Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

How Far 'out' Are You???


Guest Zenda

How far 'out' are you???  

76 members have voted

  1. 1. How far 'out' are you???

    • 100% 24/7
      24
    • 80%=living most of the time in affirmed female/male mode
      13
    • Just told some people-attending support meetings and or dressed only for therapy sessions
      22
    • Just out on this forum
      17


Recommended Posts

Guest Nathaniel Darling
And rightly so!

Everyone knows how highly contageous Transsexuality is, that's why they are so afraid of us - one kiss and you need a whole new wardrobe, Baby! :lol:

A little twist on the old kiss a frog and make him a prince fairy tale - kiss a prince and turn him into a princess!

So that means that every time you two kiss you'll be changing genders again - male, female - female, male - male, female - oh your poor brains!

A view of transsexuality from the stupid side of the fence!

As I look around where I live, I long for the olden days when each village had only one idiot!

You will make it Nate and so will James, it just takes time and as young as you are that is one your side!

A little wit (very little) and wisdom (even less) from Sally.

*gigglesnort* Oh that made me laugh. xD I envisioned the whole scene while I read your post...wouldn't it be nice if a magic kiss could truly turn you into the opposite sex though? ;]

Thank you Sally, you're so sweet. Don't doubt yourself, it was very witty and quite a brilliant little story. :lol: You made me smile dear!

Nat

Hang in there sweet - you know who you are, that's what's important

Lizzy

Thanks Liz, you're a doll. ^^ You're all so nice. Just talking to you cheers me up. :3

Link to comment
Guest bronx

I started to live ful time as a male a little over 10yrs ago, I 've been on T for almost 2yrs. Not that many people know that I'm trans except for my imediate family, and my two best friends, but I've known them for about 20 yrs.

Link to comment
  • 1 month later...
Guest Neuro

Just on this forum. Starting to have, in therapy... hopefully soon, I can dress full-time at the very least.

Funny story, though--I was at the mall in pretty androngynous clothes for a 'girl,' baggy pants, sneakers, layered shirts with some anime character on then and my normal messy hair x glasses... Passing as an ordinary nerd in FYE or gamestop etc etc. I felt really good, my mom knew it--She asked, "Are you on a stealth mode or something?"

I shook my head no, she went on with "You don't look like your Sarah self today.")

Which makes me happy, to have a conversation about xBOX vs PS3 in a real guy-on-guy chat in the store, whoa; I have arrived *dons dazzling crown of far from manliness*

.........................................Until my mom yells, "SARAH! WE LOST YOUR SISTERS!! COME EAT, HONEY!!"

Me: .......

Them: Mike?

Me: Igottago *speeds* "Sarah, sarah--"

Them: gotta find your sister Sarah?

Me: NAH, It's ok, I gotta find her myself! *dash*

Them: ...*goes back to work*

That, AND an incident in line where three girls were watching me from the food court--my mom overheard them saying--"He's kind of cute. In the glasses. Kinda short, but isn't that *so and so*'s type?" "You can't date a nerdy guy like that, but he's a cute type"

Me: *pretends not to hear, leans casually against steaming hot frying oven to look cooler*

Frantically during leaving thru Sears, Mother was practically throwing dresses and skirts at me to try on 'the cuteness.' I just told her it wasn't my style, and that we can't afford it. I think she is catching on.

Once she catches on, I wonder if she will allow me freedom to dress more like a man... or use proper bathrooms... My transition is just starting, so strangers know. But the people I keep closest do not acknowledge its importance. YET! I don't think I can hide it much longer, unh it gives me a stomachache~~

Link to comment
  • 2 weeks later...
Guest Angelgrlsue

I am only out to my therapist, support group and all of you here at Laura's. I may be coming out to my best friend this week. Not sure how to go about telling him though, by email or in person.

Link to comment
  • 1 month later...
Guest Joanna Phipps

started full time June 12 and havent looked back, yep still not on 'mones but that should come in a couple months. So happy to not have to walk the gender line anymore

Link to comment
Guest Sophie Jean
Kia Ora,

I often read posts where posters talk about being ‘out’ but then they go on to say “but I’m still in male/female mode for certain people/appearances!"…

So the idea of this poll is to see how many of you are actually ‘out’ 24/7,ie, where ones former male/female/ personas are dead and gone-that is, you are living ‘full time’ as your affirmed gender…with or without a legal name change or surgery...

Metta Jendar :)

Jendar,

I hate to say this, but you need more options. I live about 25% in female mode, at night, when I get up and we aren't expecting visitors, support group, counseling and church. Sometimes, I am invited to activities where I attend in female mode. If I have to make stops at the library or the store when I'm already dressed full out, it doesn't stop me. I spend most of my weekend time in casual female clothing when at home.

About a third of my coworkers know I'm transgendered, but don't know I'm transsexual, as I hide my breasts as well as I can under my work clothes. I typically wear polo shirts with slacks for the androgynous look at work, and I usually go out androgynous on the weekend when going out with the family. Of course, today I was mistaken at a distance for being female, because as I was standing outside the Ladies room waiting for my daughter I was asked how many stalls there were. Even the CTO of my company has known about me for 6 months and the HR director is waiting for me to contact him.

All in all, I think you will find answers to this question probably as varied as number of people who are in mid-transition.

Oh, and I almost forgot, there may be about a 1,000 people and 42 cast members in DFW who met Sophie, as I performed at the monologues in March.

Sophie

Link to comment

I agree with Sophie Jean, you need some more options up there, although I don't need any others for myself. If 'out' = stealth (but that's a question for another day), then I'm 100%.

Link to comment
Guest Lizzie McTrucker
Which makes me happy, to have a conversation about xBOX vs PS3 in a real guy-on-guy chat in the store, whoa; I have arrived *dons dazzling crown of far from manliness*

.........................................Until my mom yells, "SARAH! WE LOST YOUR SISTERS!! COME EAT, HONEY!!"

...omg that had to have been embarrassing.

My father never ceases to point out to me women with, as he puts it, "big hooters". Every time he does I want to crawl under a rock and die. lol

Link to comment
Guest Zenda

Kia Ora,

Sally could you please add the following to the poll options....

25-50% of the time-outside work/school/etc mainly in home environment

Thanks Sally... Sorry no more chocolate cake, but here a nice piece of 'tofu' steak with mint peas and kumara[sweet potato] chips and for desert Kiwi fruit cheese cake- yummy ;):D

Metta Jendar :)

Link to comment
Guest angie
Kia Ora Jane,

:rolleyes: I'm in the same boat, for me to 'come out' means I'll be telling someone that I was born with a penis/a male...

I guess we came out of one 'closet'with ["Hey I'm transsexual!"] and then slip quietly back into another[stealth or semi stealth]... so to speak... :D

Metta Jendar :)

I have a feeling that is the path I am taking.After two years of living female,all I want to do is

assimilate into my new role completely.Leave my past,just that in my past.My family and friends

will know who I used to be,but I want the world to only see a woman.I now understand(stealth)

and why so many of us choose to be.If questioned about if I am a transsexual,I/am,will be honest.

If not,and they wonder about my gender,leave them guessing.I have a long way to go.Still a preop.

So I don't know how I will be after surgery.

Angie

Link to comment
Guest ashley4623

I'm only out to all of my really close friends. I've been blessed that they're so accepting of it.

I do however still need to let my parents know...

...and as far as transitioning I haven't really begun that yet (other than like my voice and other non physical things). If I could physically transition now, I would do it RIGHT NOW but... ahh its just so hard to get everything moving sometimes. As much as I NEED and WANT to, it's just not happening yet :( *tear* ...

I really really need a lot of support if I'm going to succeed in this, which is something I hope I can get with my parents--that's why I'm so afraid of talking to them about it. I also still need to find a therapist, but there's so many around here that I don't know which one to pick (lol). I want to start hormones sooo bad.

~Ashley

Link to comment
Guest CharlieRose
My father never ceases to point out to me women with, as he puts it, "big hooters". Every time he does I want to crawl under a rock and die. lol

Lol, that's like the funniest thing I've ever heard. I can just picture you. "Sure, dad. Thanks."

I am delighted to tell you all that now that I've quit my job, filed my name change papers and COME OUT TO MY ENTIRE FAMILY I can now check the box that says 100% 24/7!!!!!

Everyone's been really supportive, I only get called my girl's name by accident now. I wear guys clothes, go in the guys' bathroom, just am a guy all the time and don't have to worry about it or stew about it in my head. Hoor-rah!

Link to comment
Guest Cody_T

I'm really not very out and it's kind of weird. I'm planning to come out to at least my friends and immediate family pretty soon. I'm already out to like 5 of my best friends, my parents, and a pflag. That's about it.

It's gonna be weird, because my parents seem to want me to start T soon (which of course, I want to) but they also don't want anyone to know I'm trans, including my brothers, sister, and friends. And I'm holding off on telling my casual friends for a bit because they're all friends and one of them plays euchre, and it's really hard to find people who play around here. So I'd rather not jeopardize that situation based on a bad reaction. Trust me this is a good reason ;)

Link to comment
Guest Anne_

I'm only out here and with my therapist, my family, and two very close friends. I want to be more out, but at least for now I can't really be. Looking forward to when I can be dressing and be a woman openly.

Link to comment
Guest (Lightsider)
I am out to 5 friends and FINALLY my mom :D

I only out to those that need to know...my Dr. my clergy. Endo. another trans friend and my sister. As far as i am concerned my trans status is no ones business.

Link to comment
Guest Zenda
I only out to those that need to know...my Dr. my clergy. Endo. another trans friend and my sister. As far as i am concerned my trans status is no ones business.

Kia Ora Lightsider,

:rolleyes: What does this mean??? Are you living 'fulltime' as a 'female' or just part-time =still in male mode and only out to the above mentioned or are they the only ones that know of your 'male' past???...

Metta Jendar :)

Link to comment
Guest Joanna Phipps
Kia Ora,

I often read posts where posters talk about being 'out' but then they go on to say "but I'm still in male/female mode for certain people/appearances!"…

So the idea of this poll is to see how many of you are actually 'out' 24/7,ie, where ones former male/female/ personas are dead and gone-that is, you are living 'full time' as your affirmed gender…with or without a legal name change or surgery...

Metta Jendar :)

Well since the option for 90-95% didnt exist I got a wee bit more conservative. The only place I'm not fully out is at work but that is about to change. How far out am I?? well that would depend who you ask.. some would say I'm far out man... yipes that hung a date on me... 

At home its 100% and around town 100% and over the next weeks it will be moving to 100% at work as well (the manager knows and is 100% behind it)

Link to comment
Guest Joanna Phipps
I only out to those that need to know...my Dr. my clergy. Endo. another trans friend and my sister. As far as i am concerned my trans status is no ones business.

The problem is that the more you try to hide it, the more demanding its going to get. I burried mine for 50 years (not that successfully at all) but once i was diagnosed and came out to a few people things just took on a life of their own.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   6 Members, 0 Anonymous, 95 Guests (See full list)

    • Abigail Genevieve
    • April Marie
    • Ivy
    • Mmindy
    • Ashley0616
    • Vidanjali
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      769.2k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,053
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Luna29
    Newest Member
    Luna29
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. ciara
      ciara
    2. Jamieleann
      Jamieleann
      (62 years old)
    3. Lukey19252
      Lukey19252
      (22 years old)
    4. Maye
      Maye
      (66 years old)
    5. Spirefreedom
      Spirefreedom
      (21 years old)
  • Posts

    • Abigail Genevieve
      That's very common in internet forums and it is hard not to take it personally sometimes.   You might post "bump" with a smiley face to bring it to the top of the stack, or you might use the @ feature if there are certain people you would really like to have comment on it, and say something like Dear Abby, I would really like your input on this.  Please take a minute and respond.  Thanks!!!
    • Mmindy
      The same for me... That's exactly were MmIndy came from. I started choosing female skins as soon as they became available in the few games I played.   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • FinnyFinsterHH
      I recently made my own packer, it only a sock but is there any recommendation for brands to buy when i can gain acess to actual one? My euphria has never been better but only able to do in private.   
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Amazed my relationship with my boyfriend is going well.He is the first guy that has shown he loves and accepts me for who I am.My 2 friends from my Army years came up this morning and did meet him as well.Both said he is a keeper.We have a good friendship that is tight.I credit them for convincing me to come out 21 years ago,saw I had a secret that I was bottling up that needed to come out
    • Mmindy
      Something else I noticed @Ladypcnj Since I use the Unread tab, I don't see threads I've read again until someone replies to it, or the author adds something.   Hugs,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Mmindy
      Good morning @Ladypcnj   Some posts get lost in the busy times here. It also maters how people navigate the site. Some only look at their notifications, or tap the All Activity tab which shows them thread they've commented on. (how I see it)... I on the other hand use the Unread tag under Activity. I don't think people ignore post as much as they get caught up reading threads they've already been active in.   Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Ladypcnj
      What to do if post is being ignored? 
    • Ivy
      LOL.  I have done this more than once.
    • Vidanjali
      Thank you for everything you do, @Petra Jane & great thanks to the generosity of The Breast Form Store! It is a pleasure to contribute & I hope many others will as well. Bless you.
    • Willow
      Oh yeah, I forgot,    @awkward-yet-sweetwhen your husband finally breaks down and decides to replace the stoves I agree a single professional stove even out of a defunct restaurant might well be the way to go when cooking for all those kids and adults. Certainly better that the situation you describe.  Or maybe from a used restaurant supply where they have professionally cleaned and refurbished it.
    • Willow
      Wow, yesterday was a very active day.     @Birdie I hope they figure out where that’s coming from and get you heeled quickly. That it’s nothing serious.  Maybe going to the day care with a purewick will finally convince them to change their attitude.   @MaeBe  especially if you believe you are about to loose your job anyway, what’s to keep you in Minnesota ?  This could be a wonderful thing for all of you Washington State can be wet but it’s really not as bad as it’s made out to be.  If you are west of the cascades it is relatively mild not like MN in the winter time.  And east of the cascades it’s rather desert like around Yakima.     New car shopping can be fun but it can be very stressful too.  We talked about it over lunch yesterday. Strange thing is she kept coming back to the old Ford.  My response was instead of two car payments there woul only be one although I would expect it to be a little higher, but not nearly what two would add up .  Plus I wouldn’t have to continue working as long with only one as when I get the other things paid off I know we can live without me working.  Unless of course, the congress decides to mess with social security.  Right now I have three vehicles I want to look at two are at one dealer and the third at another.  All three are GMs two are newer with lower mileage but are also lower end on the GM line.  The third which is the one that most interests me is a Cadillac.  Let’s see there is a song from way back about a Cadillac and a Hot Rod Lincoln comes to mind.  Anyway it is an XT-5. I get my room and comfort, she gets her nice appointments and the ford hopefully will hang on as a spare for those occasions when we need a second car for me to go to work and for her to do ??  The downside is it has just under 80,000 miles and is a 2020 so in that regard we are slipping backwards from a 2022 with 25000  but going from a sub-compact to a mid-size.  The other two are a compact and a Midsize but neither would provide the expected comfort and features of the Cadillac.  The biggest of which are the pedals that would adjust and the seat adjustments. (My wife is 4’ 10” and I am 5’8” since my spine has shrunk.  The Caddy also has the lane safety as well as front and rear collision warning.  The mileage will go down and the engine requires higher octane gas but that won’t be too much of a drag since we can go to Murphy USA where I work or to Costco which isn’t that far away. 10 miles.  And it’s better than the Ford!   I guess we will see how this plays out later.   Willow
    • Mmindy
      Two things amaze me, One how fast short haired dogs dry. Two how did you keep from loosing your glasses? I'm glad you wear a life jacket while kayaking even on smooth waters such as ponds or lakes. I'm guessing you learned a few things about landing and exiting the kayak.    Hugs,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Lorelei
      Aside from the X-Files, Gilmore Girls is easily my favorite TV show. I originally watched the original airing in the commuter lounge at my college starting in 2000 because I was embarrassed to watch it at home when I living as a man. Now that I am out and transitioned, I watch it openly and wear Gilmore Girls t-shirts at work on days that I wear a skirt. For Valentine’s Day, my wife bought me the DVD’s. Yesterday I had to stay at work late because of an IT problem (I am not IT so I just had to make sure the pump stations telemetry was functioning properly before I could leave, IT did the actual work) and so I watched it on Netflix. Lorelai Gilmore inspired me to change my name to Lorelei. Yes, I picked a more traditional spelling on the name. The mother daughter interaction between them is heartwarming and sometimes hilarious. Last week I just started rewatching it again. Ironically I relate most to Luke, very rare as I almost always relate to a female character. Anyone else here love the show?
    • Mmindy
      Good morning everyone,   @Birdie continued prayers for you as they figure thing out. I'm glad you're being properly cared for.   @April Marie I love the pageantry of the Kentucky Derby the bright dresses, and fascinating hats worn by the ladies. As for the mint juleps... I'll pass, they're just to aromatic for me.  We'll be watching "The Fastest Two Minutes in Sports" as well.   @Adrianna Danielle & @awkward-yet-sweet it is amazing how a new stove seems to cook food better. Cooking for 36 people is a phenomenal task, and if you're doing it on anything less than a professional cook stove. You're preforming miracles, and I wish you the best.   My yard work is done for the day, because I don't have to wait until Saturday to do it. I'm getting use to this mostly retired situation. The windows and doors have been open since I first got up and the yard is full of bird songs. I have the best neighbors because they don't start their noisy yard work until very late morning or early afternoon.   Hugs,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • April Marie
      Oooh, that still sounds chilly!!! Our pool was opened yesterday and it's a brisk 59 deg.
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...