Writing my 'coming-out' letter...

[Guest LeeStarzz]

So.. right now im writing my letter to come out to my mom. I feel she will understand more, because my father is very...ignorant. and once i tell her, hopefully she can convince my dad for me... thats what i plan to do.

but... i want to make sure this letter says enough.. enough so she doesnt just blow it off like its nothing..

if you have any topics i should make sure to include, or any specific quotes i could use in it, any ideas at all that i should put in here, please tell me. I'm 16, 10th year of highschool. incase that helps...

please, any ideas would be great. i was going to get this off my chest to her this vacation now.. but i'm going to wait until this next week lon vacation coming up in april. after i write this i planto get help from my school counseler, on any issues on how ishould organize it and such.

but yes... for now.. anything you think i should include so i dont miss anything would be greatly appreciated. and haha.. i gotta say.. its hard to type this when your eyes are filled with tears.

[Guest Remy Elizabeth]

The best advice I believe I can offer is not to over-think it.

I came out to my mother in a letter as gay (I hadn't realized I was trans yet). I spent a good three months writing and rewriting because I thought it had to be this big explanation. I finally gave up on that idea and turned it into 5 short paragraphs that simply told her I was gay and that I thought we had grown distant as child and parent, and that I had hoped in telling her those thing that they would bring us closer together and we could have a better relationship.

When you stop over-thinking things, things do get easier. As Albert Einstein once said "The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them." Be simple. Tell her the truth. Tell her you love her. Tell her what you fear. Tell her what you hope will happen. Tell her whatever is in your heart.

[Guest Mia J]

Hi Lee,

I know how hard this is and I understand how hard it is to write with eyes filled with tears.

Trying to come out to our close family is one of the hardest things we will have to do.

Just tell her how you feel about yourself and that this is something that this is not from anything your parents have done but is a true medical condition. It would be wise to have some information for them or at least reference them to.

It is a good thing to contact the school counselor because they may be able to provide support and resources for you and your parents.

Mia

[Guest LeeStarzz]

@ Remy, thank you, i do have a lto down but its getting easier to write when i simplify it.

@Mia, I'v talked to my school counselor already, and hopefully she can help me proofread this a bit too. And if things get really bad at home, i have some adults to turn to.

Thanks to both of you, its getting easier to write this, i was overthinking it a bit.

[Guest Mia J]

Remember that we are also here to support you in anyway we can.

Mia