I feel that I need to tell her

[Guest Federica]

but I am really scared. I love my wife so much and I am afraid to lose her. I feel like I am about to explode but I still cannot find the courage to tell her that I want to be like her, that I want to be a woman...

xoxo Fede

[Guest]

Fede.

We are all scared of the unknown.

Telling your SO that you want to be a woman takes a lot of courage.

Yes you may loose her but it is better than carrying the hidden burden for the rest of your life.

Your SO may just surprise you and accept the news whole heartedly.

Your SO may also require some time to come to terms with the news. You have known your "whole life" which she has not.

It is better to come out sooner rather than later. Time does not make it any easier.

Only you know when the time is right though. Be true to yourself and your journey will be easier.

Remember "meglio soli che male accompagnati", better alone than in bad company.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest angels wings]

Fede holding something so big inside is only doing you and her more damage . You deserve to be you and she deserves to know the truth . I have been married for a lonnnnnng time and I never saw this coming . Some wives choose to stay and grow with their partners in this journey . Some can't because of their own personal reasons . Everyone responds differently . There is no doubt she will go through a lot of emotions but with love , patience , gentleness and honesty you both can get through this .

I have chosen to stay with my partner . She told me a year ago . The journey has been hard . Is it worth it ? Yes.

We have been climbing this monstrous mountain such hard and painful work but we have enjoyed beautiful rainbows and glorious sunrises . We have danced in the rain and held each other tight in those stormy cold thundering nights . We have got through it , you and your wife can to .

You mention in another post your wife knows you have gender problems , hopefully this won't come as a shock .

There is an S/O forum were many wives have expressed how they feel . This may give you a better understanding on how your wife may react . Be gentle reassure her be honest and keep hugging .

From my heart I wish you and your wife all the best .

Be true to you first

Angel (((((hugs))))

[Charlize]

Angel has put so much there for you to consider. I think that early in my marriage my wife and i would have broken up. I couldn't stand that. I held off. I don't regret that or recommend it either. It is really your path. When i finally came out to my wife it was in an honest discussion about seeing a gender therapist (GT). That was a great step for me. My GT did a lot to help me care for my wife as i also felt some forward progress. We are about 7 months into me living full time as a women. We even have matching nighties. She has accepted this in such an understanding way. I am so fortunate. After 41 years we are even closer now.

Again, its up to you. Move slowly and as honestly as you can. Get some help.

The coming out forum is a good place to check out, and we are here for you. I hope it works well for you as it did for me.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest Federica]

Thanks to all for your answers. I do not know when, but I do know that soon something is going to change for me.

Angel, your partner is really lucky to have you at her side in her journey to womanhood.

XOXO, Kika

[Guest angels wings]

Thank you Kika . I'm very fortunate to have her . You will know in your heart when the right time is .

We're here for you

Angel (((((hugs)))))