Family relation

[Guest PaperPencil]

Hi all,

I'm not sure whether this is the right place to ask... if it's in the wrong section, please delete this post or move it somewhere else.

My older sister is currently going out with a guy and I haven't met him yet. I personally don't want to be involved in her relationship, but we're family... So the guy sent me a friend request on Facebook and I did not accept it because I have my status as Male. I don't know if the guy knows I am FTM and I don't know if my sister said anything about it. I don't know if my sister said that I'm a girl or a boy, or just a sibling. I don't know anything about them because for these past 2 years I have been too busy with college and myself.

I don't know if finding out that I'm FTM (or I usually just say I'm a man, no questions asked) would freak the guy out. I haven't even talked things through with my parents. I am not sure what to do.

I have already sent a message to my sister asking her if she had said anything about me to the guy or not, but she has not replied yet.

This is very confusing. I did not think that this would ever happened to me.

Best,

PaperPencil

[Guest Amanda Whyte]

I definately understand your confusion and fear. If your sister has continued to be a FB friend of yours and you are male on your account. I would friend anyone that you want to. I dont throw anything in peoples faces but if they reach out to me, then so be it. If he mentioned anything just explain things to him in simple straightforward language. Sending your sis a message is a good idea though. I wonder why not just call her? Are yall not on speaking terms?

[Guest LizMarie]

You are under no obligation to accept a friend request on Facebook from anyone. If you are unsure, don't accept it.

[Guest Rebecca A]

yeah, and great thing about friend requests, if you do accept it, you can always remove or block them later. In either case it is a complicated situation, for me similar to what was said I would probably pick up the phone and try to talk to my sis about it, but I don't know what your relationship is with her, so that may be difficult for you or it may not.

[Guest DianeATL]

Don't feel obligated to accept it. I have relatives who I have either not accepted or blocked.

They don't get notified if you don't accept it.

Diane

[Guest PaperPencil]

Thank you. I did not accept the friend request.

The thing about phone calls, it's a personal opinion. I don't like phone calls and I can speak better when I write. This is something I want to get straight with my sister. Whenever we talk it always somehow turn into a joke on her side and somehow I was dragged into the flow. I don't want this to be taken lightly so I am putting it in clear words.

Again, thank you very much.

PaperPencil