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Came out to close friends,next stop my parents.....

Guest Alexis25

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Guest Alexis25

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So hey guys sorry I did not post here for a while but I'm on vacation in Miami and I don't have time to go here and post anymore since I use my iPad

So anyways i started talking to one of my close girlfriends on Skype and she started talking bout gay porn and how she's watching it and I'm like yeah send me a link.... And she's like WHAT I never knew you liked men, and then I told her I was bi and she's like oh ok. Then I'm like I really want to come out to a girl, because a girl will help me become more feminine and when I told her I wanted to be a girl she thought I was kidding and loling a lot but then the next day when I brought up the topic and she was like you we're not kidding...... And I'm like yeah I know and I was like so yeah..... I don't remember what happened next exactly but now we Im each day bout girl stuff. Also when I get back to ny! Which I'm so looking foward to, I'll be able to go over to her house and dress up as a girl, anytime I want, she will also teach me how to apply make up, wear stuff, fashion, and etc. I find it totally cool that I told her, but my other friends who were guys were just like meh and they still treat me like a guy.

Anyways I felt like I had to share that because my next step is coming out to my parents which I don't know what the result will beeeeeee.

But at least I have a BFF now with who I can always be a girl with, and she's bi.

So yeah I'm only 16, so I'm happy I found someone like her. Can't wait to go shopping with her and do our make up together and so much other fun girl things.

But the hard thing is, is mixing in my feminine side with my everyday male school life......

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Patience, Alexis. Every single one of us wishes we could wave a magic wand and be done with it but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. But it sounds like you've made a great friend whom you can trust and share certain aspects of yourself! That's wonderful!

However, allow me to also caution you. Please be very, very certain that your parents are not the type to toss you on the street if you decide to come out to them. Far too many homeless youth are GLBT teens who didn't run away but were thrown away by their own families. It's far better to hold your secret until you are old enough to support yourself than to be thrown out on your own before you are ready.

Of course, if your parents are very accepting types, this may not matter at all. But we do care about you here and we want you to be safe, first and foremost. Living on the streets as a teen is not safe.

Be smart. Be safe. Be strong. Be patient. Your dreams will come true. :)

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