Gender Bullies

[Guest Alder]

I just realized that one of my friends is a 'gender bully' in a sense. He was telling me today that when he was informing another friend whom had met me only one or twice before, that I now go by male pronouns and such... then my friend more or less threatened to kick the others donkey if he had problems with it...

I guess it's supportive bullying... but still bullying. (It was amusing to watch the guy flinch later one though when he learned that not only am I transitioning, but that I'm 'gay')

[Guest agfrommd]

I guess it's supportive bullying... but still bullying.

I would agree. When the threat of violence is there, even as a joke, it's bullying.

Of course I'm a child of the '60s. People were running around trying to make love not war, so my tolerance for violence in any of its forms is probably a bit less than most people's.

[Guest Alder]

I guess it's supportive bullying... but still bullying.

I would agree. When the threat of violence is there, even as a joke, it's bullying.

Of course I'm a child of the '60s. People were running around trying to make love not war, so my tolerance for violence in any of its forms is probably a bit less than most people's.

I'm at least happy I didn't learn about it for weeks after. I would have been upset all night... I guess though, that by the end of the night the judgmental friend had learned a it on things and is more genuinely accepting of those who don't fit into the binary, not to say he's fully accepting but such things take time and I'm happy that I was able to be part of his view shifting.

[Guest Melancholy]

Luna; No, I have not. If I do, YouTube will swipe it up and then clue in my evilish brother.

And Micha ; It's chaos to them.

[Guest Juniper Blue]

Oh Luna Selene ... I would be honored to be quoted! How sweet!

Alder ... a bully bullying a bully ... wow.

[Guest Micha]

And Micha ; It's chaos to them.

Daft illegitimate children.

[Guest Alder]

Oh Luna Selene ... I would be honored to be quoted! How sweet!

Alder ... a bully bullying a bully ... wow.

My friends not the only one!

[Guest Micha]

Good to see people taking a stand, not so good to see violence is still a part of the equation. People make me sad.

[Guest Juniper Blue]

My head is spinning on this one Alder!! Peace with Justice !! Peace with Justice!! PLEASE!! There has got to be a better way! But for now ... ??? At least you are safe.

[Guest Alder]

-nod- Thankfully I live in Seattle, so I rarely run into issues to start. My bully friend though is kind of pushing me to learn self defense fighting things though... I usually skirt about the subject(even though it wouldn't hurt) Just because he gets all macho binary on me. He's pulled the line "now that you're goin to be a man, there are things you need to know... number one, can you weatherize a house for winter." (yes I can btw) I usually just stare at him, then laugh... He means well but I don't feel the need to fall into the binary XD

[Guest agfrommd]

"now that you're goin to be a man, there are things you need to know... number one, can you weatherize a house for winter."

Hmm. Wonder why men need to know how to weatherize, but women don't?

Maybe we're so emotionally locked down that a chill surrounds us?

People behave as if there's a rulebook somewhere that says all the things that men need to be able to do. I wonder who wrote it and where they get off deciding. I've actually fantasized meeting him/her and telling him/her off.

[Guest Alder]

"now that you're goin to be a man, there are things you need to know... number one, can you weatherize a house for winter."

Hmm. Wonder why men need to know how to weatherize, but women don't?

Maybe we're so emotionally locked down that a chill surrounds us?

People behave as if there's a rulebook somewhere that says all the things that men need to be able to do. I wonder who wrote it and where they get off deciding. I've actually fantasized meeting him/her and telling him/her off.

Well my friends defense is "I'm from the south" and feels men should be able to fully build a home from the ground up... I think even without the gender issues he'd force me to learn how to weatherize a house though.... if I had my own....

[Guest Juniper Blue]

Oh ... but Martial Arts can be FUN!!! Especially if it involves some kind of wrestling!! Weeeeeeeeeeeeee !!

[Guest]

Oh ... but Martial Arts can be FUN!!! Especially if it involves some kind of wrestling!! Weeeeeeeeeeeeee !!

I love to wrestle, but tickling is still my only real defense. Yep, that's why my nose goes in three directions.

Love, Megan

[Guest Juniper Blue]

You have a lovely NOSE Megan!

Hey .. Let's try tickling the bullies!! They will never expect that! Peace with Justice!

[Guest agfrommd]

Oh ... but Martial Arts can be FUN!!! Especially if it involves some kind of wrestling!! Weeeeeeeeeeeeee !!

Wrestling. Ugh.

The mere mention of that word gives me PTSD. We had to do wrestling in gym. Of course not being your typical male, my 3D understanding was substandard. I always got whupped, no matter who I wrestled, even if they were much smaller. If I was lucky, the guy wouldn't do something to hurt me and wouldn't taunt me while it was happening.

I wasn't lucky very often.

That unit in gym probably only lasted a month or two but I still shudder thinking of it, more than 30 years later.

[Guest Alder]

Oh ... but Martial Arts can be FUN!!! Especially if it involves some kind of wrestling!! Weeeeeeeeeeeeee !!

hehe, yeah we usually spend 10-15 minutes on actual moves then spend the rest of the time putting me into compression holds while he tries to find one I actually suffer through... still yet to find one.(I'm pliable XD)