Songs that you relate to transition

[Guest Kai Reddtail]

I have a few songs that I consider sort of personal transition songs, because I relate to them so well even though they weren't written in relation to transgender issues.

My girlfriend designated "Porcelain" by Marianas Trench (Let's just get this out of the way early, most of them are Marianas Trench. lol.) as my coming out song.

I was sitting in my car with her in the moments before I was preparing to go home and leave the letter for them, terrified. I didn't want to do it, I wanted to just run. I knew they would never kick me out, but I was still scared as hell. She told me later that she was thinking of this part of the song in particular:

Oh, when your heart releases,
You won't fall to pieces
You'll let those old diseases lie
Oh, and your heart releases,
You won't fall to pieces

But the whole song is great for the situation, I find. (It will also likely be our wedding song. That or "Beside You," but this one has more significance.)


And the next song, called Ever After, is the one that makes be think about the day I return to my hometown after transitioning. After the point where I decide I won't hide anymore.

Apologies, I'm not myself but I can guarantee
That when I get back, you won't believe
That you knew me well
Don't want to think about it
I'm f'in tired of getting sick about it

In the beginning it's like describing me as I was, before I even discovered i was trans*. With all the anxiety, and feeling wrong somehow and not knowing why. Then describing the return, when everybody will be surprised because most of them would never have had an inkling that I was transgender. And the rest is rather self-explanatory with getting sick of hiding, and fighting for the need to be myself.

Another line in that song is "Face the Music when it's Dire." It reminds me to keep going when things get hard, it's what I thought to myself when I was sitting in the car, terrified about telling anyone. I had to just do it. When I left my coming out letter I was actually wearing my concert t-shirt that said those particular words. I plan to have it tattooed on the inside of my left arm. (Appropriately, I plan to have some kind of subtle emphasis on the letters F, T, M.)


Now, the third song that comes to mind is a song that has become ENORMOUSLY popular after the release of the movie it was featured in. That would be "Let it Go" from Frozen. I'm sure that a lot of trans* people relate to this song. Particularly the parts about hiding it in the beginning, and then just learning to say "to hell with it" and letting yourself be free.

My favorite part to sing is:

I'm never going back,
The past is in the past!

Let it go, let it go
And I'll rise like the break of dawn

I have a lot more that relate to my life outside of being trans, and if anyone was interested I'd be happy to type that up, too. But I figured I would start with this. I would love to see what other songs everyone else relates to, whether they were intended to be trans*-related or not.

Edited October 4, 2014 by Kai Reddtail
Only about 4 lines of lyrics allowed due to Copyright issues, per Rule 4 of the T & Cs

[Guest]

it's my life, the no doubt version. I love the lyrics and the tone she use as she sings.

It's funny how I find myself
In love with you
If I could buy my reasoning
I'd pay to lose
One half won't do

Edited October 4, 2014 by Carolyn Marie
Rule #4 prohibits posting song lyrics, due to Copyright laws.

[Carolyn Marie]

Just a general comment regarding this and other song threads: you are welcome to post links to sites with song lyrics. Copyright issues then become that site's problem, not ours. But you cannot post more than 4-5 lines of lyrics on this site. Nor can you post links to Youtube or other music video sites unless they are directly trans related, or you have permission of a Moderator or Admin.

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Carolyn Marie

[Guest Kayla Grace]

I've found some songs to empower me, keep in mind that these are personal, and might not be for everyone.

Katy Perry - Roar

Make it Shine - Victoria Justice

Natalya <3

[JackJerryJohnTheTreeWorker]

I'd have to say definitely my favorite songs to jam to when I'm thinking about this topic would be Satellite or Make it Stop both are by Rise Against. But I have a few other favs like:

Just about anything by Linkin Park

Bring me to life-Evanescence

Survive-Rise Against

Mirror- Lil Wayne

Even if it breaks your heart- Eli Young Band

A lot of Eminems more serious music

Boulevard of broken dreams- Green day

I have a lot more that I can't think of but I think I'll leave it at those for now.

[Beeks]

Listening to "Fight Song" by Rachel Platten, and "Stronger (What Doesn't Kill You)" by Kelly Clarkson.