Help ! Late comer with a lot of questions

[Guest Jtlloyd64]

Hi,

I have a lot of questions. Since I found out about gender change late in life ( I was 40 ).

I need as help & info. As I can get. I live in Texas,

I know every state is a little different.

I will be getting my name changed in the next 2 months

Questions !!

1.)Before I go to get new driver licenses what do I have to do to get the gender changed ?

2.) I have heard that in order to start T ( HRT ) most if not all Dr.'s require a letter

from a Therapist. Can anyone tell me if that is true.

3.) Since I am older how do you handle the change in the work place & / or future

work. I don't plan on changing jobs but you never know these day's plus at some

point I will be moving back to TN. & my resume has my what will be my former

name & gender all my past employer's know me by it.

So any feed back on how to handle that ?

I am just so unsure of how to handle my transition. Any help would be greatly Appreciated !!

Jamie

[Charlize]

Dear Jamie,

Sorry young lad but late in life?!! My son is 39. Many of us here have started with a few more years gone. I was 63 when i decided to transition. Please do not think that age should hold you back from living the life you feel you should live.

I am not sure what Texas requires for ganging the gender marker on your license. NJ requires a doctors note which i downloaded from their website and my primary doctor filled in. You may hear from a Texas trans person but google your MV site and they may well post the information.

Most MD's do require a letter from a therapist. Even if they don't it is certainly the best thing you can do for yourself. A good GT can help immensely. Mine helped me with many of the issues you described as well as helping me to understand possibilities. Perhaps of most importance she helped me to feel comfortable with my path. The guilt i had always lived with slowly lifted. Please do go to a Gender therapist it is worth the time and $.

Please take some time and read the coming out forum. Many there have described their experiences with employment. All have different stories. You may do well to find out your companies existing policy. Many large companies have established policies that outline topics like notification and acceptance down to rest room use.

Best of luck and please understand that your not alone. The support i got here helped me a great deal in finding a safe and "easier" path.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Carolyn Marie]

Jamie, here is some information on Texas DL changes, including the gender marker:

https://www.txdps.state.tx.us/DriverLicense/changes.htm

Transitioning in your current job can be easy or difficult, largely depending on the policies of your employer and the attitudes of your supervisors and co-workers. Usually you need to have the name change in hand, and then go through a process of educating and informing your HR staff and management. As Charlie said, there are many examples of success, and unsuccess, in the Coming Out Forum.

As far as changing jobs, it is difficult to remain stealth while seeking new employment. As you said, names used on a resume could be problematic, but don't have to be. If you let your current employer know that you will be using them as a reference, you can make arrangements for them to use only your new name, or they can note that you changed names while employed there. You should have your Social Security info changed by then, too.

Good luck, hon.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Jtlloyd64]

Thanks all !!

I am lucky, I just read that the company I currently work for has been voted the best place to work by the LGBT for the 7th year in a row.

I have seen a terapist a few years ago, but had to stop before I got my letter. I do plan on starting back when I tart T or if I have to before I can start T.

Carolyn Marie I will definately check out the site to see what I need to do. I just feel to live as a man for a year or two before being able to move forward

I would need my drivers license to match my gender. I will also look at the coming out forum, at 1st glance I thought is was more about coming out to family & friends.

Again Thanks All !!

Jamie

[Guest Gwendolyn Elizabeth]

Getting you gender marker changed is gonna take a court order. A lot of us get it changed when we do our name change. Some counties have judges who grant them and some do not. I know a lawyer who does them in Dallas county and she is very affordable.

[Guest Jtlloyd64]

Thanks Gwyndolyn !!

I am just north of Houston,