Came Out, Relationship Takes A Twist

[Guest Misa]

So a little while ago I was accidentally outed by my girlfriend whome was going through personal letters to myself on my pc. This seemed like a good thing, I was out allready to selected friends, but telling her seemed so hard, and it was all of a sudden made simple. But as time went on she seemed to think I was a masochist (excuse spelling im on a hiptop) and has been trying to make me into some sort of slave thinking I liked this sort of thing! I wouldn't have a bar of it, now she is leaving me because she says im lying about my gender issues. She doesn't get it, its not about that sort of stuff, im a normal girl on the inside. Hopefully oneday outside too. The whole ordeal brought me to tears for the first time in over 2 years, I hadn't been able to cry until last night, and it felt so good, finally, tears finally. Losing her makes things harder in short term, but easier in long term I feel.

Just needed to vent, needed to write it down. Ugh, I have the sads...xo

[Sally]

Misa,

I know that bittersweet feeling! You hate to lose her, but you know that you are better off.

I'll give you the at least you are better off because....talk!

At least you hadn't already been married, like I was, or even had children! You are so much better off losing her now with a lot less baggage to get rid of.

You already know all of that, so onto the good stuff!

You know you are a woman when crying feels so good!

I have been crying a lot lately, when I read a sad post a happy one, when someone tells me that they are happy that I wrote to them, a sad or happy TV show..... youget the idea!

Tears are very cleansing for the soul. (I'd better stop now, I'm getting into the deep end and I'm a lousy swimmer )

Curl up in this comfy chair, I'll get the Hot cocoa and some cookies - do you want the mini marshmellows?

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Karen-1954]

I am so very sorry that your relationship didnt work out but, like Sally said, beglad that you were not married. If there is anything that we can do to help you through this rough time, we are only a few keystrokes away. Relationships may come and go but true friends are forever, you are among true friends.

Hugs,

Karen

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Misa

I am so sorry you lost your girlfriend. You said she just didn't get it? I suppose there is no hope she'll come back?

Well, sweetheart - it makes my heart ache. It is SO HARD being like we are.

Bless you honey - may your next one be the one who hears and understands.

Liz

[Guest katie019]

i completely understand. my fiance broke up with me two weeks before i left for iraq. and i couldnt cry at all. no matter how much i wanted to. then three days later it finally came out. after that i realized that it was meant to be that way.

your meant to move forward, there will be someone else down the road who will accept you for who you are. and youll have a beautiful realationship.

but right now the universe is telling you to focus on you and what you need to do.

things always get better. to have the good you have to go through the bad first.

huggs.

kat.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

So a little while ago I was accidentally outed by my girlfriend whome was going through personal letters to myself on my pc. This seemed like a good thing, I was out allready to selected friends, but telling her seemed so hard, and it was all of a sudden made simple. But as time went on she seemed to think I was a masochist (excuse spelling im on a hiptop) and has been trying to make me into some sort of slave thinking I liked this sort of thing! I wouldn't have a bar of it, now she is leaving me because she says im lying about my gender issues. She doesn't get it, its not about that sort of stuff, im a normal girl on the inside. Hopefully oneday outside too. The whole ordeal brought me to tears for the first time in over 2 years, I hadn't been able to cry until last night, and it felt so good, finally, tears finally. Losing her makes things harder in short term, but easier in long term I feel.

Just needed to vent, needed to write it down. Ugh, I have the sads...xo

I know the feeling all too well, the first person I told was my wife of 8 years and all hell broke loose. She needs her space and in many ways a good couselor. I cannot force her to see one and sshe has told me there is no way she will but then all the problems in that relationship were my fault as far as she was concerned. Not sure how things are going to work in the long run, but things will find a way to work out.