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Liz (that's me) had a date yesterday.


Guest Lizzie McTrucker

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

The rumors are true! Believe the hype! Grasp your pearls in shock and disbelief!

Liz went on a date yesterday afternoon and....it was okay. I didn't see fireworks or wedding bells but it was okay.

So I had been talking to this guy for a few days on OKCupid (I know, I know...) and we seemed to really hit it off well so I suggested we meet up Monday afternoon. Monday morning came and we still hadn't decided on a place, so I took to Yelp and looked for most popular restaurants. One that kept sticking in my mind was Frenchy's and since I had never been, and I was in the mood for seafood, it seemed like a great idea so that's what I proposed to him. Also it's half-way between us so that would be fair for driving. We agreed to meet for a late lunch around 3:30.

Then I had to figure out what to wear. (girlmergency!...or was it?) Well, that was pretty easy. It's chilly out! I'm definitely not wearing a tank top in this weather, so boring t-shirt it is, with hoodie over it and jeans. Since I'm meeting 'some boy' I decided to go traditional girl and wear my hair down and since it's casual, my typical day time makeup routine. Easy peasy!

He arrived about a half hour early because he didn't want to be late, so of course that meant him waiting on me. (typical Liz, always making the guy wait for her). So I pulled up and since Frenchy's is on the beach, I found a pretty awesome public parking spot where I didn't have to feed a parking meter. (Yeah!)
We finally found each other and hung out outside for a few minutes just in case he took one look at me and wanted to be like "nope!" and leave.

Since he didn't want to leave, we went inside and Frenchy's is a very casual beach restaurant. We sat inside because it's chilly and we ordered. Our awesome waitress of course took my order first (ladies first, naturally) and I opted for the blackened grouper sandwich and he had a blackened chicken sandwich. I also ordered this bacon-wrapped scallop appetizer that was fantastic!

So anyway, we ate...and talked...then after paying the bill (he paid! *swoon*) we walked on the beach for a little bit and sat down on some beach chairs and talked for a little bit. After a little while he hinted at wanting to get going so we started to stand up but were then sidetracked by some kind of thing going on at a hotel next door so we just stood and watched and tried to figure out what the heck was going on over there.

We finally walked back to my car and I put my purse inside. We hung out and talked for a little bit, not really wanting to say goodbye. He hinted at wanting to kiss me but didn't want to move too fast because he remembers from my profile that I'm a bit of an old fashioned kind of girl. I told him I wouldn't mind (it's just a kiss, I mean hello!) and it would be 6 weeks before he sees me again. I think that was the motivation he needed to go ahead and make his move to kiss me. It was either that or after I showed him my tongue ring. No, I think that made him think some impure thoughts where he had to take a few steps away and calm something of his down. (Liz, you're a naughty girl) I'm a horrible tease.

Anyway, he went for it (I love a guy who makes the first move.) and we kissed a few times and that was nice. He didn't go wild and crazy with the tongue and he wasn't all sloppy saliva either. It was nice! It was enjoyable.

Soooo...that's it! Then as he walked back to his car, I hopped into mine, let my mom know that I was done and heading home and took off.

The end.....until February when I'm home next. ;)

p.s. forgot to mention: he knew I'm transgender from the first time he messaged me

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I just love reading of your escapades. If that trucking thing don't work out, maybe writing would be a good option for ya. But I hope that you at least make a stop in Memphis so we can do lunch sometime, before you start your career as an author. ;)

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It sounds like you had such a lovely time.

I loved this: I think that was the motivation he needed to go ahead and make his move to kiss me. It was either that or after I showed him my tongue ring. No, I think that made him think some impure thoughts where he had to take a few steps away and calm something of his down. (Liz, you're a naughty girl) I'm a horrible tease.

​I'll be smiling through the day.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Awww... Warm tummy, warm heart, sweet kisses, no cow licking, no bulldozering, conversation and he has ears!

"And the score from the Judge's table? A win!!!" Hug. JodyAnn

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Groovy date Liz!,

Thanks for sharing, it sounds like a nice time. Alex, and I are both glad that we found each other without needing to go into the dating scene, it can be hard for us trans folk. I love reading your posts, you do write very well, and entertainingly. :)

hugs,

Stephanie

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

i had no luck on okcupid. the guys who contacted me all wanted sex i got fed up after a while and deleted the profile

Oh, I get those, too. Trust me, I get those A LOT. I just ignore them. The really bad ones I show to my friends (after covering up their name).

I also get a lot of one-word "hey" messages. I don't respond to those either.

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Guest Jamie61

Humm I wonder what all that dating stuff would feel like as my true self... Since most everything else seem better, more real, I would imagine it would feel very special, especially if things went well (romantically).

Happy for you girl!

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I've been on OkCupid for some time. Since I'm in Spain, and that site is English only, that already acts as a demographic filter: only people with some basic skills in English will have profiles there. This may exclude some genuinely interesting people, but also leaves out a lot of boring "macho ibérico" guys. Also, I love the site's option "I don't want to see or be seen by straight people." Again, this may exclude some interesting users, but that's the price for keeping a lot of annoying ***** at bay. I've found some interesting people and had a few friendly meetings, but no actual "dates" through that site.

I also have a profile on Badoo, and that's a whole different thing: the site is available in Spanish, and there are very few filtering options, which means a larger user base (at least in my area) and an awful noise/signal ratio: For each message worth replying, I get like a hundred worth blacklisting. No "dates" so far on this site either, and only have had one meeting, but I won't shut any door.

In summary: the best thing about personal contact sites is that you can find all kinds of people there; and the worst thing about those sites is that you can find all kinds of people there.

I'm glad your date went well, Liz. Will you let us know if there is a follow up?

Hugs,

Edu

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Guest Kayla Grace

funny you should mention a date, Lizzie. I actually went on one last Sunday and it went great. I was going to post my own topic to not derail your thread, but I think it's great. I also want a tongue ring as well :D

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Guest KerryUK

Wow, thanks for sharing Liz, you girl - ROCK (sorry for shouting excitedly).

I really enjoyed reading about your date and he sounds like quite a Gentleman (there don't seem to be many of those around these days) AND a nice kisser too. Wowzers. I'll bet you are counting the minutes let alone the days. Good for you Liz - I'm thrilled for you.

Kerry x

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