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3 hours ago, Abi said:

I doubt anyone really wants to listen to me complaining.

There's an old saying about how shared burdens are halved while shared joys are doubled. If you need to share your pain please share. I'm sure we'll all support you.

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4 hours ago, Abi said:

I doubt anyone really wants to listen to me complaining.

Sometimes it helps to get it out. 

Don't give up on yourself.  It's no solution.

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I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

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1 hour ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

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1 hour ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

I just logged in about an hour ago trying to catch up on about two days worth of posts as I was getting to the end of this thread was going to wish you luck and BAM, there you are posting you did well!  Congrats, I'm sure the physical discomfort will abide soon and the joy of not producing T will take over!  I'm a bit jealous and very happy for you.

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1 hour ago, Bri2020 said:

I just logged in about an hour ago trying to catch up on about two days worth of posts as I was getting to the end of this thread was going to wish you luck and BAM, there you are posting you did well!  Congrats, I'm sure the physical discomfort will abide soon and the joy of not producing T will take over!  I'm a bit jealous and very happy for you.

T has ruined my body. I'd love to rid myself of its mfg.

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@ElizabethStarwhen is the shower? I'm excited to hear how it goes. I'm sure it will be amazing

I can't wait to be invited to a bridal or baby shower.  I love everything about pregnancies and babies.  I used to be a RN specializing in pediatric ICU and often ended up floating over to the Neonatal unit.  There is just something so special about being part of a woman's journey of bringing a new life into the world and helping them care for it.  When I went into massage i continued by working with a lot of pregnant women on bedrest.  I can't really explain it but there's just an energy that they have that always made me feel better after working on them. Other patients would suck my energy dry but pregos would fill the space back up.  

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1 hour ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

 

Glad to hear it! Now lay back and be a princess for a couple of days and do whatever the doctor told you to. Your only job right now is healing and healing well. Congratulations!

 

Hugs!

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3 hours ago, Bri2020 said:

when is the shower? I'm excited to hear how it goes. I'm sure it will be amazing

I can't wait to be invited to a bridal or baby shower.

It's next Thursday at our main office. I know that makes it sound like it'll be very tame but we work in a high stress environment and we can get pretty wild. As long as customers don't find out we're good and pretty much anything goes. I work at one of those places.

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4 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

 

Congratulations Emily! Get some rest and give yourself time to heal.

 

I can't wait until I get my T production capability is removed.

 

Hugs,

Mike

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7 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

Good to read your update tonight, Emily. Take it easy and get some rest.?

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Things are changing.  Sunday evening I went shopping with a friend for a cabinet and some frozen meatballs.  A guy in a reflective vest at the entrance said " welcome to Ikea ladies"  (yes!)  I looked back to see if he wanted to correct himself or apologize...nope, not at all.  My friend was oblivious to my joy.  Then, on Monday I went to Harbor Freight for a battery charger, and the cashier asked "do you have a phone number with us ma'am?"  That was at close range too!  Again...no correction.  Weird how uplifting that can be...made me feel great! 

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10 hours ago, Emily michelle said:

I’m home now and on the couch relaxing. Everything went good. I had issues in recovery but it’s all better now 

That's great! Glad to hear it. Have a speedy recovery.

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3 hours ago, Ann W said:

Things are changing.  Sunday evening I went shopping with a friend for a cabinet and some frozen meatballs.  A guy in a reflective vest at the entrance said " welcome to Ikea ladies"  (yes!)  I looked back to see if he wanted to correct himself or apologize...nope, not at all.  My friend was oblivious to my joy.  Then, on Monday I went to Harbor Freight for a battery charger, and the cashier asked "do you have a phone number with us ma'am?"  That was at close range too!  Again...no correction.  Weird how uplifting that can be...made me feel great! 

 

Ahh! Good for them! I love it when strangers affirm my gender and I'm glad you got to experience it in the wild!

 

Hugs!

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3 hours ago, Ann W said:

Things are changing.  Sunday evening I went shopping with a friend for a cabinet and some frozen meatballs.  A guy in a reflective vest at the entrance said " welcome to Ikea ladies"  (yes!)  I looked back to see if he wanted to correct himself or apologize...nope, not at all.  My friend was oblivious to my joy.  Then, on Monday I went to Harbor Freight for a battery charger, and the cashier asked "do you have a phone number with us ma'am?"  That was at close range too!  Again...no correction.  Weird how uplifting that can be...made me feel great! 

That awesome especially when it happens up close.

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It appears I'm turning into an inspiring social media butterfly. I had posted that pic about the conversation with my HS friend on a FB group. The response was overwhelming and someone asked me to put up on Reddit. I had never played with reddit so I'm learning something new. The conversation picture appeared to only get a marginal response but there are so many people there that sound like they think it's too late for them to transition. I decided to go out on a limb and posted a before and after pic. I dug deep into my past and found a rare photo of myself from spring of '17, before my egg cracked and then took a quick selfie and put them side by side. In the title I outed my ages and how long I've been on HRT. The response and up-votes have been crazy. The best part is so many people are inspired to find themselves. I can't believe that 20 and 30 year olds think they're too old to start transitioning. WTH kind of mis-information out there? I know putting myself out there like that is a bit of a risk but if I can help other people, it's worth it.

 

 

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1 hour ago, ElizabethStar said:

I know putting myself out there like that is a bit of a risk but if I can help other people, it's worth it.

 

You go girl!  I've loved just watching you bloom in the last month or so.  I'm feeling a lot like you and want to help others transitioning but with covid restrictions so many avenues are closed for now. I'm trying not to get sucked down the online rabbit hole for time reasons. I had a large social media following of my football super fan personna so I periodically post there about trans issues but reaching out to that audience is more about trying to just be visible to so many people that probably never knew a transperson and I'm just trying to normalize it. I did sign my business up as a sponsor of our local pride event, I'm hoping it actually happens this year. 

Right now, I think the biggest thing I can do is just be really visible.  (which since I'm an extreme extrovert works for me hahaha.  I bet you all never guessed I was extroverted;) 

 

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Originally I said the same thing about myself that I was too old to transition and I was 32 at the time. From what I’ve learned no one is too old to be happy and live their authentic life. Luckily hrt does amazing things. I’m happy to hear you had such a positive response on Reddit all it takes is one post that could change someone’s life. It was one blog that changed mine it took reading it for me to realize transitioning is what I had to do.

 

Congrats Ann I’m so happy for you. It makes my day when someone calls me ma’am or lady. It makes me giggle like a school girl.

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In the spirit of before and after that @ElizabethStarmentioned.  Next week will be 6 months HRT for me and 7 month being out.  Here is one year ago today vs 3 days ago. The recent pic is sans makeup and just a "sport bra" with minimal padding.  

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Good news day

 

it seem like a lot of people are sharing good news today.  That always a wonderful start to the day, well that and a goo$ cup of Joe.  I’ll pile on, you can throw the penalty flag on it.  My surgeon has said I can stop wearing my air cast boot and go with a shoe now. Yeah!

 

on the bummer side,I have a 4 hour zoom meeting to attend in a little while.

 

keep the good news going and the coffee pot full and hot, I’m going to need it.

 

hugs

 

Willow

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5 hours ago, Ann W said:

Things are changing.  Sunday evening I went shopping with a friend for a cabinet and some frozen meatballs.  A guy in a reflective vest at the entrance said " welcome to Ikea ladies"  (yes!)  I looked back to see if he wanted to correct himself or apologize...nope, not at all.  My friend was oblivious to my joy.  Then, on Monday I went to Harbor Freight for a battery charger, and the cashier asked "do you have a phone number with us ma'am?"  That was at close range too!  Again...no correction.  Weird how uplifting that can be...made me feel great! 

Yea!!!!  Seriously though, I wish I had your facial bone structure. You totally pass in IMO.

I agree it's so uplifting.  I had to start some new bank accounts the other day at a new bank where they didn't know me and was treated with such respect with all proper pronouns.  I'm never sure in those situations whether I'm being treated like that because they do respect me or because I just dropped a large biz account in their laps.  I'm more excited when the experiences are more like yours, just ordinary people treating me with courtesy and respectfully.  I know that while I'm becoming more feminine it's still pretty clear I'm transgender so those signs of respect are genuine.

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Ann W, I know the feeling It is a great motivator to keep with your dreams.

 

Willow, great to hear about being able to take off the cast and get into shoes.

 

Emily, Great to hear your orci went good. relax and rest.

 

Well TGIF. We are supposed to get some white stuff. right now it is blue clouds and sunshine. Just about everyone at work is calling me Kym. No bad interactions.

 

Hugs to all.

 

Kymmie

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Well today started a little rough with a spilled coffee mug but that was fixed lol. Yesterday was my second day wearing nail polish at work and it’s been an excellent experience so far. One of my customers complimented my color choice. Led to us having a discussion about colors while I was doing my scanning and she made me promise to wear my favorite color when I go back next week. ?☺️

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2 hours ago, KymmieL said:

 

Well TGIF. We are supposed to get some white stuff. right now it is blue clouds and sunshine. Just about everyone at work is calling me Kym. No bad interactions.

Hooray ? for Kymmie! 

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