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Halloween test


StephanieVikingGirl

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Since today was Halloween, I took the opportunity to dress female, and go into public. I haven't much of a wardrobe, but I put together my best skirt, open neck top, cashmere sweater, and pretty flip flops. I went to puchase things at different stores over the course of the day and evening. I always took the opportunity to talk a bit with whoever was working there. I used my best female voice, and hoped for the best. Guess what? Nothing much happened. I didn't seem to attract any extra attention. I was even ma'amed, by the polite check out person at the third store. I was a bit nervous at the first two stores, but I felt pretty confident by the third. I think the test was very encouraging in results. To celebrate, I changed my avatar picture to a non-drab selfie from three days ago. I tried to look cute and sexy in the photo. :)

hugs,

Stephanie

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You look great and sound like you had a perfect Halloween.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest Kayla Grace

Looking good! Halloween seems to be that one time of year where anything goes when dressing up. Makes it just a little easier on those in transition :)

God Bless,

Natalya<3

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Way to go Stephanie, you're on your way, nothing like being recognized for who we really are out in public, feels really good.

Cute selfie

C -

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Thank you all for your wonderful comments! Halloween really helped this not very brave girl to go out as herself. I went to 7 Eleven first (afternoon), Staples second, Papa Murphy's third (both early evening), and I gained confidence with each experience. Of course I also had the added difficulty of not having any make up on. I am moving to Angwin today, so hopefully my new more affordable (and closer to work) location will give me the ability to purchase some. I think some subtle make up will really help my looks. :)

hugs,

Stephanie

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Stephanie

You are fast approaching male fail and it will be time to come out and live a life as the woman you really are. I recommend you get ready for that day. Judging by your avatar that day will soon arrive. Kathy

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OMG!! You seriously do not know how much joy I'm jumping with over here.

1. Happy happy happy that you went out and got that confidence. Now you'll just keep pushing the envelope until you can do anything.

2. You are looking SOOOO GREAT in that avatar picture.

3. I have read all your posts since your first day here and I can see you blossoming in your journey.

I'm so happy for you and glad you are here. Watch out for that male fail.

God bless

Ashley

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Halloween is a great way to test the waters. Granted it's not perfect because people will think it's just a costume and not the real you, but it gives you a great reason to be yourself for a day. :)

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Wow, despite my chatty nature, I am at a loss for words. :wub: My best friend Jennifer even says I look pretty in my selfie (she is kinda critical about looks), and I am astonished that it really is me. My hair keeps improving on HRT, filling in, and getting longer. Jennifer, and I have been discussing purses, outfits, and changing my documents lately while moving all my stuff to my new place in Angwin. I am mostly moved now, just need to get clothes organized, and such. Poor phone service up on Howell mountain, but good internet. :thumbsup: Finances will still be tight, but much improved. I came within a few days of being homeless, but I dodged that bullet, thank the Gods! My new landlords are very nice. The community here is Seventh Day Adventist, but they seem to be okay with a Heathen clergy person like myself living here. Trans friendly as well it seems! Now that I am here, I will need to budget things so I can get some more female clothes. Jennifer thinks I don't need much make up, just keep working coconut oil into my hair (it is dry, and can get frizzy if I don't). The wine industry slow season is approaching, and that is both good and bad. Money will be tight, but this is the best time for me to work on getting more real life experience. It is also going to be the right time for me to start changing documents. I really do pass pretty well based on the Halloween test, and Jennifer's assessment of my looks. She thinks that I need to tone down my girly mannerisms a bit, and also work on my speaking voice (not consistent enough in tone yet). She readily admits that my voice is much better than hers though. She passes pretty easily on looks, but gets gets clocked when she speaks. We plan to practice together when she visits on the weekends. :) Okay, my chattiness took over, sorry about the long post.

hugs to all,

Stephanie

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Guest Cyndysub

That is good news all around. It is good that you have someone to practice with and compare notes. I'll bet the savings on gas will sure add up and help with some clothes. I'm sure looking forward to the day I can pass.

Cyndy

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Hi Natalya,

Yes, Jennifer is trans, and my best friend. She "came out of the trans closet" way back in 2002, and started HRT over a year ago. She had her name, and gender changed on all her documents earlier this year. I had tried to hide my trans nature most of my life with a Viking/Barbarian persona, but it developed so many holes (I was sensitive, cried easily, liked wearing skirts at festivals, played female characters in RPGs, etc...) that no one was shocked when I officially "came out of the trans closet" earlier this year. :) Jennifer and I met around February of this year through mutual friends, and we learned that we could help each other. We soon became close girlfriends.

hugs,

Stephanie

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