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Out To My Mom


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After a week of leading up to it I came out to my mom last night. It was a wonderful experience both in coming out to someone and having them accept me for who and what I am. My mom was also able to better understand why I did some of the things I did in my past. The only thing that dissappointed/upset her was that she has known something has been bothering me for 10 years and she couldn't do anything. Well, that and be being a smaller size than her she didn't like to hear that. She told me that she needs some time to come to terms with all of this but after that she will be there for me 100%. While im not surprised that she was so supportive it sure feels great.

--Anthelia

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Congrats Anthelia, i know how hard that probably was for you, but now your mom is relieved she knows what was bothering all those years. Give her all the time she needs, the book True Selves may help her understand better.

HUGS!

Paula

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Congratulations, that is fantastic.

A huge hug for you and your mom.

{{{{HUGG}}}}

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Anthelia

Thanks all. I am now officially out to another person, my step-dad. My mom wanted someone to talk to that wasn't me and I gave her permission to tell him. He is very supportive as well, as long as it is what I really want. Hopefully the other people I tell are as supportive, sadly listening to other peoples experiences im not going to get my hopes too high.

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You are doing so well!

These are the most important people in your life right now and for both of them to be supportive of you and willing to work together for you - that is huge!

Let me just touch you - what a lucky streak!

I have an extra hug sitting here and I think, I'll use it on you, Come here!

{{{{{{{{{{Hugg!!!!!!!}}}}}}}}}}}

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Angelgrlsue

Congradulations Anthelia!. You are doing great. Telling your mom was a big step and you did it. I'm happy for you sis. Big hug from me too.

Hugs,

Suzie

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Guest Sophie H

Well done and congratulations Anthelia. That is a big step you have taken and I am proud of you. She will need time to come to terms with it like you said, but I think anyone who didn't need time would not have really taken onboard what was said.

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Guest Anthelia

Thanks all, the last person that I semi-care about his reaction I have left to tell is my Dad. Honestly I am not sure how he will react, he is saying the same things as my mom regarding accepting me for who I am no matter what I do. Whats really nice is my mom is starting when we talk to mention me as her daughter or use the proper pronouns when refering to me or call me in a name that I have been seriously contemplating.

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