My pink ear rings

[Guest Elizabeth1974]

Wanted to post this real quick if for nothing else a way to document what happened. The division manager came into my office asked me to remove my pink mustache ear rings as they do not project the image the corporation would like. I did remind him I was transitioning as I am out at work. In order to avoid confrontation I have removed them but I am documenting this it accorded at approxmently 9:44 am today 2/5/14.

[Guest]

That wasn't very nice.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest Brenda Hailey]

I wonder exactly which of these isnt the corporate image, the pink, the mustache style, or earrings in general? or is it really about earrings at all?

[VickySGV]

It's convoluted, but I can see a little bit of where he is coming from, not that I think he is right, but he is the boss. A pair of pink hearts and he would have to stretch his neck out. I have a slight shadow view of where the mustache shape may be a bit "too political" for his tastes. Good for you though for logging this as a perceived discrimination issue!! Try a pair of small red hearts if you have them!!!

[Guest Elizabeth1974]

It's Not like I am driving for uber or side car (but I do drive for Lyft after work here) so it was just the pink earrings which is what he stated, but it is what it is. I am not going to make a big deal out of this I am just going to continue to document so if I ever have to I can make a case hopefully I won't have to.

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Pick your battles. Save the pink mustache earrings for outside of work and wear (fake) diamond or (fake) pearl earrings while at work. Or something more business-appropriate.

[Guest April Kristie]

As Lizzie said, why rock the boat, if the behavior of the bosses continues at the very least you have a record of their less than fair Behavior towards you.

[Cyndee]

The division manager came into my office asked me to remove my pink mustache ear rings as they do not project the image the corporation would like.

Sounds more like this person's personal views as opposed to a company policy about image.

Good that you showed flexibility, think long term....

Hugs

Cyndi -

[Guest Elizabeth1974]

Oh girls I gotcha I truly believe in choosing my battles and I will.

[Guest Isabel1991]

Your boss should kick rocks

Love Isabel

[Guest Elizabeth1974]

Another incident yesterday afternoon division manager told me I could not have my nails painted pink in front estimator at about 2:30.

[Guest]

[tracy_j]

Where I work there is a uniform policy which covers much of what may or may not be worn when at work. Does that exist at all with your corporation?

[~Nova~]

Are you presenting male or female? It male, follow the male dress code, if female, follow the female dress code. In either case you would not have been allowed to wear either at the hospital I work for. (I have nails, but work in the lab and have a different code than the floor peeps because I have no patient contact.).

Transitioning does not equal transitioned. I lived two completely separate lives, male by day, female nights and weekends when I first started transitioning. It was horrid and I got confused a lot, but such is life.

Please be careful, to many "I told her"s could be a big problem. You can be assured he is documenting as well.

N

[Guest otter-girl]

Do check out what the other girls are wearing to get a feel for the range of style. At work its best to aim for the safe zone generally.

Hugs

Rachel

[Guest Elizabeth1974]

There is no published dress code other then basic safety requirements nothing in the hand book on dress code. We have manegmenf with full sleeve tats, past mangers have had Gage's and tats, yet I can't wear pink earrings or have my nails painted pink with sparkles. Females are not restricted by any company policy as to nail color or earrings they can wear. I have been with this company for almost 17 years these decisions being made by the division manager are discrimination while I still believe it is not fully intentional the incidents are worth documenting.

[Paula ult]

Elizabeth, by all means document everything, you can bet your division manager is documenting and your managers are probably told to inform on you also.

Who did you tell that you were transitioning, HR if your company has one, a manager or that division manager, did you give them a timeline as to your transition plans, do you present as male or female at work, if male i would not push the limits with the division manager, if female you should be able to dress as the other females in your workplace.

Being with a company 17 years means nothing if management wants to get rid of you, unless you are in a union, don't rock the boat, remember you can't transition if you don't have a job and they are hard to find these days.

Paula