A cool/funny thing

[Guest]

yesterday I had a meeting with my big boss to talk about a raise. We talked and he seemed really concerned with how I was doing with all that transition stuff, he asked me how I was doing with others, are they treating me well, etc. At one point he told me I had to improve my "aggresive" behavior when someone make a judgment or criticize me in my work. I always had issue with that because Marie was in prison and could not respond or improve on those critics. (I worked a lot on that this pass year, this is kind of a part of my transition for me, improving in those area) That time I took it well, good news. I also said jokingly (please don't be mad at me) that maybe this will improve from now on for chimical reasons.

He seem to have read about the transgender topic because he immediately understood I was in HRT and he was very curious. I thought it was cute. I answered all his questions.

As I got out of his office I could not believe it. I was afraid of losing my job and there I was out of a meeting with my big boss who was not only accepting but extra curious and engaged in my transition. lol

[Guest Mickey]

That's wonderful Marie. I love it when somebody is interested in truly learning. I had a really good conversation with a friend on Fascebook yesterday. He was wanting to know more and did not want to be offensive towards me. He was very polite and I answered all of his questions as best I could. Making new allies every chance I get is kinda fun sometimes.

[Guest Jamie61]

I second that! It's great when people truly want to know more! I'll bet that you being you helps your employer make better decisions and produce better results!

Happy for you!

Jamie

[Guest Carla_Davis]

Hi Marie,

I am very happy to read that Marie is doing so well on your transition.

I am also very happy to read that your boss is a Ally for you, and very supportive of you

Your being happy at work, will be more productive for your employer.

I wish you Continued Success, and Happiness in your Journey.

Hugs,

Carla

[Charlize]

I'm glad you are getting the support at work you need and if your like me simply leaving the stress of living a lie behind has improved my mood. The E may help as well but, having been taken off on occasion for health reasons, my mood is still better than it was when i was lying about myself and hiding in shame. The sunshine simply feels good.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest Kayla Grace]

I had a similar experience. I was pulled into HR for "a chat" with my bosses employers. Ironically, I had forgotten that I was the one that asked to see HR because I had to tell them that I would be starting to implement the changes, so I flat out asked "I know this is unprofessional for me to ask, but am I in trouble?"

He laughed. Told me that he hadn't heard anything bad about me (and generally no news is good news), and he knew coming into the chat what I was telling him. He told me that he was all for my transition. He had already unlocked the door to the women's bathroom (that was storage for the straps we use for the tractor trailers; under lock and key) without my even bringing it up. I found that very professional and curteous of him although I expected no less at the very least. He asked anything that they could do to accommodate me he would do. I decided to test my luck and ask him jokingly if I could have a raise and full time status. He said that it's not his decision since my company is owned by a bigger one, but fingers crossed that if fulltime status comes up, I can snag it.

Ramble Ramble, sorry, I may have highjacked your thread XD I'm truly happy that you've found a friend in the big boss. It certainly helps the transition

God Bless

Natalya <3

P.S. did you get the raise?

[Guest rexxmarksley]

It's nice to know that someone is interested in what you have to say and wants to know more.

Best of luck,

Aaron

[Guest]

P.S. did you get the raise?

yes yes I got it

[Guest]

^^^ :thumbsup: ^^^

[Guest Jamie61]

Yay! That great!

[Guest Kayla Grace]

yes yes I got it

[StephanieVikingGirl]

Thats so groovy Marie,

It is so good to have support at work, congrats. I am lucky in that as well, and I am frankly amazed at how it feels.

hugs,

Stephanie

[Guest KerryUK]

I've found as well, that the majority of people are really interested but afraid to ask (obviously). Sometimes, when I have felt that the time is right, I have brought the subject up. It's amazing to see the relief on their faces because suddenly, here is somebody who is going through the transition and who is willing to answer questions about it. I answer as much as I can and I always explain that I am more than willing to answer questions so long as they are respectful. I also reassure them by saying that nobody has yet managed to offend me whilst asking questions.

I am a Transwoman and no amount of HRT, voice training or surgery will ever change that (unfortunately). Nor am I ashamed to be trans - it's taken me a long time to come to this frame of mind - part of the reason for this has been society's reluctance to accept trans people (through lack of understanding). Now that society is slowly changing, I don't see why I shouldn't do my part to help society improve further (in my small way).