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Friday is my big day to be presenting female all day, including outdoor at noon... frightening. I will be traveling to Chicago to meet a voice therapist and visit a gender clinic! I am also worried about bathrooms. I wonder about the small town gas stations. Maybe I should avoid these and find a restaurant?. This is a big deal for me and I am also very worried about my beard growth throughout the day ( I've not stayed in makeup that long...). When I get ready and try my outfit I feel great and have confidence, I hope Friday is like that.

Once small step for woman kind!

Jamie

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Even though I am "on the other side" I have not had full beard work completed yet. I have no problems with my limited stuff poking through my foundation and looking like a Cholla Cactus or even a Joshua Tree after 10+ hours if I have used my creme or liquid foundations, but have to re-apply the press powder or mineral base foundations after about 6 hours. If you have a battery power razor its usually easy enough to sneak into your purse. At the clinics, they will have restrooms where you can use one marked Ladies without a problem and can touch up your war paint there. On the road, looking femme, size up the situation and use either a single holer, or the women's room for get in, do the job, do the paper work, and get out.

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The first time is always the hardest. Will you be alone or with someone?

My first time out was to a pridefest and it was still daunting. I remember going into a Walgreens to buy a hat, scariest moment of my life. Getting gas, petrifying. As scared as I was, I never had an issue, except in my head.

Best of luck, head up. :)

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Best of luck Jamie.

It's a feeling that gets magnified 10x in our heads, but in reality most people out there are in their own little worlds, and don't pay much attention to others around them.

The best thing you can wear is a smile. Next thing you know it's just routine, just another woman in the world.

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Good luck Jamie.

Suggestion from recent experience.

Stay out of the Cracker Barrel and the MLK Centre female washroom.

Other than that I've had no issues in my recent travels.

WallyWorld restrooms seem quite safe to use.

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Good luck Jamie :)

Just think like you have been doing it every day of your life!

Tracy x

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Aw, don't be too freaked out about it. It's gonna be so great, wishing you luck! I don't know much about makeup (or beards, unfortunately) but I'm sure you'll be just fine. Hope you have fun, I hear Chicago is pretty awesome.

About bathrooms, though. My family always did alot of long-distance traveling across the US so, I've been in alot of random small-town gas stations just to use the facilities. And I have memories of being a teenage girl who didn't wanna wait in line for the lady's room so I'd just walk into men's room like I owned the joint. Haha. Just be quick, in & out. No one cared or bugged me, especially if I had one of my male relatives with me. So, maybe you can use that same system. Be confident (have that "I know what I'm doing" attitude), be semi-quick (because I know ladies have more things to do, usually), and maybe have another woman accompany you if youre nervous (which always looks natural). The best part about gas station restrooms vs. restaurant restrooms is that they're usually one stall type things, anyways.

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Thanks everyone! I'm getting my stuff laid out for tomorrow and reflecting on my journey so far. I must say that your support is always there and I appreciate it soooo much. I've told several people about it, include you! So although I will be alone, I know I'm going where you courageous, beautiful people have already gone. That makes me feel better.

Love,

Jamie

PS nervous... excited... hopeful (always)...

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I'm gonna put my money on Jamie replying to this thread tomorrow with a message that reads similar to "Wow, nobody really noticed me at all and it was all in my head."

Girl I know your emotions. I was there about 1 year ago and I was freaked the flip out. Today, I don't even flinch. I spend most of my time in "almost girl mode". Basically this is girl mode but without my bra and chicken cutlets (I sort of look like a braless girl with very small perky breasts) and minimal makeup and the only space I haven't conquered is the group public restroom (I use singles where I can or just thank God for my very large bladder). Once I change my name, I'm going full time and will have to give up the ghost of fear of using the group public restroom, but until then, it gets easier...I promise.

Good luck and God bless

Ashley

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Wow, nobody really noticed me at all and it was all in my head.... Thanks Ashley!

I did have to work my way through baseball pedestrian traffic 4 times to go back and forth to the meter... I went to the ladies room with a female state trooper in the next stall... Her radio went off the entire time! My voice therapist took me grocery shopping ( which was great), I made my connections at the transgender clinic, I even threw in two unnecessary errands to pit me in transactions with strangers. And as ho hum as it turned out, I will never forget getting out of the car and going in to use the ladies for the first time. Wow!

What a great day.

Love,

Jamie

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Wow, nobody really noticed me at all and it was all in my head.... Thanks Ashley!

I did have to work my way through baseball pedestrian traffic 4 times to go back and forth to the meter... I went to the ladies room with a female state trooper in the next stall... Her radio went off the entire time! My voice therapist took me grocery shopping ( which was great), I made my connections at the transgender clinic, I even threw in two unnecessary errands to pit me in transactions with strangers. And as ho hum as it turned out, I will never forget getting out of the car and going in to use the ladies for the first time. Wow!

What a great day.

Love,

Jamie

Yay!!!! Happy Day!!!!

I'm so glad you had an "uneventful" day. There is very little that is as refreshing as using that CBT to show you that it (society) is getting better. Here's to many more as the true Jamie emerges from her cocoon.

God bless

Ashley

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Way to go Jamie, glad to read it went well yesterday ! You're well on your way...

Many of us certainly relate to those special feelings of going into the ladies room on early trips out. Soon to be replaced with the routine.

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