How far 'out' are you???
76 members have voted
-
Who's Online 3 Members, 0 Anonymous, 101 Guests (See full list)
- Abigail Genevieve
- Lydia_R
- Stefi
-
Recently Browsing 0 members
- No registered users viewing this page.
-
Forum Statistics
-
Total Topics80.7k
-
Total Posts769.3k
-
-
Member Statistics
-
Total Members12,061
-
Most Online8,356
Newest Member
Vivelacors
Joined -
-
Today's Birthdays
-
Aelia
(22 years old) -
Just-Jenny-finally
(65 years old) -
KelcieK
(50 years old) -
Krimson Kya
(35 years old) -
Robin
(56 years old)
-
-
Posts
-
By Lydia_R · Posted
I just like how our posts complimented each other. Your point about publicity of pride events and that culture seemed to be spot on. My culture and mindset is so different that I'm barely aware that things like that are going on. I don't watch news and I'm very much into professional life and life-long learning. There are all kinds of cultures out there. Thanks for sharing your insights. -
-
By Lydia_R · Posted
That rocks Abby! We did the 1-2 on that! -
By Abigail Genevieve · Posted
Here, the public image of LGBTQ+ is formed from the limited contact of the Pride Parade, which seems to always attract a few people who are into flamboyant sensationalism and inappropriate conduct, so there are arrests for lewd conduct, indecent exposure and public disorder. Those are the people the news media always covers at the parade, as if everyone LGBTQ+ was like that. The whole parade thing backfires, in my opinion. Sometimes these types show up at protests as well, and of course, that is what the news media picks up on. Some people need to be taken quietly aside and told they are not helping. I don't know if that is the biggest block, but it is there. Lousy marketing, -
By Davie · Posted
Love this, @Charlize! -
By Lydia_R · Posted
One of my roommates bought cheese and pasta and asked if I would make mac & cheese. I walked to the store and bought 4 cups of milk and then used the preppykitchen.com baked mac and cheese recipe that works so well. Melting a stick of butter and whisking in 1/2 cup of flour and then adding the milk. Breadcrumbs on top. It's amazing out of the oven, but just edible when it is cold in the fridge. It's all gone this morning and that made me happy. -
By Mirrabooka · Posted
We made a mega batch of curried sausages today, with enough leftovers to go to others, and into our freezer for us. Dished up with mashed potato and peas. -
By Lydia_R · Posted
I know my transwoman appearance can be a negative trigger for men. I mean, it even negatively triggers what is left of my male thought patterns. I'm wearing a tight fitting, full length, black dress the last few days. If I could get rid of my male "junk" today, that would be wonderful. I'm not going wear clothing that I do not enjoy and I'm not going to avoid wearing things like this dress just to avoid triggering some people. During my coming out phase, I was very conscious about going out in public. Now, several years later, it doesn't even cross my mind at all. I am free to express myself the way I want to. I do get some negative reactions from people in the public places I go. I think it is good for them to realize that when you are in public, you are not in control of who you bump into or what you see. I'm a homebody. Before coming out, I enjoyed dressing up at home. Even when I was presenting as a male, I enjoyed dressing up at home, in a masculine way, even if I wasn't going to go anywhere. I just like looking good and feeling my best. And it isn't about showing that to other people. So the "acceptance" part of this, is that I just want to be accepted as I am out there in public. I just want to make my transactions out there and for people to be civil about it. I'm actually for segregation on the level of if people want to form some club or tavern with a certain culture where they don't have to see and be triggered by me in my dress, and I can go to some club with people who are doing a trans thing, listening to down-tempo acid jazz and drinking ginger tea. But then there are the super public places like the grocery stores that everyone goes to and you know, we need greater acceptance there. The work/employment thing is a huge deal too. I think trans people should not use it as an excuse to get out of work or create waves at work and that employers and employees realize that there needs to be professionalism at work. At work, we're trying to get products to people. It all boils down to that. We all use these products and most of us go to work to keep that thing going. Work isn't some social club. Back to the lump in my dress... I kind of step into a woman's world by doing this in that they have breasts sticking out that they have no control over. -
-
By Ivy · Posted
My son has an industrial type stove on their farm. I think he got it used online, he gets stuff online a lot. Burns propane. It is pretty nice. I did use it when I was farm sitting for them. But definitely overkill for someone like me living with a house-mate daughter. We do our own cooking for the most part. We also keep very different hours. -
By Timi · Posted
I saw Lane 8 last Saturday night at a wonderful outdoor concert/dance venue. When he played this song I almost cried. The words are such a powerful statement of friendship - to my ears anyway. -
By Lydia_R · Posted
Welcome Felix! It sounds like we have a lot in common with music on multiple instruments and food. I'm not into lifting weights though. That could be a good skill in the Marines. I'm a Navy veteran. They just stick us in a little metal room and sleep deprive us. In all seriousness, I felt that it was good to travel the world when I was young and working. Loved this "...but what can you do." It sounds like you have a firm grip on reality! -
By KathyLauren · Posted
It undoubtedly depends on what country you are in. And even then, there would be discrepancies between policy and culture: what is allowed may not be accepted, depending on the personalities of the people involved. For the Canadian Armed Forces, I found this in regards to acceptance into Basic Training: "Transgender candidates may make request in accordance with CF Military Personnel Instruction 01/19 Transgender Guidance. The accommodations granted should aim at facilitating the integration and the success of the person making the request while complying with the Minimum Operational Standards as illustrated in the DAOD 5023-1. The final decision regarding accommodation measures rests with the Commandant of CFLRS." https://www.canada.ca/content/dam/dnd-mdn/documents/military-benefits/QMB_QMBO_e.pdf Presumably, this refers to things like bathroom and shower access. It indicates that the official policy is to accept transgender candidates. Whether or not the specific drill sergeant and the other recruits would actually accept them is something one could only find out by experience. -
By Lydia_R · Posted
I see myself as athletic and makeup is not a part of that. I've always been curious about lipstick and I do dress up quite regularly. I'm certainly much more into clothing than makeup. I don't own very many clothes either because I have minimalist tendencies. I have been curious about lipstick and bought it for the first time a couple months ago. I tried it twice and didn't like the kind I got, and then I tried again a couple days ago. I got a nice hot pink this time that I'm happy with. I'll experiment with it slowly and see if there is a keeper there. -
By KymmieL · Posted
I do have make up but do I use it. nope. it was mostly purchased as Sephoria. Some at wallys. Only thing I use on a regular bases is lip stick or gloss. With my wife not using makeup at all. Mine is hidden away. Kymmie
-
-
Upcoming Events
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now