How Big Problem Is A Heavy Skeleton For A Man Who Wants To Go Through Transition?

[Guest EllenM]

Goeden dag ! Ellen,

It's possible Sakis's English is not fluent enough for her to express in the correct term when describing her gender disphoric state.

Ellen your English is great by the way...mind you most Dutch people I met when living in Holland spoke 'better english than me does!"

Metta Jendar

BTW,

Where and when have you lived here?

XX Oh sorry in Holland we do 3 X remember.

Ellen

[Guest EllenM]

Hi Metta Jendar,

What you mentioned can be the case. But I still think that finding an qualified Gender therapist will be the first thing to do for Sakis.

There is so mutch one can do to become more female before taking any kind of "medicine".

What do you thinK?

Well about my English, in the workinggroups a participated for the last 20 year, thay called it Dutshlish!!

Maybe the Duth are to much direct to the point. But all my friends and colleguas helped me to make my writings correct English. By the time they finished with that I have no clue what I said ;-)

In many cases in the past few years when I was asked "where do you live"I answered KLM Airlines Row 7 seat C. That was not of the truth, maybe a only a sew rows :-)

Kind Ellen

Sorry for the typo's Dutshlish=Dutchlish, Duth= Dutch, not of=not far of, sew=few

Oops doing to many things at the same time.

Ellen

[Guest Zenda]

Kia ora,[Hoe gaat 't ?] Ellen,

You are right Sakis should find a good therapist but I think Sakis is like many who are just coming to terms with their true self- embarrassment, guilt, and fear of humiliation and of the unknown is stopping them from doing this. However when Mother Nature decides it's time ie, she turns up the 'mental' pressure to 'conform' they will have no choice.

From what I gather The Netherlands along with Scandinavian countries is in the forefront when it comes to treatment of transgender people [even Germany I believe has got a reasonable standard of care in place]...the Human Rights Commission here in Aotearoa [NZ] is looking at ways of improving the 'standard of care' for Kiwi transgender people. At the moment it's not bad but could do with improvement.

I lived in Rotterdam back in the late 1970's I have fond memories of Holland, I remember seeing UB40 perform at a free concert, I can't remember if it was in Den Hauge or Amsterdam-all I can remember is it was an open air concert ! [This was before they became famous].

Your Dutchish is really good-much better than my Engutch...the similarities between English and Dutch still blows me away, for example " How late is it?" and "Where come you from then ?" It sounds almost the same in Dutch.

I take it you travel alot by air...Home/paradise is where you make it-be it an airline seat, hotel room or like myself in the paradise I call Waiheke Island where life 'shore' can be a 'beach'!

Tot Ziens

Metta Jendar

[Guest mak]

Hi to all again, I am back to the forum after quite a big period of absence...

During this period I continued the diet which I had started.... and now I weigh 97 kilos... when I first came to the forum I weighed 106 kilos and when I started the diet a few months ago I weighed 114 kilos...

Unfortunately after losing all this weight I realise more and more that I have a quite big and broad skeleton.....

After all I am no longer "fat"( as I said I weigh 97 kilos and my doctor says that I should weigh 91-97 kilos in order to have a "normal fat percentage") and yet I look bigger than most of the men I see around......

I feel quite disappointed since I am afraid that I will never "pass" as a woman...

On the other side the ( few ) "big" and "heavy" pretty women that I see make me think that possibly there is some hope for me..

[Guest Zenda]

Kia Ora Mak and congratulations on your weight 'reduction' REMEMBER you didn't lose weight you've just GAINED an healthier weight for your bone frame...Things are looking up for you and things can only get better...The type of clothes one wears can drastically change ones body shape and create an illusion regarding ones size...Lots of fashion shows on TV teach the art of deception-that is how to camouflage ones shape and size....I would suggest you watch fashion shows on Greek TV and buy some fashion magazines..plus it will help just by looking at other Greek women in the street who are similar in size to yourself and take note of what they are wearing...Life's full of opportunities good luck...and don't forget to THINK POSITIVE!

Metta Jendar

[Sakura]

dear friends

no one is cut from the same mold genetics are like the lottery some hit the jackpot others dont at this groupe i visit from time to time there are some very atractive tgirls there that are around 7ft and i would say 250 and pull being a woman off well. your expectations though do have to be realistic though look at what you have all your positive attributes and focuse on those dont worry agout the negative ones and hey if they negative ones bother you to much is why gawd invented FFS but ppl critize them selfs more than any one will like me for instance as woman go i am pretty attractive ppl are always telling me this the few t groupes i go to the girls there idolize me for how well i pass (i know shes so vaine) but i cant see it because i hange up on my own flaws just dont kick your self yet i mean you havnt even started transition yet who knows what you may get you could be the next big and tall supermodle

"shoot for the moon even if you miss atleast you will land among the stars "

Jennifer 'Sakura" NVM