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Guest Chad Micheals

i have been goen away form my family for so long for abotu 4 yrs with the miltiary and i just want home on Leave R&R form iarq and i coem out to my family..

i was thinkign the worst, but its ended up my mom and big briother was to much in to there own drama to give me the time of day about that was going on with me. the rest fot he family changed over to chad as if it was just another day and life want on. i'm not sure if this is great or worst then thinkign i was going to shot at.

if being trans ftm better then having a gay duaghter??

my unlce says he going to be there with me when i come hoem next time and come out to grandma with him there as suppot. i guess the joe great as gay unlce in the world. i'm not sure mom will ever even leason to me after her drama is done i just about to give up there.

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Guest Donna Jean

Welcome home, Chad!

So good to see you back in the real world..

Well, your mom may be denying who you are and she may in time get through that...

In the meantime it's wonderful that the others accepted you and your uncle is a peach! Good for you,Hon!

Enjoy your time home and after your tour...come back to us safe and sound......OK?

With Love

Dona Jean

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Hey Chad, good to hear from you again.

Sounds like a mixed bag at home but you have some support so that is good, now just be careful until you finish your tour - be careful after that but of different things, Iowa is a lot different from Iraq! :D

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest angie

Your family members are going through the grieving process.

It was hard enough to accept a gay daughter,now to say you are really a boy,throws another

curve ball at them.Give them time,they will see you.The old you essentially dies in their eyes.

That takes time to process.Welcome to manhood,I am sure you will find it peaceful being who

you know you are.Ending the gender conflict is huge to we trans.Finding acceptance is a bonus.

Angie

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Guest Chad Micheals

UPDATE

ok on the family drama of comign otu its one big long story to go throw..

i was travelign 6 day with little to no sleep trying to get hope to see and take care of my family.. and meet my mom's now hubby side note i liek him and he calls me chad now very good man. mom was ther with sean(little bro) and hubby. my greabed me with me in unifrom still crying the 1st time i've seen her cry ever in my life. then we want out to eat and got me home.

two days later i take mom out for her wedding gift form me and part of my spa day for my self too (guys do them too). so i did full body message and she did nails and feet with me after we eat form my massage... she was liek when did u start being grl... i;m seeing there half binded, short gi cut and just boy out.. its seems like nothugn i did to make her pre=wedding any fun for her was nothign cus i was not ther for the weddign it self..

that night i was talkign to the hubby about how i was feleign abotu mom and come out to her.. he liek she not going to be any better u know who u are and u should be happy about that adn keep ur head down when goign back to hell. he helped me a person and even talked to him why i've left my faith for another and was getting in deep talking to him.. someone that goen before me in this hell and he better for it.

so the whole tiem i;m chad to the rest fo the family but mom and then my big brother travis coem in the house jsut mad as hell but at his baby moma drama he dealign with. he took me out for a beer that night and hang out with =old friends.. its the 1st time i sat with my big brother and talked liek as humans do.. no fighting just talking and me tellin him soem of the drama of day to day life in iarq.. him telling me abiout his soon to be bron son. to bad the kid was bron after i had to go back..

i want up to MI to see my uncle an he took me out to nice bruch wioth soem frineds of his and one of mine.. i asked me striaght out if he was gay just to finlly find out or not.. he was liek yes sarah i am i thougth everyone knew.. i' told him his sister my mom was still guessign u may have to tell her... he luaghed and we started to talk abotu what i've been doign and where i;ve seen beign overseas with the army.. then his frineds so cute cuples coem over Joe startres to stay srah but tell him sorry its chad i go by adn its nice to meet u both... not sure that best way bit he like ok chad.. i tell him what i;ve been feeling for while and he calls me chad form then on and i help him understand more abotu trans and the isusses of mialitray adds to it all. he tell me to =nopt worry abotu his sister just try to talk to her again net time i;m home with is in 7 months time.. he also told me to come out to grandma she know soemthign up with me and i need to just tell her.. we talked about bars and places to go and see.. he going to show me around when i up in MI next time i['m home.. maybe fidn soem fun too lol

then i got on fligth back to this fun of FOB Kalsu iarq and i missed my battles the whole time i was hoem iots maddign that that

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hey chad, seems like most of your family is ok with it all

you mum will come around eventually

do you have to hide yourself away in the army?

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You are getting there and the fact that you have some support is so much better than none and with your new dad being OK with it - he might lay a little ground work for you before you get back again.

Take care of yourself over there and don't worry about things at home, they just might be better the next visit.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Chad Micheals
hey chad, seems like most of your family is ok with it all

you mum will come around eventually

do you have to hide yourself away in the army?

i dod have top hidn in the army but i love my job.. i do plam on gettign top donw while in but under that table big time... i have to hide part of my self whiel i fightignt i protcet this country and my fellow buddies.. it suxs realy thinkign about it.. when i do my name change then top.. i'll get weird looks but i don;t care i know i'm good soldier and knwo how to take care of the soldier under my cammand.. i look forward tot he day i can just be chad 24/7 as male and not haev to lose my job over it.. but untill then i choose to hind for the betterment of myself in the long run.. i got mad money coming in and i'm savign.. i'll have the cash to do all i need and house adn car and all that..

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