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tomorow I will go out for the first time dressed as a woman. I feel quite nervous and my biggest worry (and maybe the only one) is the bathroom. I don't know why but I fear that some woman will panic if I enter their bathroom. It will be another case of taking a huge courage pill :)

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This is a big step for all of us. The first few times can be very scary but it will get easier over time.

Sort of like a right of passage. I am sure you will do fine. As far as the bathroom goes that can be very scary but most of the time there are no issues.

Mia

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I have not had any bathroom issues at all. And that surprised me. When I went into a bathroom like I belonged there no one took notice. You will understand this after a few times in public restrooms..

Jenny

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Being nervous about that issue is normal, hon. We all hear the horror stories, and that sows fear. But actual instances of problems are rare. If you want to minimize the risks, seek out single occupant restrooms at first. You'll soon master your fears. Be sure and follow protocol, such as sitting and not standing, and if you're wearing a skirt or dress, hiking it up rather than allowing it to fall around your feet, like you would a pair of pants. I know it sounds obvious, but its a mistake I made the first time out. :doh1:

Good luck, Soliloque.

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Carolyn Marie

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I'm sure you will do fine! Even if there are other women in the restroom and they do happen to freak out, it shouldn't matter. You are just as much a woman as they are, no matter what they do or say. Don't let other people's reactions influence or torment you, just be true to yourself! That's all that really matters!

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The first time I went out I had those fears as well!

I got by without problem. Just convince yourself that you have been doing it for years and you'll be fine.

It is likely that on the off chance that anyone looks concerned you will be gone before they have time to react

Tracy

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I was in the bathroom of a straight club last weekend and a woman I didn't know pulls up to the mirror next to the one I was looking in as I did my hair she then says to me "do you happen to have a tampon I could use?" I just looked at myself in the mirror and smirked and thought "wow! that was awesome!!" I then said no I'm sorry I do not have one. well come to find out it is quite common for this to happen so it is advisable to at least carry one for such a case and you may even make a new friend.

Good luck. ... It gets easier.

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it went so well... I was soooo nervous at first but everybody was so nice with me. I went to the bathroom and it went very well. It was very funny and very special to be sitting there... it's like I felt a page turning. I was felling at home tonight finally being able to be me. I love everything about it. We were 15 peope or so and I was one of the girl. I love the social aspect of it, it feel like i'm at home. As a nice bonus I got madamed by the parking guy, lol. I used my female voice to speak to him :P

every pieces are falling at the right place for me, it's a joy to be feeling alive and full of hope again. It seems that people can sense that i'm well and are more attracted to me and want to speak more.

I just wanted to tell you all how it went. I planned a meal with 4 girls from work october 3rd and I can't wait. It will be so much fun!!

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Yay! I am sooooo happy for you!

I understand exactly how you feel about people sensing your being "well"!

Again I am so excited for you!

Love, (us girls can say that to each other, one of the perks!)

Jamie

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I'm so glad it went well for you. The first time out can be sooo scary but so often we find that there is nothing to be scared about. You had better fasten your seatbelt and prepare for a wonderful journey. Pop a couple of tampons in your purse and enjoy being who you are; one of the girls.

Hugs,

Charlize

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I'm so happy for you that things went well!

The start of many outings to come :)

Tracy x

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