A delicate situation

[Guest Amberley_Vail]

Since moving out from my parents place, my transition has gone pretty well. I can wear what I like, dont have to do washings in secret and generally be me.

I went back home for a visit today, and arrived when only my younger sister was in. We got to talking and I told her that Im seeking the help of a therapist, though I didnt say what for. baby steps.

A little later on she told me that my parents arent talking, and havent been for about a fortnight.

I dont know what to do. Im thinkinh having a son / daughter in a situation like mine might be either the catalyst to get them talking again or the straw that breaks the dromedary.

[Guest Leah1026]

I dont know what to do. Im thinkinh having a son / daughter in a situation like mine might be either the catalyst to get them talking again or the straw that breaks the dromedary.

Do what you must for you. Don't guilt trip yourself over what your parents may or may not do. They are responsible for their own lives, not you.

[VickySGV]

If this is a serious rift between the two of them, it has been coming on probably longer than your GD, because it started long before you were born. No bet, but my experience makes this seem safe to imagine.

As Leah said, do what you have to and do not try to let them guilt trip you. They are both over the legal age to vote and buy booze just as you are (or will become). You may even get to see them from a "parent's eye view" which will teach you something. I doubt that your coming out will have any impact on what they do in regard to each other, but if they are shooting at each other, you could get hit in the crossfire. Let them keep their minds on their issues and you stay out of them. You are out of the house. I know you care about them, but my kids say that I and their mother's divorce made things easier on them by quite a distance.

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

I'd try to find out what "not talking" means. My mom and dad dont "talk". My mom tells dad what to do and he grunts. They are doing fine. Well, fine for my parents... They're going on 45 years married, and I don't know if my father has ever spoken a complete sentance to my mother.

Are there evil looks? Glares? Thrown ashtrays? Shots fired?

Might just be my own screwed up childhood speaking here but I don't see a problem until something gets broken. You should leave them alone to work out whatever it is, until one tries to kill the other. Then maybe get involved. If it's safe...

[Guest lostflower]

I learned the hard way you can't let yourself get dragged into a fight between your parents

It's not up to children to fix their parents

They need to fix their problems all by themselves if they haven't figured out how to communicate without talking at each other instead of to each other and ranting and screaming

You have your own problems and a life of your own to live.