Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Came Out to My Head Boss This Afternoon


Guest sophia.gentry58

Recommended Posts

Guest sophia.gentry58

Hi everyone!

I thought I share an update with you all concerning my transition. Prior to this afternoon I had come out to at least seven co-workers and several people outside my job other than my family. Well, it was not my intention to let anyone above my co-workers know about my transition until I was well into HRT. However, we just got our new ADCO (Alcohol and Drug Control Officer) in who also is over my Clinical Supervisor and my Clinical Director. She, the ADCO, sent an email to let us know that she wanted to meet each of us individually so she could get to know us better.

After sitting with her and discussing matters concerning being credentialed and licensed I decided to drop the bombshell on her; after she made the statement that she held our livelihood in her hands and how it was important for her to support us and take a butt chewing and a slap on the hand for us if need be. I told her that I struggled with gender dysphoria throughout my life and decided to transition from MtF. She looks at me and paints this big jovial smile across her face as she says "well congratulations!" She proceeded to tell me that everyone has a right to be happy and that I have her full support and to let her know if anyone gave me any problems during my transition.

I was totally flabbergasted; the last thing I expected was for her to be amiable about the news, let alone, so amenable and supportive. I knew I was going to have to reveal to her my plans at some point, but I thought since she was just getting on board that now could be as good a time as any, though I suppose it could have totally blew up in my face. I'm happy!!! :Crylol:

Sophia

Link to comment
Guest Sarah Faith

There are always Risks in life Sophia but if we are never willing to take risks then often nothing great can ever happen. Its awesome that this worked out so well for you! Things seem to just keep getting better and that is great news.

Keep it up hon. ;)

Sarah

Link to comment
Guest Kaylee234

WOOHOO!! It's a great feeling, isn't it, Sophia?

I'm so much happier now that I don't feel like I'm hiding anything about myself. I'm sure you'll feel that too

~ Kay

Link to comment
Guest Carla_Davis

Great News Sophia,

It is much happier working with people who accept you and it is also to your employers advantage as you will be more productive if you are happy.

Keep us informed about any other good news.

Hugs,

Carla

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

That is wonderful news. You must be on cloud 9. Enjoy!!!!!

Hugs,

Charlie

Link to comment

Hi Sophia,

Congratulations! That's a big move, a leap of faith - and am overjoyed that it went so well for you!

With her support, the job of getting support throughout the organization should be much easier. Best of luck to you!

Love, Megan

Link to comment
  • Admin

Great news, Sophia. Having the support of the boss is a huge deal, and should make the rest of the process so much easier and likely to succeed. Good luck the rest of the way, hon.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Grinning ear to ear and doing a happy dance for you Sophia! Being able to be yourself and having that worry off your shoulders must be a tremendous relief

Thank you for sharing such good and positive news

Hugs

Johnny

Link to comment
Guest sophia.gentry58

Thank you all so very much for your encouraging and uplifting words!

The biggest reason I am so elated to have the support of my head boss is because, albeit out of the 14 counselors we have on staff, not counting the clinical supervisor and clinical director (both males), twelve are women. However, 99.9% of our clients are men (Soldiers). My head boss giving me her support was done so with her full understanding that most of my clients will be male Soldiers and I can therefore count on her to protect me from those who would desire to express their bigotry.

One of the interesting things about where I work is that we have a policy that male counselors will not see female clients (superiors are afraid of male counselors getting a borderline female client to treat). We'll see just how much they will accept me as a woman once I go full-time and whether they will allow me to see female clients.

I guess the other litmus test will lie in how well I am received by my male (Soldier) clients. Wish me well! :)

Sophia

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   1 Member, 0 Anonymous, 276 Guests (See full list)

    • Karen Carey
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      770k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,092
    • Most Online
      8,356

    The Lake
    Newest Member
    The Lake
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Britton
      Britton
      (53 years old)
    2. chipped_teeth
      chipped_teeth
    3. james-m
      james-m
    4. jenny75
      jenny75
      (34 years old)
    5. KASS13
      KASS13
  • Posts

    • The Lake
      Hello we are The lake. So called because This One has not determined a name for oneself but has in a way created an environment to try out multiple names as different people. Currently Some of us use she/her pronouns and one uses he/him. We hope to learn more about being transgender and the intricacies involved. Once again it is a pleasure to make your acquaintance and we hope to be of further help in the future.
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://tennesseelookout.com/2024/05/14/judge-refuses-to-dismiss-all-claims-by-transgender-child-against-state-williamson-county-schools/     Kind of a win some - lose some decision.  I suppose that's better than "lose all."    Carolyn Marie
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-politics-and-policy/18-states-sue-biden-administration-transgender-worker-protections-rcna152239     When the R's are in power they love having the EEOC promulgate rules favoring employers.  But when the D's are in power, they just hate it when the EEOC makes or enforces rules that favor employee rights; most especially trans employee rights.  Then it becomes "government overreach."  Funny how that works out.    Carolyn Marie
    • Carolyn Marie
      Wholeheartedly agree.  Whether a compliment is backhand or forehand, I take it gladly.  They are offered rarely enough these days.    Carolyn Marie
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Wow, a shop that actually respects a customer's truck?  That seems like a miracle!  My husband does most of his own work, because he really, REALLY hates people who mess with an interior, with grease spots or footprints.  His personal truck is old, but super clean.  And since he's the transportation manager for his company, he's pretty picky about people respecting company equipment.  "Take care of it, and it will take care of you" is the motto.  Drivers should be able to go through a DOT Level 1 inspection without worry. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Literally the word means "hatred of women" and so I don't think that's quite the right description for what you encountered.  Possibly chauvinism?  Or maybe just not wanting to bother somebody he figured wasn't interested or capable of doing the job?  Who knows.   But on the other hand...be glad you're passing
    • VickySGV
      Finally found a site that gives the definition of defemination as a process of loss of feminine characteristics or continued loss of them.  Not a word I would use every day, although I can see where it would be a problem for some who value those feminine characteristics.  Yes I have seen it happen and now get the idea, and yes, not in so many words, but yes I have been up against others who do put down my femininity as being a pseudo female at the most polite and I cannot use the words hear for what it is at the worst.   Online, there is little to do about it except leave and block the people who do it and the places it happens, since it affects you much more heavily and negatively than it does the person doing it, and you need freedom from the stress.  The rules here which our "powers that be", namely the staff say we do not put up with members denying the authentic identity of other members. 
    • VickySGV
      I still maintain my "male" skills and almost have to laugh when that sort of thing happens to me with Cis males, and it does happen.  On the other side there, I have activities with the Trans community  here where I live including Trans Men who love to show off their new lives.  I have had a couple come over to my house and I have done some shop teaching that is always fun.  When they offer to help me by doing "male stuff" in a group, I do not take it as misogyny .
    • Thea
      This guy asked me to help with his tire.  So when I turned around and he saw that I'm a woman he's like,  oh nevermind
    • Betty K
      I think that’s an important point. In my case, I’ve found transitioning to be such a relief and a joy that I have no difficulty focussing on the positives. Maybe in your case you could make a practice of noting when you are gendered correctly? Do you keep a journal? I find doing so is major help.   After saying I rarely get misgendered, it actually happened to me yesterday in a local store. After recovering from my shock (the salesman called me “brother”, which to me is about as bad as it gets) I wrote my first complaint letter to a business w/r/t misgendering. That felt good. I also reflected that, to a degree, for those of us who don’t pass, I think gendering is correctly can take a conscious effort. Some Folks seem to automatically see me as feminine, others have to work at it. So if you’re often surrounded by people who have no desire to work at it, that may exacerbate your problem.      
    • Betty K
      I don’t know why anyone would go to the effort of advocating for trans folks only to charge people to read their articles. It seems so counterproductive, and I seriously doubt they’re making more than pocket money out of it. 
    • KathyLauren
      Oh, how I wish we were over-reacting!  But I don't think we are.  The danger is under-reacting. 
    • Ivy
      I understand your feelings. I have the same fears.  NC has made a swing to the right as well, and I'm not optimistic.  I want to tell myself I'm over reacting.  But seeing what these people are  saying, and doing when they do get into power can't be dismissed.  It's proof of what they will do if they take over the federal government. I'm getting kinda old now anyway.  It took me over 60 years to get here, and I'm not going back.  I suppose they can revert my gender markers, but I will still be legally Ivy.  And I have every intention of dying as Ivy Anna.  If I can't find my hormones somehow, I'll do without.  The physical changes I do have are permanent.   Trans people have always existed.
    • Willow
      @KymmieL I think we all have had to deal with a person who would not apologize when they were wrong no matter what.  In my case it was my MIL. Actually called me a lier I front of my wife.  Even when she realized she was wrong she wouldn’t admit it to my wife, nor would she apologize to my wife for any of the things she later admitted she had done that affected my wife.  I had a boss that accused me of saying things I did not say in a manner I did not use.  Even another employee told him that I had not said the things nor used the words but he still refused to back down.     Unfortunately, all too many people in this world believe they are always right no matter what.  Some are very famous.  lol   Willow    
    • KatieSC
      I wish I could cope as well as others. I feel very defeated in that all of the consideration, and then treatment to transition, could all be wiped out by this time next year with the united effort by the R party to eradicate all that is transgender. I fear that the national election could turn out to our detriment, and we will face a national push to eradicate us. Tracking us down will not be that hard to do. Once they know who we are, forcing the legislation to reverse our name changes, gender marker changes, and other records, will not be that hard. We saw an example when the AG in Texas was data mining the driver licenses for those who had gender marker changes. Who will we appeal to? The Supreme R Court? We would have an easier time trying to convince a Russian court.    We need to get out and vote in November. There is not enough Ben & Jerry's to improve my outlook on all of this. In some ways it is a cruel thing in a way. In the early 1930s, Germany was working hard to hunt down the LGBTQ population and eradicate it. Now Germany has better protections there than we have in many of our own states. About 90 years ago, Germany was seeing the rise of their very own dictator...Now the US is on the verge...Oh never mind. What a difference 90 years makes...    History may repeat itself, but sometimes it shifts the focus a little...
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...