugs Kathryn

[Carolyn Marie]

Rayne, I'm very, very happy for you. You now have a place of refuge in case things go badly at home. That must be a huge relief for you. You have a ways to go, and getting off probation should be a top priority. But you can do it.

You're no longer a litte girl, hon. You are becoming a young lady. Way to go.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest rikkicd64]

Rayne:

I went to my doctor Thursday with legs shaking scared that I would lose him both as a physician and a friend. I told both his wife who is an RN in his office and to Dr G. It went spectacularly. They showed me such kindness that I still can’t believe how things went. I'm 57 years old and have carried this awful secret around all my life. I let a child psychologist ridicule me into hiding out of fear of anyone knowing when I was just a 6 year old kid. We can't change the homophobic and anti-transgendered people. We just walk away and chip away somewhere else until we build a place where we can safely live and be happy as who we really are. We are not sick people. Rayne, I’m proud of you for your courage as I know how hard it is to tell the people who are closes to us about ourselves. We risk possible denial, hostility and anger and for many people you just don't know what their reaction will be. I’m here to give you support and friendship. I to live in Missouri in Columbia and l’m willing to listen anytime you need a friendly ear to talk to. I’ve raised two kids and my youngest son has battled drug issues for ten years and has been in and out of the court system. My son is fortunate to have two loving parents to fight for him. A lot of young people have made the same mistakes you have made and will survive them. Drug abuse is a medical issue and should be handled by physicians trained to help. Instead we run mere kids through the courts and mess up their lives. Your mom is your advocate and is on your side. So you are not alone Rayne because of your mother’s love. You are going become her daughter someday. Think about that.

Hugs Kathryn

Kathryn,that is very good advice and very supportive of Rayne and her situation,thanks. Rikki...

[Guest ThisisSparkle]

I went theough some of the same things when i told my mom. She needed 6 montha to get used tothe thought of me. But im 28. And i told her this last year. But in the end i came to a conclusion. It took me 27 yeara to figure myself out. So its going to take some people time too. So give people time. Dont expect anything from anyone. Then it can be a surprise either way.

You can only be who you are and thats all. You have people here who understand and can be supportive. You just need to live your life to the fullest. And i agree you are now becoming the young woman you have always wanted to be.

Your friend, Sparkle

Peace