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Guest AlyTheGreatAngel

So I saw a post like this on another website and it seemed really interesting to start a topic about this. :o

Anyway I met this guy online who happens to be trans and like it came out that we go to the same doctors office xD. He's so cute and I like him :3.

Back to the point though!

Transmen would you date transwomyn? Yes or no? and why so?

Transwomyn would you date transmen? Yes or no? and why so?

:D

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Good topic, Aly.

If I were dating, I would not rule out transmen as partners. I've met some really cute ones. :)

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Izzybell

Honestly, for me at least, I don't think it really matters whether they are trans or not. If you have that connection with them, that's all that matter. ^_^

-Isabella

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Guest AlyTheGreatAngel

I FORGOT To Mention something! I feel très bizarre dating bioguys. I don't mean to label anything, but they only reason I why I prefer transguys is not because I feel I could be understood at a better level. I feel uncomfortable liking bioguys, but I haveeeeeee. So yoah :o

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Hi Aly,

There is a married couple that I know. FTM & MTF, both having transitioned long ago. It seems like it's working well enough for them.

I'm more attracted to females, but have also had the same thoughts, that being in a relationship with another transperson might be ideal just in the depth of understanding that would exist.

Best of luck to you and your friend!

Love, Megan

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Guest Kelly-087

I'd potentially date a trans guy. Although, probably would try not to. Why would I? I'd be attracted to a feminine looking male, and it wouldnt seem right to date a transguy for that reason. Yes, I have known some transguys that I was very much in love with their looks.

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Most of the trans men I have met are too darn young!!! Wahhhh!! Back in September at Southern Comfort Conference I sat at a dinner table with 6 of them, and all of them had their mothers with them, and I was older than the mothers!!!

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Most of the trans men I have met are too darn young!!! Wahhhh!! Back in September at Southern Comfort Conference I sat at a dinner table with 6 of them, and all of them had their mothers with them, and I was older than the mothers!!!

What is the Southern Comfort Conference? :o

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Guest Hayleylady94

I've met a couple, dated one. I gotta agree, I felt I connected better and be understood better with them compared to cis guys and gals.

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I'd potentially date a trans guy. Although, probably would try not to. Why would I? I'd be attracted to a feminine looking male, and it wouldnt seem right to date a transguy for that reason. Yes, I have known some transguys that I was very much in love with their looks.

My best transman friend is completely unclockable. He looks nothing fem. The funny looks come from people that can't figure out why such a straight looking guy is hanging with a gurlyboy. Giggle.

Most of my other transmen friends don't fit your description either. Although they are all gentlemen and treat me like a lady. Must be my peer group? JodyAnn

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Guest Kelly-087

I'd potentially date a trans guy. Although, probably would try not to. Why would I? I'd be attracted to a feminine looking male, and it wouldnt seem right to date a transguy for that reason. Yes, I have known some transguys that I was very much in love with their looks.

My best transman friend is completely unclockable. He looks nothing fem. The funny looks come from people that can't figure out why such a straight looking guy is hanging with a gurlyboy. Giggle.

Most of my other transmen friends don't fit your description either. Although they are all gentlemen and treat me like a lady. Must be my peer group? JodyAnn

Oh Im not saying most of them look like gurly oys at all. Just the ones I'd be attracted to! Most of the transguys Ive known were probably not on hormones yet (Or maybe they weren't transguys? xD) and so they were very purty bois. Ive also seen a pretty metro-sexually looking transguy that a friend of mine dated. He was very cute too.

But it wouldn't feel right, for me to date a guy struggling to be a guy because he had feminine looks to him. But I do find it very attractive.

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I wouldn't have any issue with dating a transguy. And I wouldn't have any issue with dating a transgirl either. Nor with dating cispeople. Or an androgyne. Or any other human being. Ok, maybe I could have some issues if I tried to date an asexual person (I do have some drive after all :D ), but other than some pragmatic inconveniences, I tend to make no discrimination.

I'll admit that women tend to catch my attention more often / easily; Venus is warmer than Mars after all :P But I wouldn't care too much about cis- vs. trans.

Hugs,

Ethain

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Guest Natalie64567

I remember seeing an episode of the show Taboo where a transwoman and a transman were married to each other. It would make sense and each of them would understand each others feelings.

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Guest SusanB

If HRT sends my brain all haywire and i started being attracted to men then yes i would date a transman.

Untill that time the odds are better that i would date a transwoman.

My preference would be a cis lesbian

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Guest Protoman2050

If HRT sends my brain all haywire and i started being attracted to men then yes i would date a transman.

Untill that time the odds are better that i would date a transwoman.

My preference would be a cis lesbian

EXACTLY what's happening to me currently...I have no idea what I like anymore! It used to be simple "I like girls"!

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I dated a transguy for around 6 months, unfortunately he kept getting in trouble with the law and i broke it off, and yes i would date another transguy.

Paula

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Guest Protoman2050

I dated a transguy for around 6 months, unfortunately he kept getting in trouble with the law and i broke it off, and yes i would date another transguy.

Paula

Sorry to hear that!

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If HRT sends my brain all haywire and i started being attracted to men then yes i would date a transman.

Untill that time the odds are better that i would date a transwoman.

Well... what are you doing Saturday night? Oh wait... I don't have a car. A city bus date sux! Scratch that. Giggle. Hug. JodyAnn

PS--- Would you settle for thrift store shopping? LOL! JA

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