Obsessed much?

[Guest Alex_Di]

Hello again, guys.

I feel like I'm getting obsessed with my transsexualism.

All I seem to be doing nowadays is thinking and

searching the Internet about it. I came to a self-realization quite recently,

less than two weeks ago.

I'm wondering if it's healthy and "normal" to feel this way

at that stage. If it keeps up, I'm afraid it will become way too

counterproductive. Concentration is very important in my field

of computer science. I don't want to suppress it however, partly

due to my happiness and partly due to the fear of backing out. Backing out

is not an option, I don't have to tell you that.

Does the obsession become less accentuated over time?

How do I manage it efficiently if it doesn't? I'm a bit lost here.

[Carolyn Marie]

Yes, Alex, I think its fairly common. I know that I was consumed with it for a very long time, once I decided to do something about it. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, unless it keeps you from your daily routine or important other things you need to be doing (i.e interfering with your life).

I suppose some of us don't move on from being obsessed in some fashion (see Carolyn's post count ), but we try to make it productive.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Charlize]

We certainly do become obsessed at least for a time. it is a rather large step to transition even partially. All the steps of coming out, how to act, dress and otherwise become what we may have always have been but have held within is a real endeavor. I'm somewhat calmer now. I've been full time for about 5 months and its beginning to be just me. But then tomorrow i'll be starting HRT. Thats on my mind for sure. Its a long path that we are quite aware of. It is such a difference in some ways and not at all in others but its always part of me now.

Don't worry if you can just take it on and enjoy your path.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest]

Yep, I would definitely say obsession is common/normal.

As CM mentioned as long as it does not interfer with your life.

I find that I go in cycles of wanting/needing to find information for a while and then it all seems to fizzle out for a while.

Take it all in stride it is all part of the journey.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

If it's not normal then I need some help too.

Think of it like this. For such a long time you denied yourself something, lets say cheeseburgers. For whatever reason you simply didn't eat them. Then after 10 years of smelling them, seeing them, and not eating them you say "to heck with it! I'm eating cheeseburgers again!" More than likely you will go totaly nuts about them for a while. Eating them once a day, researching chains to see who makes the best, finding forums and chatting about cheeseburger experiences you have had, discussing if fries or onion rings are best with a cheeseburger... On and on. Then after a while it will just be a thing you do and you will settle down and stop being so obsesive about it.

At first I cross dressed frequently, once a day at lunch at least. But already I am relaxing a bit and can go a few days without it. I don't look online at womens clothes and shoes as much as I used to and I don't hit the second hand and thrift shops as much as I did at first. Dont panic, it's natural to go a bit overboard when you finaly allow yourself to be yourself. You will calm down about it in time and just be who you are.

[Guest Alex_Di]

Thank you for your support and understanding, ladies. I'm glad we're all on the same frequency.

[Guest]

Hi Alex,

I did my transition in early September last year. For several months leading up to that, Trans seemed to be a part of every sentence I spoke or thought. By, mid-September, I was beginning to choke at that sound!

It took a mental purge to get back to regular thoughts, just living my life after transition. Now, a year later, I'm still involved in the trans community, but my own transition is essentially done and is on my mind only occasionally. Certainly the obsession is long past.

It takes a lot of focus to orchestrate transition - at least it did for me. It was an obsession! Happily, no more...

Love, Megan

[Guest Alex_Di]

Hi Alex,

I did my transition in early September last year. For several months leading up to that, Trans seemed to be a part of every sentence I spoke or thought. By, mid-September, I was beginning to choke at that sound!

It took a mental purge to get back to regular thoughts, just living my life after transition. Now, a year later, I'm still involved in the trans community, but my own transition is essentially done and is on my mind only occasionally. Certainly the obsession is long past.

It takes a lot of focus to orchestrate transition - at least it did for me. It was an obsession! Happily, no more...

Love, Megan

Well, I guess that's just how others have said thus far. That obsession is a feedback to our denial. Simple action and reaction.

[Guest Julie_Mason]

Think of it like this. For such a long time you denied yourself something, lets say cheeseburgers. For whatever reason you simply didn't eat them. Then after 10 years of smelling them, seeing them, and not eating them you say "to heck with it! I'm eating cheeseburgers again!" More than likely you will go totaly nuts about them for a while. Eating them once a day, researching chains to see who makes the best, finding forums and chatting about cheeseburger experiences you have had, discussing if fries or onion rings are best with a cheeseburger... On and on. Then after a while it will just be a thing you do and you will settle down and stop being so obsesive about it.

For reasons completely inexplicable to me, I find myself really wanting a cheeseburger right now....

Thanks, MsGsptlsnz (lol )

-Julie M.<3

[Guest MsGsptlsnz]

For reasons completely inexplicable to me, I find myself really wanting a cheeseburger right now....

I wrote that after eating a double cheeseburger from Dairy Queen. I not only had them on the brain, I had them on the breath too.