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Hey everyone, hope you're doing well!

Today I finally came out to my parents! Boy I'm glad I did it, it's all off my chest now.

I have been planning to come out for a long time, April was when I first planned on actually doing it. I've typed out letter after letter but thought it wasn't right so gave them a hand written one instead. To be honest I didn't think I'd do it today but it occured whilst I was having breakfast that today would be perfect! The sun was shining, everyone was happy, my mental health was all in check, so why the heck not?

I got ready, packed up some cash, medication, DS (to keep myself distracted to stop myself from having a panic attack), phone and some mints (again for mindfulness). Left the letter on the living room table and then said I was going out to the park. I walked down feeling kind of sick with nerves but managed to deal with it. I sat in the park for about an hour and a half doing whatever to keep myself distracted and to stop myself from thinking about it.

I was expecting a call or a text to come home but I didn't get one. It started to get cold (wasn't dressed for the weather) so I went home and just put on a brave face. I snuck in as quietly as I could and went upstairs. No one knew I was home and I suddenly heard 'NO NO NO' from the garden.

Of course I assumed the worst here but it turned out my mum thought it was a suicide note, not a coming out letter. They then rang me and came upstairs and just hugged me. My mum was crying (but I think it was from her first thought) and they said that it's ok and that I should do whatever makes me happy. They asked some questions and just kept hugging me. Then they carried on with lunch as normal :P

After that I went to meet some old friends, had to confront a phobia of mine (friend was sick earlier on in the day and had contact) but overall had a good time. Met another trans person funnily enough which was cool and we discussed some things and I managed to use the men's again (only one other person but they didn't bat an eyelid)

Also two people called me hot. One was a group of like 12/13 year olds which kinda make me pull the most perplexed look ever as they worded it 'he's well bang' but hey, take what you can get, huh? Also one of my friend's friends said that 'he's hot' and my friend decided to blurt out 'he's a she'. Most people did call me Aaron though which was fantastic! Although a few slip ups here and there but I can't expect everyone to be on top form about it, considering some of them have known me 5 years +

Other than that I've been answering my parents questions, some I've been a bit hesitant on because I'm scared I'll upset them but I'm trying to be as honest as I can. I'm just a timid person sometimes :P

All the best,

a very happy and tired Aaron :)

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